jmgbuba has left 5 comments

jmgbuba comments on eltelefonorojo.com

Thats the problem. They are local. Every time they give me a refund for the amount. It is the same number each month.

jmgbuba comments on eltelefonorojo.com

Nothing major but they keep charging me between $5 and $20 for long distance when I am calling a local number. It is the same number and they still have not fixed this problem. Then they are not willing to reduce my current bill. I must wait until the next months bill for a credit after spending an hour on the phone with them to get it resolved. It is just getting frustrating and I would like to see if they have any competition.

jmgbuba comments on Colombian wife forgets my birthday and our anniversary date!

Ok where are all the people that were critical of me in my post? They should be supporting sanandressi. Or is it different when the woman forgets :) And of course I got the Anniversary is not as important as the birthday line from my wife so you supposedly should not worry about the anniversary.

jmgbuba comments on Forgot Colombian Wife's Birthday

manINred. I want to be clear that I am not saying I was correct. I have and will continue to say I am sorry. I have probably spent a total of 2 or 3 hours in the last day saying i'm sorry. What I will not be able to do for a longtime is allow her to have the attitude that she has about this. Like I said before we have been apart for almost 2 months. I cannot live in a relationship where we are together physically but apart in every other way for 2 or more months while she continues to feel this way. My original post was asking for how to make this up to her and I am still interested in this but I cannot let her walk all over me either or it will never stop. After reading many posts on here I can see that it has been happening on a smaller scale for a while and I cannot allow it to grow. One of your posts you mentioned that she may think I do not care for her as much as I should. I think if she was 100% honest with herself and did not allow emotions into it as much as she does then she would know how much I care for her. I have done everything I could to help her during this time with her mom and this is part of the reason I have been stressed and forgot to say happy birthday for 5 hours. She does not see that. And right now we are both young. There is not much stuff. If this continues for 10 or 20 years into the future I will still get upset and she will have a lot more stuff along with a monthly income. All of that is not important right now but it is a reality of things do not get better. I want to give this 100% of my effort and that is why I have said I was sorry and tried to explain to her it was a big mistake etc. But the walking all over me as everyone has said is a different issue that i cannot allow. I am going to get her back here this week and we can see how things go.

jmgbuba comments on Forgot Colombian Wife's Birthday

ok, I did not expect such a big response so I am going to try and respond to everything. One thing I want to be clear about also is that I did not actually forget her birthday. We agreed that instead of me buying her a gift she would just buy some clothes in Colombia to have for her party since I am not there and she would be coming home after. I forgot to say the words happy birthday the morning of her birthday. I said happy birthday 5 hours later. No excuse I just wanted to make sure that was clear for everyone. A few of you said that it seems like she really wants to stay and this is just an excuse to not come back. This is true. we have been having problems lately and she is having problems in the USA. She is not able to find the job that she wants and she knows that if she is in Colombia speaking english she can do almost whatever she wants. Her being in Colombia for so long has made it that much harder on our relationship because she is with her family and can see all of this clearly. Another poster asked what she did for my birthday last year. She made a cake and sang happy birthday. Nothing big but I did not want anything to big. I was very happy. And in every other instance I have been the one to do the special birthdays and anniversary and valentines day gifts. She also forgot our anniversary but says it is not as important is this true in Colombia? I do seem the drama attitude that she has. But I do not want to end a relationship when she is 1500 miles away. I want us to be together and see if it is worth it or not. I cannot judge this when we are so far apart because I am sure her mom would love her to come back and is influencing her decision. After many appologies she has agreed to come back and see what happens. I also agree that i cannot let her walk allover me. This has been part of the problem. After we are able to have these conversations when she gets back I may still need to let her leave. I will not be able to live my life letting her walk all over me. My other question is this. She told a few friends that I forgot her birthday. They all acted like it was as bad as it was and more. I also no for a fact that the majority of these women have husbands taht have cheated. They forgave their husbands obviously so is what I did on par with cheating for a colombian woman?