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Mr. Hollywood I'm living near Stuttgart. Where are your relatives living?

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I was worried too My woman has a very intense contact with her family and in the beginning when she will be here she will have no friends, doesn't speak the language and I have to work. I'm a bit calmer now, because by talking with her a lot about this, I know that she's aware of this and wants to be with me nevertheless. And I know that she will probably find friends soon because she's a very talkative and happy person. But nevertheless this is a lot of responsibility for me.

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Good Luck, Mario Mario, here's my story in case you need some additional motivation;-) I asked in this forum (http://poorbuthappy.com/colombia/node/4113)
about a Colombian woman who suggested to start a relationship after only 5 days of exchanging emails. I'm 48, she is 10 years younger and a manager.

In the meantime I was in Bogota for two weeks. We had immediate chemistry and kissed at the airport. It was kind of a honeymoon. I also met her whole family... very educated people. Since then we are planning our marriage for next year... but first she will visit me for one month in Germany. She's a wonderful woman, who played straight with me from the first second. It's near to impossible to find such a woman where I live. Good luck to you.

Swabianguy comments on Apartments in Bogota

I was there two weeks ago http://www.corasuites.com/index.html

This is a very nice apartment and hotel complex in the north of Bogota... also very secure. I was in Cora 127... You can order a simple breakfast to the apartment or go to the restaurant below for a more varied one. I think I paid around 300.000 pesos for six days without the breakfast and they didn't charge for my woman who slept there every night.

Swabianguy comments on Advice needed on gifts and etiquette

Thanks for the ideas Lots of ideas. Thanks.

I have to keep it inexpensive... except for my woman. I didn't really think about finding a woman in Colombia, let alone one to marry, when I registered in this dating system. I was thinking about a vacation in Peru and was looking for friends. She will come to Germany in December for one month and I will have to bear most of the costs. She is able and willing to pay half the costs for the flight, but I will still need lots of money for trips, events and dinners. If everything goes well, she comes again next year and we marry.

So I don't buy the Swiss watches, but I thought about a cuckoo's clock for her mother. I will get it cheaply, because they are made here.

T-shirts, Belgian or Swiss chocolate and perfume samples are also fine. From the other suggestions I got an idea of what could be interesting for Colombians. I don't have dollars here... we have Euros which might not be that interesting, except maybe the coins. Every country has different ones and many people collect them.

The flowers I sent costed 37$. I sent zipflower.com an email complaining about their service. I communicated with them before via email, because I had problems with their secure server... they always responded friendly.

Swabianguy comments on lessons in navigating bogota's airport for a gringa....

Washing airplanes? I will arrive in 4 weeks at El Dorado. This thread helped me a lot to get an impression of what is going on there. I have a female friend from Colombia here in Germany. She said that El Dorado is not that different than the airport at Frankfurt, Germany. Might be true to a degree.

My Colombian woman from Bogota told me, in order that I'm not afraid, that in the radio and the news they say it is not necessary that the whole family goes to the airport. But nevertheless everybody goes there... the family, the dog, the babies, the grandmothers, uncles, aunt. And she said, that the people there like to wash the airplanes... the poor people who can't make a trip say... let’s go to the airport to see the airplanes. Funny story... I'm curious.

Swabianguy comments on Questions on mentality of Colombian women

The story continues... Hi Wingman, good luck to you too. How complicated is it to marry in Colombia?

I'm communicating with my Colombian woman several times daily. Meanwhile I trust her completely.

I will visit her in 2 months and she wants to visit me 2 months later. Right now we are making plans on how to stay together forever. She wants this badly... I'm a bit more reserved because it goes that fast and because I have not much financial reserves at present. But I truely like her and she complies with me in many ways... she even wants to contribute money for a language course. We both agree though that the first step is to get to know us in person. This is a very intense love story via the internet and because I never experienced something like that I'm a bit careful with my expections. But she pushes me forward with a lot of sensibility and love.

Swabianguy comments on Questions on mentality of Colombian women

This is not a scam I googled and found her name and the address she gave me on PaginasAmarillas. Also her home phone number, which she didn't give me yet officially. She gave me two cel phone numbers but called me once in my office from another number half an hour after after I sent her an email from there which contained my office phone number. I saved this number and it is that from her home.

She never wanted money from me in advance. It was her idea that I come first to Colombia and that she comes to Germany in winter. I looked again at her email where she told me the costs of the trip to Cartagena. She said that she will pay the trip in advance and asked me if I will give her the money later. It were only 800$ for 4 days, 3 nights including the flight and a trip to an island. I added 200$ for the dinners we will have. She chose a 5-star hotel, so this isn't expensive. I cancelled because the whole journey to Colombia would have been too expensive for me at present.

With all the other indications I have that she is real I'm now 100% sure that she's not a scam and the only thing to do now is to meet her and see if we have chemistry.

Swabianguy comments on Questions on mentality of Colombian women

Scam or not scam? I can't decide this ultimately from here. I read the above mentioned website. I think I have reason to believe that she's not a scam. First my Colombian female friend here in Germany recognized her name and her photo and thus confirmed her identity and some other facts. My friend was in school with her for 10 years. I can trust her. Then I have her phone numbers and her address. I called her once. She sent emails from her business email address. I could call her there and probably will do so before I will travel to Bogota. Now that I sent her photos of my children she promised to send me photos of her family. I have already one photo showing her with a family member. I think she is serious about a relationship. Since I told her on Friday, that I booked the flight, it seems that she is getting a bit nervous too. From what she writes I think she is checking out if we are compatible in sexual and other ways. She's not a 10 on the looks scale, maybe a 8.5, and she's nearly 40 years old. But I like her from the looks and more so from what she writes. She could be my soul mate and I must find this out. Her love confessions for me might be a bit exaggerated. I know this. But in between she writed emails that are very serious and show me much of her personality.

The 1000$ trip included a flight from Bogota to Cartagena and a trip by a boat. She didn't know my financial situation at that time. Meanwhile I told her that my financial capabilities are limited and I told her how much money I'm going to spend in Bogota at a maximum and she didn't object. I told her about the difficulties to get a visa for Germany when she wants to visit me and what kind of papers she needs. She said, that I shouldn't worry about that. She's able to provide all of these papers.

So thanks for all the warnings. I will keep them in mind. I might come up with other questions about Colombia soon, when the date of the travel comes closer.

Swabianguy comments on Questions on mentality of Colombian women

Thanks for advice Thanks for the comments. I will be careful and I won't ever send money. I told her already that I'm not rich and that my budget is limited. She replied in a long email, that she neither looks for someone who flatters her nor for economical stability. She said, that she always had a good life and that she has her reserves.

I'm not completely on my own there (BTW she lives in the north of Bogota). There's the family of my Colombian friend who lives there. I will take some luggage from my friend with me, because she will go home at the end of the year for two months. I spent some time with her nephew, who was on holiday here, and will meet this guy there too. And I'm in contact with another woman from Bogota (we talk via messenger). She offered to take some free days to show me a bit of the country, if I come there. I can contact her if it turns out that the other woman is a con, although it will surely come accross somewhat strange if I'm just calling her and say "Hi baby, surprise, I'm in Bogota". I must think about a better way.

The woman in question sent me seven emails during the last two days, everything from serious relationship talk to plain wooing with sexual insinuations and also new pictures and a funny video file. I showed one of my longer emails to my Colombian female friend. She said, that what she writes, sounds very honest.

So while a healthy mistrust is surely appropriate, I want to give this a chance, because if she is honest, she might well be the woman I'm looking for.

Any ideas about my other question?

If everything is true about her economical situation (she tells me, that she's just graduading as an engineer), then why would she give all this up for an uncertain future? Are the women there that naive, that they think with a good education but without a knowledge of the language they will get a job everywhere in the world? My friend here has a very good education (several university degrees). She speaks an acceptable German, but still doesn't get good jobs. Most of the time she teaches Spanish.

Swabianguy comments on Questions on mentality of Colombian women

More facts I was suspicious myself by this speed. She found me in this online system, sent me a wink. Thereafter I contacted her. But I got contacted by other women, even more aggressively and she could see this in this online system. She sounds trustworthy. She's 38, has no children. I'm 48, was married previously. She sent emails from her office, she sent several phone numbers. She called me three times, once in my office. I called her once. What she writes in her Spanish emails sounds as if she knows exactly wants from life. There's a lot of depth in it. But she also woos me intensely with short emails written in English.

My Colombian friend here didn't know that I registered in this system. She was on holiday at that time. I told her the name later. She said she might know her and asked to see a picture of her. Then she recognized her. She confirmed the upper-class, said she has been brought to school by a chauffeur and lived in noble residential area. The trip she planned was to Cartagena. Flight and 3 nights in a hotel plus a trip somewhere. My friend here didn't see this negative. She said this woman wants to show me the country. But she also said that this is too expensive.

Our plan is now to fly there for maybe 10 days. I will take a hotel near where she lives. She suggested some. She has to work, wants to take all of her holiday in winter to visit me in Germany. But she has lots of time besides her work and we will make short trips on the weekend, maybe stay one night in another hotel somewhere.

These things I have to pay there, don't I? I just want to have an idea of my total costs.