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Date or Soulmate - Part One

Ever ask yourself - what happened?

Five Common Signs that it is over:

1) The 180 degree personality change: You had no clue. Everything was going so well. Romantic bliss, and for the first time you felt as thought things were really going to work out with this person....But...

The possible cause...Cold feet when the relationship started to feel committed and more serious

Look on the bright side: Take comfort in... the fact that you learned sooner rather than later. It may seem like it came out of the blue, and it may have, but your partner was never ready for the kind of commitment you would like, and once he or she realized it, they let you go. While it hurts now, in the long run you will move on to relationships that are more in line with what you are looking for—on all levels.

2) The Slow Burn: Should have ended a long time ago, but persisted into a slow and agonizing confirmation that the relationship is just not working out. In these situations, both partners have their own individual degrees of unhappiness. Despite the relationship’s seriously degenerated quality, it never quite ends fully and jealousies of outside parties are common. Often the relationship will dissolve only because of developed interests in other potential mates

The posible cause..Not the right combination of compatibility and chemistry. Chemistry is physical attraction and compatibility is the personality traits and attributes that in the right combination can persevere through a lifetime.

Look on the bright side: You have experienced a tremendous learning experience by having shared your life with someone who has taught you a lot about love, life and yourself. As you heal from the relationship’s end, it is perfectly normal to miss your now ex-partner, but do know that the kind of love you’re looking for—the kind in which your partner feels the same about you as you do them—is out there.

3) Fade away...is that an Echo? The relationship that fades out into the distant echo of phone calls, e-mails and voicemails unreturned. Is there an echo in here? Surely when the phone stops ringing and days of silence, the end of a relationship is on the horizon

the possible cause: Numerous - with a distant-echo breakup. Sometimes the relationship is a casual one that never got serious enough to warrant the "relationship label." Other times the relationship may have started out intensely, but now has suddenly come to a crashing halt. Whichever, the relationship has already ended —they just haven’t told you. When interest plummets, these guys and gals let time be their distance and silence their way of coping with the uncomfortable idea of delivering bad news.

Look on the bright side: Maturity is not overrated. In many cases the escape artist formerly known as your love interest probably came on pretty strong in the beginning of your involvement. After you’ve worked out your feelings, though, congratulate yourself for not continuing to date someone with the breakup coping skills of someone in high school—you deserve more than that

4) Sizzle and Fizzle: How could something that felt so right now suddenly feel so wrong, sometimes to the point of, "What was I thinking?"

possible cause: Chemistry without compatibility, combined with too fast, too soon, is usually the culprit

Look on the bright side: A lesson learned: getting too close too quickly without getting to see all sides of the person

5) Demotion to "Friends with Privledges": That’s exactly what this type of partner impresses upon you when they move on to find the person perfect for them (hint: You’re not it). "Come one, we are still friends," and "I really enjoy your company, so I see no reason to stop seeing one another because I’m not ready to settle down," What these statements really mean is "We’ve broken up, but now I don’t have to be guilty about your feelings, plus I get the best of the relationship that I valued." - SEX

possible cause: A selfish partner who decided that you’re not the "One," but doesn’t mind stringing you along for the enjoyable benefits (for he or she, not you).

Look on the bright Side: After a while of being toyed with, you’ll realize that being a modern man or woman does not mean sacrificing self-respect or what one is looking for in a relationship. If you are seeking a monogamous, committed relationship, then it’s time to call it what it is: A breakup that ended long ago, or even before it started

By CatGirl on Jun 29, 2008, 14:03 in Off Topic.

CatGirl says on Jun 29, 2008, 14:07:

So many posters ask questions that this post answers. Tried to edit as much as possible

Hope this helps someone out there ;)

Just watched the movie :The Real Life of Dan - it poses 2 questions and answers them 1) Can you fall in Love in just 3 days? How do you know? 2) How do you plan your life?

The movie also makes a very good point ;) ... Real Love is Messy.

Ciao

(or is it Chao Chao?)

Oh well, who knows jeje

Love and Time: the only two things that cannot be bought, but only spent

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huskie says on Jun 29, 2008, 14:24:

Saw the movie is very funny
Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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CatGirl says on Jun 29, 2008, 14:29:

;) - it funny, you learn a bit...but not too warm and runny too jejeje

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huskie says on Jun 29, 2008, 15:07:

Loved the part where the two couples are at the restaurant and they start to dance, the movements were just hilarious
Cheers

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MaFe says on Jun 29, 2008, 19:48:

I know in Italian it is ciao, Spanish Chao...Huskie...you should know this better...

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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christobeldawg says on Jun 29, 2008, 21:08:

Guys allowed to this little chat? jaja

admittedly, arriving can feel great too

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huskie says on Jun 30, 2008, 04:44:

You are right Mafe, but chao is just a made up word for ciao
Cheers

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dwmte7 says on Jun 30, 2008, 04:47:

heh, kitty.....you tellin the world about all our problems? je je

dwmte

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CatGirl says on Jun 30, 2008, 10:11:

jaja - Now that would be interesting! jaja

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dwmte7 says on Jun 30, 2008, 10:25:

oh, LORD....

dwmte

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bamacellist says on Jun 30, 2008, 18:09:

chau

"The future is much like the present, only longer."

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MaFe says on Jul 1, 2008, 16:31:

Thanks Huskie!

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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CatGirl says on Jul 3, 2008, 21:43:

Ye, Gracias Huskie - I actually have always preferred Ciao

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MaFe says on Jul 4, 2008, 17:09:

I prefer chao...je je (Note I am fluent in Italian, yet I prefer CHAO when speaking to Latinos)

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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dwmte7 says on Jul 6, 2008, 04:38:

chao, pues.................

dwmte

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MaFe says on Jul 6, 2008, 20:26:

No mijito...no chao para siempre! Vea Pues! Je je ...DWM

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