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kernow62 says on Jan 6, 2005, 20:53:

It isn't normal, she has a hidden agenda.

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fzrdan says on Jan 6, 2005, 20:58:

kernow62 So you basically agree I am a blind moron? Thanks buddy, I appreciate that.

Seriously, I am starting to think that also (that she has an agenda, not that I am a moron :)). She gives me totally different signals sometimes.

New poll. Is fzrdan a blind moron?

What will be the result????

Why would you ask such a question? Why Why Why????

I am losin it...

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kernow62 says on Jan 6, 2005, 21:23:

My wife wanted to know all about me before we got married. I assume it is a normal trait of couples to want to know more about each other, especially if you are both planning to take it to the next level.

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calipro says on Jan 6, 2005, 22:11:

Maybe she is just using you for sex.

It happens sometimes. Not all relationships should be serious relationships.

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fzrdan says on Jan 6, 2005, 22:23:

Calipro, that's it. I will believe that's what it is. Better than thinking I am a blind moron.

This is great. I have hot women using me for sex. Life is good! I thought I was ready to settle down and have a family. Why would I want to do that if I can be a personal pleasure tool for some hottie??? WHY??

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ARMacleod says on Jan 6, 2005, 22:26:

Sorry Basically, if a question is not asked, either the person already knows the answer, or, the person is not interested, whatever the answer might be.

But don't be too downhearted, we are all different, some people just do not feel comfortable asking questions for many reasons, usually because of their upbringing. I.e. Parents who discourage such inquisitiveness with the criteria "children should be seen and not heard".

On the other hand, perhaps there are darker motives, you should be asking the questions and demanding the answers.

Being of unsound mind and dubious disposition, I cannot be held legally liable for any indiscretions. ¡El diablo me hizo lo hago! But don't worry, be happy.

The brain is like a parachute, it only functions correctly when it is open. Pax vobiscum.

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tzion says on Jan 7, 2005, 05:43:

"... if in doubt, the smell is easy to identify, and taste. ..." -- Don Negro

**massif grin** LOL!!

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fzrdan says on Jan 7, 2005, 08:17:

I was hoping to hear some nice stories about how some sucker got screwed by a gold digging bitch. My plan didn't work. Oh well.

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Gomezman5 says on Jan 7, 2005, 08:30:

fzrdan------Consider this It's not a Colombian thing. No matter where you are in this world. Women and men too, have personalities that come in various shapes and forms. It would be unfair to conclude that because she does not appear to be very interested in your life or aspects of your relationship, that she is disinterested in you. Don't examine this nonsense that she may be using you for money or sex or whatever. Becacuse it is just as likely that you can find someone that is using you for sex or money but she will ALSO be very conversive and interested in your life so that she can get more money and more sex

My point is, that if she was bored with you, she would leave you, or at least be unfaithful to you, which may be the case anyway...but I'll assume such is not the case.

So consider this, could it be that you and her, perosnality wise are just incomoatible with each other? That maybe she is timid, an introvert, and likes to keep things simple and that you on the other hand are conversive and gregarious? Maybe in reality it is you that is not content with her? Not that thter is a direct personality conflict in that you guys don't get along, but that there are fundimental personality differences on a day to day basis to the extent that it prevents you from interacting they way you want to do so. In other words...she may not be the right woman for you.

The sex can be good, you could get along, have common interests...etc etc. but the subtle things like this, the things that make relatioships work well, might not be on the same plane...So..thnk about what I have said here

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paisa29 says on Jan 7, 2005, 08:43:

if you love somebody you don´t have nothing to hide

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YEP says on Jan 7, 2005, 09:23:

Where did you get that hammer Paisa29
it's hitting the nail right this time ;-)


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British Paisa says on Jan 7, 2005, 09:47:

From my experience women always want to know everything about you.
What you have been doing, where you've been etc...
So I would say it is not normal!....

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nanis says on Jan 7, 2005, 09:51:

not every woman is like that! it depends on your relationship and on your personality.. if you are insecure then you are gonna ask questions whether you are a man or a woman, i do not ask my husband those type of questions because i know that he aint gonna cheat on me that's for sure he knows best! or else i'll chop his bolas right off!!! and that goes for men aswell if they are insecure about themselves they're gonna start askig questions too and most men are!

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tzion says on Jan 7, 2005, 10:04:

My last girlfriend and I had been with each other for about five years. (She was supposed to be "the one"
but well...screw it.) She was moderately interested in my life but she didn't really probe deeply. It was
more on the level of "I'd love to see pictures of you when you were a baby" or "What would you do during the
breaks when you were at school?". She wasn't an introvert or an extrovert but something in between. I,
OTOH, have always been on the more introverted side and hardly ever asked her any questions. That didn't by
any means mean I did not love her, cherish her or was not interested in her as a person. Quite to the
contrary. I've just never been the type to hold forth about my past personal life; not because I've something
to hide but because I only see a point in talking about the past if there's something about it there's to
analyze. For that reason, I never volunteered information and when asked would only give brief replies.

The point is, she may be a similar person who--as someone said--keeps herself to herself. But if she's
really exhibiting something that, from your description, borders on hostility when you ask her something,
then I'd be wondering, to say the least.

-- Michael

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skyblue says on Jan 7, 2005, 10:21:

the past My ex-novia was simmilar to the woman in question and I have found that she had things to hide. Her past was very difficult (to say the least) and she was very slow to letting me into her past life. She thought that she might chase me away if I were to hear the whole story in a short amount of time. If she asked no questions, she might not get any questions back at her. To this day I know that there are more things that might have been learned about her. It didn't work out for us, but maybe she will find a more patient person in the future. Someone that will stick around to keep seeing that amazing ass.

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fzrdan says on Jan 7, 2005, 11:13:

Time to give a bit more information. People are speculating greatly here. She is not hostile in any way. She is just very curious why I ask so many questions about her life. It is not as if I know nothing about her. She will open up if I push a little about a certain subject. I would just rather have her be more curious about my life and less curious about why I am curious. Does that make sense?

Mrs.Gomez, just because someone asks questions does not make them insecure. ACBlessing has a thread about hot dog toppings. Does that mean he is insecure about hot dogs?

gib, if I was thinking with my one eyed wonder, I would have dumped her ass already and went to some other little hottie. I know I could get another in Cali without any difficulties. Sex is great but there is more to it than that.

Gomezman, I think your comments make the most sense.

Come to think of it, why did I air my dirty laundry here? My brain was not working correctly yesterday when I posted this personal issue. Thanks for everyones comments but I think I am done with this thread.

Have a nice day.

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nanis says on Jan 7, 2005, 11:24:

funny guy fzrdan but i'm not talking about stupid things like that (hot dog toppings?..please!!) i'm talking about relationship issues like jealousy.. sorry if you misunderstood me may be i just did not make it clearer.. of course people need to ask questions! how else are we suppose to get to know one another? i for one asked my husband a lot of questions when we first met and he did the same but there are two types of questions the ones that help you get to know your partner and the ones that are just annoying like where did you go? who were you with? that's the type of questions i'm talking about... for me i just don't bother asking those types of questions... but i do like to ask my partner questions about his background, culture, childhood family etc.. if i didn't ask him then he's gonna think that i'm not interested in him and that is far from the truth!

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utopiacowboy says on Jan 7, 2005, 12:24:

You really hit the nail on the head there, Mrs. Gomez. Some questions are good and provocative - you don't mind answering those. Others - the type you described - are just annoying.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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dwmte says on Jan 7, 2005, 18:21:

as for the first question... is the sky blue?, if i was asked that i would wonder, too.

dw

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Gomezman5 says on Jan 7, 2005, 19:31:

Hey GIB I don't know how detailed I would ever want to be regarding my love life(If I had one) on the internet. But I will say this, in the month that I have been here, I pretty much have learned one thing about this forum. And that is that while I may not agree with many of the people out here sometimes, I am sort of amazed at the level of intelligence and intelectual thought that the people have here.

So, given the above observation, I don't think it would be such a bad thing, if I were to describe a problem that I was having with my girl on a forum like this. My point is, if the people here are good enough to seek advise and imput from about other matters...especially those related to my safety in my travels, then why not at least allow their imput on my love life....Yea there are some stooges here, bur, in general, I think that they are few and far between.

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dwmte says on Jan 8, 2005, 04:51:

more seriously one thing a foreigner who visits colombia, or for that matter, just about any developing nation, is that when meeting and talking with the locals, one notices how simple their lives are. many haven't been out of their pueblos/cities, much less out of their countries.

possibly the reticence of your lady friend is because in comparison to you and your life, her's might seem terribly insignificant. there might be nothing much to talk about that doesn't make her seem really 'plain'.

take that into consideration, and talk/ask questions accordingly.

dw

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