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vegaschic comments on American Men w/ Wives or Girlfriends in Colombia

The Law is the Law as long as the law is the way it is you need to leave, no buts. Yes, I do believe that men are also abused by their significant others, however, men have more choices than women in terms of where to go when they are abused. I'm not making excuses for women who battered their men, but in your situation you made matters worst by staying and when does it stop? the saying goes that it takes 2 to tango, perhaps, but also it takes 1 to stop dancing. I assumed that you are now cured of confrontational situations, I will be if I had your experience, I'll get the hell out before I'm accused of domestic violence, especially if I was in cali, since unless the arrest was sponged, it may be around somewhere.

aaronfromus You say "men, cower when your woman attacks you. Not because of her, but because of the other men in government and law enforcement who have decided to, not only usurp your authority in your own home, but have further subjected you to the emotional whims of your womens hormonal changes" See this is the mentality of many men and as long as this continue nothing will ever change and we will have to be enforcing the laws in the books.
Good luck guys!

“The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those that look on and do nothing.”

vegaschic comments on American Men w/ Wives or Girlfriends in Colombia

Cam and GringoD Your male bonding is so touching! Cam if you didn’t want a response to your spousal abuse post you should have remain silent—”En boca cerrada no entran moscas”.
--Domestic violence charges are very serious matters. In fact, the California Legislature has proclaimed that domestic violence is such a serious and increasing problem that it must be addressed with tough prosecution. They have decreed in law that " spousal abusers present a clear and present danger to the mental and physical well-being of the citizens of the State of California." In order to deal with this situation, the legislature has passed a series of harsh criminal laws. The following current criminal statutes are illustrative:
CALIFORNIA PENAL CODE §273.5. (a) Any person who willfully inflicts upon a person who is his or her spouse, former spouse, cohabitant, former cohabitant, or the mother or father of his or her child, corporal injury resulting in a traumatic condition, is guilty of a felony, and upon conviction thereof shall be punished by imprisonment in the state prison for two, three, or four years, or in a county jail for not more than one year, or by a fine of up to six thousand dollars ($6,000.00) or by both that fine and imprisonment.
(c) As used in this section, "traumatic condition" means a condition of the body, such as a wound or external or internal injury, whether of a minor or serious nature, caused by a physical force. (This is the generally-charged "spousal-abuse violation")

CALIFORNIA PENAL CODE §422. Any person who willfully threatens to commit a crime which will result in death or great bodily injury to another person, with the specific intent that the statement, made verbally, in writing, or by means of an electronic communication device, is to be taken as a threat, even if there is no intent of actually carrying it out, which, on its face and under the circumstances in which it is made, is so unequivocal, unconditional, immediate, and specific as to convey to the person threatened, a gravity of purpose and an immediate prospect of execution of the threat, and thereby causes that person reasonably to be in sustained fear for his or her own safety or for his or her immediate family's safety, shall be punished by imprisonment in the county jail not to exceed one year, or by imprisonment in the state prison. For the purposes of this section, "immediate family" means any spouse, whether by marriage or not, parent, child, any person related by consanguinity or affinity within the second degree, or any other person who regularly resides in the household, or who, within the prior six months, regularly resided in the household. "Electronic communication device" includes, but is not limited to, telephones, cellular telephones, computers, video recorders, fax machines, or pagers. "Electronic communication" has the same meaning as the term defined in Subsection 12 of Section 2510 of Title 18 of the United States Code. (This is what California law refers to as "terrorist threats")

Clearly, this attitude, which now extends throughout the system, places the individual accused of Domestic Violence in a very difficult position. In the Golden State, the "abuse" does not need to happen in the "home" to be domestic violence. It can happen anywhere. Threats (which are not more than verbal abuse) can be made over the phone, by mail, on the internet, etc. There need not be any broken bones, wounds, cuts, bruises or other physical evidence of abuse in order to be arrested and charged with domestic violence. Verbal, emotional and psychological abuse can be treated just as seriously as actual physical violence. So my advise to you or any other male who finds himself in a domestic situation where it can develop into a possible shouting or physical altercation is to leave the scene before you find yourself in a heap of trouble.

“The world is a dangerous place, not because of those who do evil, but because of those that look on and do nothing.”

vegaschic comments on American Men w/ Wives or Girlfriends in Colombia

Cam this one is for you you say the charges were dropped by the LA City Attorney, since when does the City Attorney prosecute domestic violence cases? It is always been the office of the DA through their deputies who decide whether to file charges or not, I should know I was a co-founder and Director of a shelter for battered women in Fremont (Alameda County) in Northern California, who accompanied women to the DA office and to the Police Department to obtain TRO's [Temporarily Restraining Orders.] Also, the DA will always prosecute if the victim doesn’t recant her testimony and you say your ex didn't. Your story has holes in it. I don't know if your story is true or made up, I only know that, in any case, you should have left your house and wait for things to cool down before going back, which is my advise to you now that you are married again, and things can get out of hands between you and your new spouse. Domestic Violence whether verbal or physical has no place in civil society. It's true that not every accusation of spousal abuse has merits, however, we must always err on the side of the accuser to prevent the horrendous stories I have witnessed, in particular where women of color and immigrants are concerned.
--La violencia Intrafamiliar Contra Niños y Mujeres es Problema de Todos!

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I did check w/servientrega in Miami and this what I got; USD$1.80 per pound [MIA-BAQ], plus 28% of total value charged by Colombian Customs at port of entry. I'm taking my own laptop and I planned to leave it w/one of my nephews, will I have to do a total cleanup and re-install programs, ect in Spanish since they do not speak english? or should I do this at home before I leave? Any help is greatly appreciated.

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I'm going to B/quilla next month for a long period of time to visit family. The last time I went was in 1990 and had a hard time transfering funds fom my account [Colombian banks were difficult to deal with], can someone give me some pointers on how to deal with this?