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JamieJ comments on

I don’t mind someone sharing my views but the moderator needs to add a link http://www.latin-wife.com/barranquilla_hotel.asp next to my copy showing the source of Suerte Gringo’s post or delete the post. Or if it is not too late Suerte Gringo should do this. I am not sure why you would deleted a couple of sentences making one point somewhat ineligible.

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Atrevido it’s good to see you are a fan and follow my writings I must have hurt your feelings many times on those other forums to push you into such a state of incoherency. No one was denying Peter was within his right to do as he likes, anyway its great to know you can defend a position no one is against. Would it help if I emailed you re-runs of my old post to lessen the abandonment you feel from my departure?

Jamie

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Forums that are not tightly monitored will always have deceptive agitators like “dontdothis” attempting to provoke damage. Unfortunately viruses and trolls are part of our information age. I have 4 years of history with gringos.com and plant-love.com where anonymous unimaginative, misfits like “dontdothis” are not allowed to play. If one wants to read actual experiences of many clients who have used our services they can find the truth there.

CaritadeAngel
If you are interested in the job you can call me. The position is very interesting, unique and challenging while the pay is good it is not as high as what a foreign person can get at a good school for teaching English in Colombia. I only retain people who have the highest level of integrity, so let me know me know if you will need to brush up on your ethics first :)

Atrevido
I am deeply sorry that you are so upset by my “quitting” if you had asked I could have sent you informative and entertaining private emails to keep you from going off the deep end, but I see it is now too late.
My past history here is well document. I had a link signature at the end of my post that from my experience all but this forum allows. The setup of the board allowed me this option. I was using this signature for 6 months with no problems until I criticized the owner on one of his selections for a moderator and all of a sudden my signature became a problem. I argued that I did not believe this constituted advertisement and that my time was valuable and I provided good information and a different perspective to the board and would not do so without my signature. I would think this board would be better of concerning itself with flagrant, unprovoked name calling and unsubstantiated accusations, you Atrevido I can see think otherwise.

Jamie

JamieJ comments on Sick and tired

Desi Women... Gee Dezi pay attention...

"jamie pretending to be first an American then a Swedish girl asking himself questions and then answering them. That was funny!"

JamieJ comments on Sick and tired

isaactraveler I am not seeking an apology from Dezi for contrary opinions. She made a direct accusation against me that was not true and did not provide any evidence as requested to show me why she came up with her unsubstantiated accusation. Yet Dezi speaks of “common decency” and she behaves by make accusations against one when there is no supportive evidence for doing so this is “common decency.”

Dezi says “I've been bullied and attacked here many times,...” Isn’t a groundless accusation against someone a form of “attack.” I have all ready given Dezi many opportunities to apologize for something which she did that was not correct based on her own standards she has revealed to this forum in this thread yet she does not live by her own standards she proclaims. And while I am sitting in my comfortable chair I am not going to let her hypocrisy go unnoticed. I don’t expect anyone to come to my defense on views they do not support. Most people are sheep even when it comes to voicing support for views they hold.
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JamieJ comments on Sick and tired

The Real Clowns From Desi: “For about two months now it's been a downward spiral but I see signs of improvement.”

Yes I think that all start when you a made a false accusation against me that you could not prove nor were you woman enough to apologize for it... and I am still waiting for your improvement.

From Desi: “Yes, you're absolutely right that there's a lot of negative posting about women from USA and Europe here.”

I don’t think there is a lot. You have a couple vocal advocates. Yet when this was stated by a poster:
“I think that anyone who has to resort to going to a foreign country to find a woman is a real LOSER!” I didn’t see you coming to the defense. Ok to bash one side but not the other huh?

When I said this to one man: “You disparage Western women due to your own inadequacies. You feel so hurt that they are discriminating and don’t take favor to you that you coil back with broad insults. That is a sign of a weak man.” I didn’t see you seconding me. Where was the righteous Desi?

“...that a great majority of posters are men, many of them are either married or in the process of getting married to Colombianas and many carry a grudge against the women of their own society.”

Please list such men if they are many? I think you are magnifying what is actually a small number of men.

“It's ultimately up to us to start and contribute to threads that maintain this flow of information and debate on acceptable levels.”

You are a hypocrite Desi along with the group that speaks from “Lauthra” the 3 or more of you don’t debate fairly or answer questions presented to you challenging your facts and reasoning. While the profane provocateurs are easy to spot and ignore you hide under a civil, nice demeanor where your sprinkle words void of truth. While you don’t wear the mask you are almost as dangerous of a clown as they are, because it would not be obvious to the shallow reader that your views are empty of reason. You complain when attacked by slurs, but when I confront you with facts and counter ideas that require you to reveal the basis of your opinions you runaway and hide. Why don’t you just admit you don’t want to be challenged and have your mistaken views revealed. So judging by your past behavior, as long as the “information” comes from you than its “acceptable” this is the one way “flow” you favor.

I believe all forums should have a fair minded, rational moderator. But for Lionheart who has done his share of running from the questions and can throw out blatant falsehoods such as "US Americans can only think black or white. They have no clue about grey zones."

And his own form of peacemaking: "God, people, don't be so dense...” for this to be moderator material is a joke. But of course I hear so often from our Liberal friends that Europeans, to our shame, think of Americans as a joke so I guess this all fits in line.

I propose we all just play it safe and before anyone can enter an idea counter to the group mentality it should be put up for review so we can exile any fringe thinkers before they disturb the “acceptable information flow.”


Jamie
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JamieJ comments on Taganga, Tayrona lodging recommendations?

I should be visiting there on the 30th of Jan. So if you want to send another email out after that date I will tell you what I know.

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JamieJ comments on Would like some feedback.

Spigrimace added some good points and has a smart strategy. One does not need to go overboard with the spending and one should use the word “no” very often. I say no to my wife so often that she starts her question off with the assumption that my answer will be no. She’ll say, honey I know you are going to say no, but could you please pay for the doctor to take a look at my infected green toe. And I would say something like, what! you too good to wait in line at the free clinic or I may say it’s only a light green lets wait a few days and see if it gets better :)
It’s all in the guy, if you go in with the wrong attitude and poor expectations people will take advantage of you. Even Colombian women that had very little have treated me generously so there is more at play than just economics. The moment you see otherwise in the woman tell her this is not acceptable and if she doesn’t make a quick change on her own move on. I was in a taxi and had just finished the first part of the date with the smartest Colombian girl I had ever met and good looking too. She was talking to my translator and when she stopped to ask what we were going to do next I said, since you’re so interested in talking to the translator why don’t the two of you do something and drop me off at the hotel. Well within two seconds she was apologizing and convincing me to change my mine and I never had anything less than her full attention afterwards. Now one can say Jamie your just a big baby who wants all the attention and I would say yes those are my expectations when I am with a woman that is what I am use to and I won’t accept anything less. You need to have a high regard for yourself and at the same time some quality values that is sought and recognized by the woman making her willing to give this. If the only thing you have going for you is the means to contribute financially than most women are not going to be able to warm up to such a guy. But if you’re a good, fun guy to be around women will want to retain such company by showing their appreciation. If one doesn’t find one that does.
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JamieJ comments on Want to marry a Colombiana...here's a novel idea

Kernow62 The yellow flowers you ask about in your picture could be a tecoma stans if it looks sort of bush like or a tabebuia if it is a tree. I would have to see a close up picture because I can not recognize the flower or leaf from this distance. I am not familiar with what grows in Bogotá both those plants normally prefer warmer temperatures but so does the bougavillia and its looking good.

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JamieJ comments on Would like some feedback.

I think the first thing you should do is cut all your payments and gifts to the family immediately and rein in any extra spending from your wife if that is going on. Something is very wrong. I would also stop doing more than your fair share of the work and come to some agreement to what is fair. Significantly tone down any gifts that you would give your wife for Christmas or special holidays. If she complains ask her what did she get you for Christmas or Valentines or your Birthday? However I don’t know if any of this will change her behavior but at least you won’t be taken advantage of to the extent that you are. It is possible that she does love you but just does not have proper manners and behavior in this regard. The way things are playing out does not look good there may not be a favorable solution. I am sorry to hear this.

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JamieJ comments on Child Support Laws in Colombia

CrazyCali is correct make her prove this is your child and tell her good luck in collecting any money she will most likely just go away. Coming out of the blue like it does one should wonder if she is even pregnant and based on her behavior if it would even be yours. You should cease any further communications with her and change your email account and your phone number. Notify the immigration office that you have decided not to pursue the engagement and see if you need to take any actions. It is unfortunate that most guys will ignore the warning signals nor use a support system to reinforce their own suspicions when such maters come up.
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JamieJ comments on Carnival De Barranquilla

Well my first carnival was with the company of 4 beautiful Colombianas and after a couple of beers these women became uncontrollable... just the way I like it. The fun is in the stands not the parade. Don’t wear anything nice or carry anything valuable because you will be prepped to be baked with flower and beer by the time you leave. Also bring some extra money for weapons your going to need to defend yourself with counter attacks.

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JamieJ comments on Colombia is a very, very dangerous place.

Miguel Send me a private email jamie at latin-wife.com if you want to meet at a Salsa club I can bring my dance partner. I will be watching the playoffs on Sunday.

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JamieJ comments on Personal Safety in Colombia

Thanks for the many good tips.

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JamieJ comments on Romanticise Colombians Today

“Can people tell me am I allowed to make genuine statements about what I see or not”

Sure you can... as long as you are seeing things where nobody is getting hurt.

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JamieJ comments on Good lawyer needed please!

If you want to email me Jamie at latin-wife.com
I can give you a lawyer in Barranquilla I have used that speaks very good English. Went to a University in the U.S and has broad legal knowledge. He is rather expensive compared to most Colombian lawyers but seems worth it.
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JamieJ comments on

You have a good chunk of people here not capable of reasonable discussion or informative exchange... so now the gap widens.

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JamieJ comments on Colombian girls - promiscuous?

Tzion
The women are correct and ColombianoX (The Shame of Colombia) as usual is wrong. Only MalcomX... I mean ColombianoX (X for Xtra Stupid) would tell someone not to generalize about Colombian women and than make a generalization about the same representative Colombian women who join marriage agencies.

Most Colombian women that I have met feel good about their sexuality. They enjoy being women and flirting or even seducing. I however doubt that single Colombian women are having more sex than single American women or having more partners and I believe more Colombian women wait until marriage before having sex. Young, single mothers is a growing problem in Colombia and not confined to girls who join foreign dating agencies.
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JamieJ comments on Oh yeah, does anyone know about fishing, preferably lake or river in the Cartagena, Baranquilla area?

You can fish the dirty river in Barranquilla and they do have some small fresh water lakes near by and a salty lake for fishing. I would bring your own fishing gear and I would think a new friend or the hotel staff could help you with where to go.
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Morgus You disparage Western women due to your own inadequacies. You feel so hurt that they are discriminating and don’t take favor to you that you coil back with broad insults. That is a sign of a weak man.

“buy her drinks all night, listen to her endless personal or emotional problems”
I am not sure what wards you meet women at but most of the American women I have met are intelligent and interesting. Does not say much for someone that would hang out with such a woman you describe just to get some.

“The sex will be boring, distant and cold.”
This has not been my experience with Western women; I wonder why women would react to you in this way?

“Most attractive females nowadays will just sneer at any male who is friendly to them.”
And how many men per day to you thing are “friendly” to attractive women…lots. Don’t you think being hit on day after day over and over again gives these women the right to smile back at who they wish without criticism for their taste?

I have nothing again sex for money but to give the false impression that women like the John is a joke. Paying for sex is an “alternative” but to me a desperate, last alternative.
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JamieJ comments on Family back in Colombia and the "image" they believe the U.S to be

"Can someone please point out to me how my post above was racist?"

Well in your post you say if you work hard you can make it in America. This implies that you think all immigrants are dogs who want to do your wife when they should be cleaning the pool while you do your neighbors wife.
Let me break it down for you. "Work hard" means "work hard as a dog" so you think immigrants should be like dogs. "Cleaning" is work, which means you believe in hardship for immigrants that they should actually work, not play work, but do real work. Everyone knows work is a four letter word, so you just insulted every immigrant with a foul insistence that they should work to be successful. We know you are talking about immigrants because you use the word "Americ"” which is a secret code to exclude non-Americans, the immigrant. Since immigrants are not white this means you hate non-whites. Since it is your pool you want cleaned than that must make you the Master. Everyone knows the Master is racist. Doing your neighbors wife is just phony machismo on your part because we all know the white man would rather eat a second helping of steak than do a woman, in fact you would rather watch the immigrant do your wife while eating that steak but you can’t let that on which is where the phony machismo comes in you don’t really want to do your neighbor’s wife do you?
You know guys like you make me sick.

"This is indicative of a weak mind and the mindless seem to rule here."
It is worse than mindlessness. Some of these people actually went to college or read a book and they have just enough in their mind to give them the false impression to be adamant that they know of what they speak.

"See how if you post anything different on here you are labeled a racist!"
Well if you eliminate their means to insult than you rob them of the only way they know how to communicate.

Grinobogota
Nothing you said was out of place, bigoted or racist. You should know better to have a discussion with Colombianox (The Shame of Colombia) who is not fit to defend himself with his bizarre obsession for Colombian nationalism. The guy thinks in red, yellow and blue when the world is a spectrum of colors.

"Gringo, why do over half of all your posts eschew racism, bigotry or just anarchy in general?"
Isaactraveler, specifically what did he say that was racist?
What did he say that was bigoted?
What did he say that was anarchist?
I won’t expect 3 examples because his post was void of all three.I am not sure why you would say somthing so out of the blue.

"...but I firmly believe that Colombia is unspoiled and probably a better place to raise children. If it was possible for me to earn a decent living there, I would probably move there today."

I am not sure how anyone could say something so wrong. This is not a mater of opinion. You are contrasting the U.S with Colombia and saying Colombia is a better place to raise children.

The number one ingredient needed for raising children is having the economic means of caring for the survival necessities of life for your child. You said it was not possible for you to earn a decent living there. Doesn’t that alone make it a worse place to raise children? It is sort of like saying if the Artic was a tropical paradise I would live there. Well it is not so the idea of saying "if" does not make any sense. With 50% of Colombians living in poverty is it not difficult for them to raise children? Do you think they are saying to themselves Colombia is a great place to raise children, I just wish I could feed them?
To say what you did you must think Colombia has a better education system than the U.S. so your children can better compete with the rest of the world.
You must think Colombia has better Universities than the U.S. so your children can go as far as they like.
You must think Colombia is cleaner than the U.S. and they have better healthier standards for food and water and better medical care because you would want your child not to get sick and be properly cared for by the best if taken ill.
You must think a drive out to the country side is less risky in Colombia than the U.S. because a drive to the Amazon has less criminal risk to your children than a drive to sin city.
You must think the roads are safer in Colombia even though Colombia shows a much higher death rate per mile driven from accidents than the U.S. because you would not want you child hit by a car that did not stop at a red light.
You must think having children play in your present neighborhood at night is more dangerous than a like neighborhood in Colombia because you would not want to worry about their safety.
You must think that Colombia has much greater opportunities than the U.S because you would want your child to have as many opportunities for a bright future as possible and Colombia wins hands down.
You must think Colombia has less crime than the U.S. and you and your family are safer.
You would have to think all these things which are all ingredients in the child’s best interest.

I am not a love it or leave it as much as a love it or change it. I could care less how many people only speak Spanish in the U.S. What I don’t like is the U.S Government accommodating such choices. If business or individuals want to this that’s fine but the Government assisting the process I find incredible. It is sort of like our prisons allowing criminals to work out and become stronger in jail by lifting weights and learning how to box so they will have greater skills at intimating, hurting and avoiding capture in the future. Government’s interference just perpetuates the need not to learn.

Not everyone can make it in the U.S because it does require work and change but for those willing and able the sky is the limit.
Jamie
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JamieJ comments on Barranquilla Chica or Scam?

I don’t think anything smells fishy yet. Many girls don’t have phones at home or a cell and access the internet cafes. Maybe she does not understand your request or is a little slow on the ball. Make arrangements to talk to her using a friend’s home or cell phone for a call at a particular time.

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JamieJ comments on Any info on Hotel El Dorado en BAQ?

I understand it to be an ok hotel 3 stars by Colombian standards and recently fixed up.
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JamieJ comments on Give me local food!

Miguel Do you know if they saw the seeds you brought in?
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JamieJ comments on My Colombian Girlfriend

This is not true unless change has taken place over the last few months but I do believe they need to have a yellow fever shot.
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JamieJ comments on

Greenday "but I'm already a winner!!!"
never thought otherwise :)
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JamieJ comments on Why are Colombian men so attracted to blonde gringas?

ReinaDeLa Baile Always a welcoming sight (not your exposed toe) an intelligent, witty woman.
Why don’t you tell us a little more about you :)
Where in Colombia are you moving too?
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JamieJ comments on Stop bitching

Don Negro Hold your horses Mr. IQ. I don’t live on this forum I am in and out days at a time.

I find it very amusing that you would call me a “loser” in a different thread for no apparent or stated reason. I guess you just did not like my opinions and felt the safest wait to retort was just to call me a loser and the moment I return the favor you cry foul.

You say I know “absolutly nothing about” you, but what I do know is you are not a man of reason and you like to throw out the first insult because it’s all your intelligence can muster. I would certainly favor having an intelligent discourse with you but I have learned that this is not possible so for the likes of you and the handful of others like you I provide what you understand best a blunt impact to the head spotlighting the large tunnel between your ears.

“however superior you may think you are to me”
I don’t think in such terms what I do know is that intelligence without common sense and emotional stability is flawed and you have demonstrated such frailty. While me and most are far from perfect and can forgive such weaknesses the moment you attack with insults as a primary means of making your point, as you did with me, is the moment you lose my courtesy.

“out of interest what is your IQ jamieJ? not so funny now are we?”
Gee what a child. For arguments sake lets say its 25% below yours now what Mr. IQ?

“i only pity you jamiej”.
Your pity is as worthless as your reasoning.

I will point out for those that don’t know Mr. IQ thought I was a “loser” for utilizing a signature that is provided by this forum for all to use. Mr. IQ than immediately after calling me a “loser” asks me how I created such a signature because Mr. IQ was not able to figure this out himself. Now Mr. IQ is waving his IQ banner for all to see and it’s just a white flag.

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JamieJ comments on Angelica JUST GOT APPROVED!!

Good Luck and best wishes to the both of you. You seem to have a clear head with good intentions and a focused objective. I see success in the horizon.
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Gringoinbogota
Many good observations. I would think one would first need to define what is “common.” I would certainly say it is not unusual which means people don’t give it much thought when they see or know of such age differences in Colombia.

Viewpoint
You made some good points. I would also like to know the answer to your question. But since such men are not back in the hunt from what we see from the forums maybe a safe assumption would be that they are living a fulfilling married life out of the spotlight?

“Liberal family law courts and judges in the USA have descimated marriage creating a strong incentive not to get married but rather to stay single.”
It is not fair to blame the courts for a marriage breakup. This is between two individuals. You don’t want to force someone to stay in a marriage they are no longer committed to do you? Where the courts and laws fail is in the financial distributions and child custody.

“The shelf live of these relationships is about the same as the life of a fish out of water.”
You don’t really know this or can show us any facts to proof this can you? Later you say it would be interesting to know of how many such relationships exist which means you don’t know if your fish is a seal that can live out of water. I do however believe many men select women solely based on their looks and the momentary fun they have with such women without considering the long term viability. I am thinking that most men can not hold on to a good looking quality woman unless they have a history of doing so. But this does not mean they can’t hold on to a better woman in Colombia than they can meet at home and what is wrong for going for the best we can get for all concerned?

Desi
I don’t expect anyone here believes you will see the light. You avert to what you do best, making things up and running away when challenged to respond. I have no idea why you like to throw your 2 cents in when it just devalues under questioning and inspection. You are not even “strong” enough to apologize when you are wrong or have made a mistake yet you extol the strength of women an inner strength you lack.

“girls, around their own age, but their mindset is totally different.”
I have seen no difference in the mind set of young men or older men and I deal with both. Of course younger men will associate with women their own age who else are they going to associate with children? It is only when a man get into his late 30’s and up that they appreciate the qualities of youth. It is not possible for a young man to see the difference and give value to it.

Greenday
I think you’re coming down a little too strong. We all have preferences for different types of women. If a man likes fat women who am I to say this is wrong or he is only doing so because he can’t get thin women. I am sure you have much more in agreement with Urbancowboy than differences without inflaming an animosity over a different perspective. I am sure Urbancowboy wants you to be a winner too.
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JamieJ comments on Working in Cali

I met only you. Did you not say in a prior post of having such a fear and taking steps to live in her country to avoid such an outcome. Don't grab what you can't hold.

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JamieJ comments on Working in Cali

Since you are afraid to bring your Latina outside of Colombia for fear that she will leave you. I suggest you find a place with a large mango tree so you can secure her to a chain and restrict her enlightenment.
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JamieJ comments on iS bArRaNqUiLLa tHe bEsT CiTy iN CoLOmBIa?

Miguel I am not sure to what extent Barranquilla has changed. I did hear of a robbery at Fedco by Hotel Prado where 5 well dressed men robbed the place and hit one of the female employees that was moving too slow. Usually there are security guards or soldiers in front of this place so this seemed very brazen. When I was looking for property more than once when asking why the property was available I have been told they were robbed and went out of business or someone was kidnapped and they had to sell to pay the ransom. To what extent these stories fit in with the statistical crime rate I do not know. I am not a defender of Barranquilla and it is certainly not a beautiful city. I just take the precautions to make sure I am safe and those that are around me or visit are also safe.
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JamieJ comments on PLASTIC SUGERY PART 2

“So I pretty much know the risk more than some of you bone heads.”
Loved your introduction :)
but I believe there is more than just some bone heads here :)

My sister-in-law now living in Spain traveled to Barranquilla for a breast job paying for one of the more expense and reputable surgeons and ended up with some minor problems that were taken care of. So I can’t recommend her doctor. Be sure that you get many referrals that you check up on.
Good Luck
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JamieJ comments on Stop bitching

“we are far less intelligent than you can imagine old man”

Listen to Don Negro he knows what he is talking about when it comes to a lack of intelligence.
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JamieJ comments on

Aztec if you are not Latin and American born I would like to talk to you. You can email me your phone number and name if so interested. jamie at latin-wife.com

Miamimike maybe it would be better for you friend to retire outside the country?
I once had a guy in his mid 70s who dropped by the office and wanted me to set him up with someone no older than 30. He had all ready been divorced by two younger wives and told me the sorrow story. The guy was good looking for his age and in shape and educated but I told him I could not help him and that he was making a mistake going after someone so young. I remember showing him photos of women in their 40s who looked attractive and he would say no too old. And I am thinking gee she is 30 years younger than you and you are calling her too old? If you don’t want to learn from your mistakes than mistakes will happen.
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Caslug I can’t speak of Bogota specifically because I live in Barranquilla a much smaller place, however presently vacationing in the States,. But if one was a tourist I would think you would want to be in good company. How can one be bored with new interesting friends that is if one chooses such friends. It is hard for me to relate to boredom because I don’t have time to do all things I would like to do. I am always behind and rushing. In fact I now have to rush home because my wife has cooked a delicious pasta dinner for me with fresh tomatoes and herbs.
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JamieJ comments on

Boredom is a choice. Don’t blame Bogota.
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JamieJ comments on Street Kids, to give money or not?

Mark You have a good method of contribution. One can only wonder the extent of change that may take place. Often good advice becomes words that are normally appreciated but never acted upon.
Keep it upyou have given me somehting to think about.
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JamieJ comments on Tell me about the women to avoid

Calipro You are correct. There will be those that get it and those that will never get it. In a sense the Nato, Lionheart, Don Negro and Atrevido’s are like the Homer Simmons of the world they think they are the one getting the last laugh yet they are too ignorant to realize the laugh is on them. I thought Desi might have been different but it appears not. I also agree opinions are hard to change but when you have people holding on to inaccurate facts, avoiding accountability for what they say and lacking the capability to read and comprehend it really makes for a futile effort. Its clowns like them that have brought about the dumbing down of America.
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JamieJ comments on Tell me about the women to avoid

Stuff Calipro
I agree with most of your views but I think you need to work on your sarcasm technique.

Hunter
What I don’t understand is how people stay on the sidelines when they see something that is not right. It is hard for me not to intervene when I see a wrong directed at me or at others. Yet most won’t do anything. When I get in heated debates I often get private emails from viewer agreeing with my view yet for some reason they are hesitant to publicly show their position. This I do not understand. Is it because they are afraid to have others see what they really think, or they don’t want to be included in the line of fire, or is it a preference for political and phony correctness to keep everything light and inoffensive, or a bias or apathy at play, I don’t know. What I do know is the Nazis would never have come to power if it were not for "good" people standing by ideally. When you let lies and poor reasoning go uncheck it only festers and creates a shallow voicing of dominant, incorrect beliefs not a learning exchange that allows one to change and grow. If I have a belief and you convince me that my opinion was wrong you have just made me a better and stronger person. You would think people would want this. Instead it appears most feel weaken by their submission that you were right and they were wrong which makes any productive exchange rare. Since most people will not accept self responsibility I guess it not unexpected that most people won’t hold others accountable. In a forum environment it is up to many to be objective moderators to keep the conversations civil and logical. Yet few will intervene to do so and even fewer will ever admit that they made a mistake regardless of how blatant it may be.


Final Comment
I will end this by saying I think Desi is really Nato due to the fallacies of logic that they share and Atrevido is really Desi pretending not to be Nato but the insecure, feminist screeching gives him away. Which mean all 3 represent the entangled thoughts of confused children extending their unsupervised playground of name calling and sand throwing while proudly unable to wipe the runny nose of shame from their face. And of course Calipro is still Calipro.
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Atrevido and Nato Atrevido
"You feel threatened? Too bad."

From a little mouse like you who hides under different names. I never said I felt threaten only that you have used censoring threats in the past trying to suppress my challenges to your vapid thoughts. I enjoy exposing your lack of honesty and logic.

"I call it like I see it"
That’s the problem you lack intellectual vision. You have demonstrated an inability in basic reading comprehension and you expect others to listen to how you see things, funny. Anyway as I predicted you refused to hold yourself accountable so continue with your hit and run act and I will continue to point it out.

Nato:
"Pointing out someones grammatical mistakes its a sure sign they know they've lost the debate."

And pointing out something that didn’t happen is a sure sign of a lost mind. Nowhere in my response to you does it mention anything about any English or grammatical mistakes. If so please quote the passage? It was your cohort Atrevido that pointed out to me that my writings were poorly worded. My point back to him was that this was very hypocritical to judge my English with all the writing mistakes he had. I am not sure between you and Atrevido which one is the biggest clown. You both have reading comprehension difficulties. Even with the two of you working as a team your brain cells are clamoring for more company.

"...absolutely futile."

Yes and I explained how your lack of a proper response would make the process futile you can’t debate someone not capable of debating so maybe next time you should just say nothing.

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Mr. Hollywood "Jamie, since you're so honest, may I suggest you begin by removing this falsehood from your site, "There is a reason why Colombia has the lowest divorce rate in the world; their world is centered on the family." Both divorce and "virtual" divorce (meaning practical, permanent separations, second and 3rd families, etc.) are rampant in Colombia. At the very least, if you're going to claim that, back it up with a reputable source."

I got the divorce data from The Economist magazine. At the beginning of each year the magazine gives an almanac of economic and demographic statistics for most of the worlds nations which they categorize by countries and by rankings. I originally wrote this based on the 2002 book but the 2003 ranking was the same for Colombia. However after living in Colombia I do agree that many couples do live together and separate and it appears more so than the U.S. but there is no way for me to add this to the equation because I do not have any hard data.

"Likewise, your railings about "liberals" are quite weird. My own leanings are actually more libertarian (with a small l, though, I can't stand the ruthless and selfish Ayn Rand wing of things) than liberal, though I don't think there's anything wrong with being a liberal."

Nothing wrong with an honest liberal or admiting when you make a mistake. Most of my girl friends have been Liberal as in Hollywood variety and I have had no problem living with them even though little by little I was converting their wayward thinking behind their backs :) Rand was the impetuous for the Libertarian party. Anyway from your opinions your leanings appear more Liberal and it has been my experience most Liberals base their views on feelings instead of facts. Reminds me of Bill Maher once saying he was Libertarian but was going to vote for the Socialist Nadar. You once objected to something I said regarding poverty some months ago and since you did not respond to my rebuttal I can only assume what your answers would be. Anyway I can’t help but rail I am visiting the States and I am listing to talk radio and it has infected me with the attack bug. I did however watch the Simmsons last night and they made fun of both the Liberals and Conservatives so hopefully I will balance out soon :) Can we just all agree to agree that this is the funniest show on T.V?
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Cazzy Calipro is right that this forum is not going to be able help you with the extent of assistance that you appear to need, which is why your request for help was met mostly with humor. I can’t provide any quick, comprehensive answers for you. While women are different than men they are not strange creatures. Approach this not as just a search for a wife but a search for a best friend. You have good friends, well how did you go about feeling comfortable that they should be your friends? You want the same ingredients in your wife with the added necessity of mutual attraction. If the woman gives you clear signs that she enjoys your company, is that not a clue that she likes you? If she is outwardly affectionate towards you in private and public is this not a sign that she likes you? Does she like spending time with you even doing monotonous things together; is this not a sign that she likes you? If she reminds you how often you are in her thoughts, is this not a sign that she likes you. One of the most difficult things in the world is faking who you really are. It is not possible to lie and trick your way into someones heart without leaving breadcrumbs of clues. Believe me there are many more bad men than women in this world and if you can make good male friends you should not have any problems making good women friends and finding a wife that will be your best friend. I am not able to give you any specific recommendations but I suggest going to the book store and buying at least one book that will give you an understanding of how women are different than men (not a pick up book and I am not talking physical here :) and a book on what makes for a healthy relationship (and I am not talking medical). Read and understand there are no quick secret answers from the guys. A lot of this will take hands on experience to polish. You are not alone, many men do not understand women and have uncertainties about how to meet them and know them. I have met many intelligent, skilled, successful men who I respect that are puzzled with or empty of female companionship. If you have difficulties with this endeavor simply work on it. Do you have a sister that can help you? Do you have a female friend that can help you? What has your history been with females as friends will tell you a lot of where you now stand in terms of being able to control who will enter your life without any fear of harm or hurt. I do not know how old you are but you sound young, if so don’t rush. The more women you are involved with the better husband you will become for the one you will stick with. Never compromise the qualities that are important to you and at the same time build the qualities that will always make you in demand. What you give is what you will get.
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Caslug I have to practice my penmanship :)

The point is not necessarily to convince the guy I am debating I explain this above. However elections would not be won or loss by Republicans and Democrats if someone wasn’t changing their mind.

I actually have many Liberal views. However if you can’t hold people accountable for what they say than the forums are nothing but factless trash talk. I do have to run otherwise I would explain further.
Good night
Jamie
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Lionheart "just post all the other girl sites you know of, plus www.Amigos.com..."

Amigo is not a direct competitor I believe their primary business is email correspondence mine is personal introductions. Why don’t you provide the "girl sites" list? You say you have been doing this for 4 years. Tell us all the money and time you have saved by doing it your way for the last 4 years?

"I do not like the advantage he is getting."

Explain what advantages I have that is not available to everyone else?

“"e is discussing business, not feelings."
You mean sort of like your feelings as noted on another post of yours that all "US Americans can only think black or white. They have no clue about grey zones." This is the type of negative feelings we should be sharing?

Lionheart if you don’t like my post don’t read them.
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Nato "Everyone is free to say what they want. People in America cite 'freedom of speech' etc, but that doesn't necessarily mean that because you can say something, that you should (or at least be a bit more concise)."

Well please tell me by quoting me what I should not of said what infringement of free speech did I make? As for "concise" I responded to every one of your points yet your lengthy reply failed to answers most of my questions. Is this a fair way to derive an understanding on where we agree and where we disagree by avoiding most of the 10 questions I asked of you to better understand your position?

"On the internet people generally feel 'safe' saying what they want. In the case of your hate mail, it's not totally unbelievable that it's genuine, it's just more likely to be not be."

But you do not provide any reason for this conclusion please do so?

"While I agree with you saying that you should be free to defend yourself, it doesn't follow that the very act of you defending yourself somehow proves your innocence."

I never said this. I said wouldn’t it have been better for a guilty person not to have said anything. You are the one that said the fact that I defended myself meant nothing because I would not tell the truth. I asked you to explain your assumption that I was in the wrong and why you think I lacked the character to be honest, which you still have not done?

"Online I find the more people rush to their own defence with long sidetracking posts, the more likely they are to be pulling the old 'I'm responding, I MUST be genuine!'."

What is "sidetracking" about my post? Please quote the sidetracking response from me? I responded specifically to every point that was made by you and Desi.

"You have to bear in mind we know you'll undoubtedly have had this discussion many many times bvefore in your line of business, so I ask myself - why do you do this?"

I do this so I can demonstrate to others the emotional mindset, confused logic and the lack of facts that is used to derive the opinions from people such as you that believe this is a "slave trade." Which means you must think all men who participate in what you define as a "slave trade" must be slave owners correct? And what would you call their wives, slaves? There can be no other answer based on what you have said.

"referring to the defence thing) - those who want your services aren't going to be put off by a bunch of men and women who don't like it, and I'm sure you are immune to any 'personal' attacks people might make regarding your line of business."

Correct, call it a public service.

"Basically, and unfortunately, there are those amongst us who believe love should not be a business. You make it your business, and will naturally try to legitimise it. So while you wonder how Desi can sleep at night on the pillow of a liar, we are all wondering how you can sleep at night working in a glorified slave trade."

I never said nor do I do anything that says love is a business. Please define the specific task that is performed that would make you believe this of me?

"Did you make up that letter, who can know for sure (except yourself)."

That has not been determined.

"It makes for pretty unlikely reading - the debate is someone making overly strong and wild accusations about you, and you being the voice of reason. If it's genuine, I would say, of all the mails you have received on the subject, you've clearly picked the ones that are easiest to ridicule and 'prove wrong'."

Are the "accusations" any more "wild" than your definition that this is a "glorified slave trade"? I am however glad that you see one of my points I make that the people who hold such an opinion throw "wild accusations", lack "reason", and are easily proved "wrong."

"And yes, I know you've offered to print your and Desi's discussion on the subject should she wish to make it private, but I don't see the point. You will never convince Desi (and many others) that what you do is a genuine, valuable and meaningful service, and clearly she will never make you see the error of your ways."

I offer the same opportunity to you. Show us how you can put forth a good argument that what I do is wrong by fairly debating the topic with facts and truth. Which mean clarifying and answering all questions put forth. The exhibiting of contrary views can allow others to better exam their beliefs. The idea is not to convince the extremist, but those that have not made a decision on the matter and to help other better defend what they do if they so choose. In many cases ones prior views may alter some degree. I know my opinions have changed based on new facts. However if one takes a position of not acknowledging their mistakes like you did when you said my response of Amy’s email was not a "debate" because she never responded when I provided evidence that she did respond. Than you are right such people will never be convinced. I ended my first response to you with "You can now show us what you are capable of." It appears saying something that is clearly wrong from a factual point of view is not deserving of a retraction no matter how small it is. I can see why you defend Desi who does the same.

"For things like this, it's a choice"

I have made the point on my website that most people who believe the way you do would not make it a choice they would prevent this activity. You said this was a "glorified slave trade", how can you agree to make such an act a "choice" if you believe this? I would never agree that something I believe to be a slave trade should be allowed to continue. But you do please explain?

"Ah.... now I understand why your reply was so long - it's very easy to get carried away with the old verbal 'runs' (putting it politely)!"

Understood.

"As an afterthought - are you married and if so, how did you meet your partner? Just curious..."

I am married to a Colombian who I met in Colombia 3 years ago she is the primary model on my website. And I must now go she does not like me playing on the computer.
Jamie
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Lionheart "US Americans can only think black or white. They have no clue about grey zones."

By black and white I was literally referring to written text not his way of thinking. It is inane of you to say American think like this... I guess we can even say somewhat black and white of you.
No other nation thinks in as many variations of color as we do. We would not be the worlds most creative force and greatest magnate if this was the case.

"God, people, don't be so dense, relax ... this is Friendly Talkzone"

There is nothing wrong with a little spirited debate. However to call Mr. Hollywood "dense" and than say lets be friendly is hypocritical.

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Atrevido "hustles his commercial interest on every site he can get his hands on that has anything remotely to do with Colombia like Planet-Love and the defunct caligringo"

Please give me specific examples of how I hustle my site on these forums? I sign off with a business signature but this is very typical in forums of all types. I belong to the Latin Women list and Gringo.com along with other forums that have nothing to do with Colombia or women. Search the archives of them all and show me how I hustle my site. Unless someone is asking me a specific question about my business or I am relating experiences derived from my business I don’t use these forums for bring up my busines. If that was the case Plant-Love which is a moderated forum I have been on for over two years along with the others would have done something about this. But they have not and I have a respected reputation on these sites based on my input and the input of customers that have used my services. I can refer you to the many links if you like and you in return can show me examples of links to threads that support you claim? As for Caligringo the owner of this site invited me to join his forum based on seeing my writings on Plane-Love. I have this email from him which I can post if you so like? Were you one of the many moderators of the Caligringo forum?
I do not believe any of the forums I post to allow for shameless promotion, which means I would have been warned or removed from such sites. I provide a different perspective as an owner of a Latin Marriage Agency that others like to hear. You don’t see many other agency owners openly discussing their field of experience. I suspect for one they prefer not to deal with inept critics like you. But handling your bewildering attack void of accuracy is not a difficult task for me.

"He runs a very very expensive marriage agency in Barranquilla with outragious rates for a business operating in the Colombian economy."

The primary economy I do business with is the American economy not the Colombian economy. My customers are Americans not Colombians. If someone was making a hammock in Colombia for export to the United States they don’t determine that the pricing should not be $150 because few Colombians can afford this price. They determine what the market value is for the hammock in the States not Colombia. Is this not correct? My prices allow me to pay my employees more than the Colombian market wage. Are you going to complain about this also that they are making more than most wage earners in the Colombian economy? Or is your interest strictly with what I make? I have a degree in Economics please tell me why you are right and I am wrong?

As for being "expensive" that is a relative term is it not? If you do not make very much money I may seem expensive. If you only judge the service on pricing and not quality and results it may seem expensive. Doesn’t the Market ultimately determine the prices I can charge? Doesn’t the customer have an option not to buy from a business they believe is too expensive? Why does it get you so mad about the prices I charge for services you do not need? Why don’t you use this as an opportunity to start your own like business and charge much less money if as you say I am "hustling" money? Should I base my pricing on what you think I should charge? If I charge too little and go out of business because I can not afford to cover my expenses or charge too much that I get no business is this not my call? Why is this such a big issue for you? There are many such services to choose from I do not have a monopoly so why do you care? Let me see I have an MBA degree; I have been a Financial Controller for both an aerospace and a semiconductor company; I have owned my own Graphic Design business for 8 years, yet you are the expert on what prices I should charge and what is expensive and what is not?

"He engages people like Desi on these forums"

As I told your collaborative friend Nato above, Desi engaged me. You have some hidden bias against me that makes you overlook the truth. Why don’t you be open and tell us what that is?

"with poorly worded diatribes..."

I am always open for improvements please give me some examples of my poor English writing skills. Do it in a format such as this so I can learn from my mistakes:

Atrevido poor English punctuation:
"a very very expensive"

The correct punctuation:
a very, very expensive

Atrevido’s poor English spelling
"authenticty" "outragious"

The correct spelling:
authenticity, outrageous

You are a very small man Atrevido I don’t claim to be a role model for good writing. I can rarely re-read anything I have written that I don’t find grammatical errors with. But for you to criticize my words with your own blatant imperfections tells me you are surely a sorry, immature fellow. You have the angst without the creativity how pitiful of you to demonstrate your hate and envy.

"...in order to feign some non-commercial authenticty."

Since you know my record so well please give us specific examples of my commercial endeavors that are void of anything else but commercialism as you so state ("hustles his commercial interest on every site") this should not be hard to do correct?

"...classycolombianladies.com. How's that for a commercial plug Jamie?"

Atrevido this is not a commercial plug it is a recommendation (I guess I could have used this as one of the example of the "poorly worded" English you abhor). Please tell us all the reasons you recommend this agency? I know you like to throw out critical inaccuracies without substantiation, but you could at least provide some substantive positive reasons for your referral so interested parties may befit from your knowledge this should not be hard to do correct?

I will be very surprised if you answer my questions I can tell it is not your style to be held accountable for what you say. I have engaged you before haven’t I; you are not capable of defending your position or being honest. If I recall what you do best is quiver and make threats.
Jamie
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Nato "If Desi was indeed right, that you made up that email, I don't believe you would openly admit and be ridiculed by everyone."

Nato if I did make up that email wouldn’t of it been better for me not to say anything and let your assumption of my deceit drift away instead of openly challenging it? No one would have remembered and I could continue to fool the public (all except for you and Desi) with my phony exchanges.
You say "if" Desi’s accusation was right you would not believe that I would admit to this. That is a fair assumption in general because most criminals don’t admit to their crimes. But is that how you want to judge individuals by where the majority would fall in? If not then tell me specifically what indications I gave you that tells you my character would be of one not to tell the truth?
Now I ask you to assume that Desi was not right, do you think she would admit that she made a mistake and should not be making accusations without proof? Or do you believe that it is up to the accuser to say what they want without being able to substantiate what they say? Wouldn’t it of been fair instead of talking about general similarities in the writing that she lay out the text and show us the comparisons that she was making for her conclusions to demonstrate her point? Can I assume that any accusations you would make that were shown to be inaccurate would be corrected with an apology?

"Besides, stop trying to wind her up, what's the use?"

Lets understand your logic.
I don’t say anything to Desi but Desi tells some one else that I am "pretending".
I tell Desi this is not true and invite Desi to debate the topic she is referring too.
Desi response is no and I respond back.

So that is:
one post from her to another directly speaking of me.
one post from me.
one post from her to me
one post from me
And based from this exchange in your eyes I am the one who is winding Desi. I can only assume from this belief that if someone wrote, for example, that you were a phony and that this was not true you would not say anything because you wouldn’t want to "wind" up the accuser correct? You would let the inaccuracy about you stand correct? Because there would be no "use" to telling others the truth correct?

"...debate wasn't really one cos 'Amy', didn't have any chance to respond to your repetitive answers."

Nato, Amy did respond to my email. Right below my response to her first letter there is a link in large black font that is underlined and says, “Amy’s Response”. Did you not see this? While Amy did respond she did not answer most of my questions but she did apologize for her personal attack which is much more than what Desi is showing herself capable of. You can now show us what you are capable of.

Now I will write to your friend Atrevido below.
Jamie
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