You Can't meet a nice girl in a Bar?

utopiacowboy says on Apr 10, 2005, 11:07:

I certainly agree with you that it doesn't make any difference where you meet a woman and I wouldn't hold it against a woman just because I happened to meet her in a bar or club. I just think that if a guy sets out looking for a woman and restricts himself to bars and clubs, he's going to miss 90% or more of the women out there. Again, it depends what you're looking for - if you're looking for a party girl, a rumbera - then by all means restrict your search to bars and clubs. I know a lot of single women in Medellin and none of them frequent bars or clubs with any frequency. Also, the British culture is completely different, a lot of British life revolves around pubs.

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andrews says on Apr 10, 2005, 11:53:

Sure UC but the women you know, is it more of a social/ financial thing, that if there out they expect to be escorted or that good girls just don't go to bars? Also, alot of those U.S. girls that won't meet a guy in a bar will make an exception if the guy has Irish brouge or an Aussie accent, right?

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Victoria Maria says on Apr 10, 2005, 12:04:

I went to bars for good conversation ...when I lived in NYC and Miami. I prefer talking to men than women most of the time and I am a straight attractive woman. Both of my brothers in the USA met their wives of over 10 years in bars and I too met my significant other of many years among a group in a bar in NYC-he then asked me out and we followed the normal protocal of dating etc.
But Colombia is another country. I go to church quite frequently for (my own good) and am considering joining a gym- otherwise I will rely on my family and them introducing I suppose.

Victoria Maria

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dwmte says on Apr 10, 2005, 13:07:

i think utopia is correct .... especially in the context on this site, where the guys more often than not, make some most derisive comments about the ladies and how they're often spoke of and thought of as little more than bar flies.
i'm sorry for the colombian ladies on this note.

but if one is looking for a lady/significant other/wife, to limit one's search to bars is a non plus (for me).

good LORD, ladies occupy one half the life/earth...do bars? is dancing the only route to union, marriage, bed? i don't think so. it maybe one, but there are as many 'routes' as there are people, so to keep ones options open would be the wisest choice.

certainly there are very nice ladies that can be/have been met in clubs. lets not be foolish. however, it's hardly the end of the count. where's the other 99.999% of the ladies...in the mall, walking, shopping, talking with friends, school, church, dr. office, driving a car, swimming, etc. etc etc. so guys...open your eyes, she's where ever you are.

dw

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poco says on Apr 10, 2005, 13:47:

Well this is interesting In the context of this forum, assuming their Spanish is not good, no friends other than expats etc. Then Dancing and the Club scene is about the best way. With any luck you will at least met a woman with friends. Just as Motel means hourly rates, bars is somewhere you met someone to accompany you to the Motel.

Clubs is a better term, both drinking and dancing. In the United States there are good and bad clubs. A woman looking for a guy to support her is a probable find and could care less about who that person is. At the under end of the spectrum is the Business woman who likes to dance or is out with her friends and may only go to clubs a few times a year.

Appears several posting on this site have Clubs (bars) or frequent the expat establishments. Not much better way I can think of to get introduced to someone if that is what you are looking for.

In a country where 60% of the people are poor,, you may be eliminating 60% of the women and who wants that, unless you are looking for someone to support you.

"When you men get home and face an anti-war protester, look him in the eyes and shake his hand. Then, wink at his girlfriend, because she knows she's dating a pussy." Quote - General Tommy Franks

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drummer says on Apr 10, 2005, 15:18:

Where is she? Of course, there are those internet connections....where you cannot see the person you are corresponding with. My first question would be.....do you come here often?

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utopiacowboy says on Apr 10, 2005, 15:57:

Well, Poco, you hit the nail on the head when you said "Just as Motel means hourly rates, bars is somewhere you met someone to accompany you to the Motel." Which is why I said if you are just looking for a party girl, sure go ahead and restrict yourself to bars. For a guy looking for a serious relationship with a woman of substance, you're not likely to find her in a bar. Let's face it, if you were looking for a wife, would you want someone who's made a career out of accompanying guys to motels? I think not.

In answer to your question, Andrews, they tend to be women like my wife who are concerned with maintaining a good reputation and are not "easy". If they do go to a bar or club it's for a special occasion and they go with a group of friends. Not who you want to pick up for a night at the motel (they would not be interested in that) but for a wife, excellent!

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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jacobtafler says on Apr 11, 2005, 07:56:

informtion hello my name is jacob i can speak some spanish i will viisit colombia for the first time what are the best cities to visit in colombia for 30 dayes to find nice and good girl and good night life and save city thanks for any informtion

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vladimiro says on Apr 11, 2005, 08:32:

You can meet nice girls in a bar( nice and drunk ), but they might regret having met you the next day when they sober up:)

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