I need some advice from those of you - particularly North American men - who are involved in relationships with or are married to Colombianas. Please don't be put off by the finger-wagging-sounding-ness of that, for I am one of you too, we're in this together. Maybe it's just because I've spent too much time on this site, but with each additional reading of someone's cute-ish reference to their novia or esposa, I can't help but feel more and more just like a damn statistic. I mean, I'm big into my ladyfriend too, and if she was anything but a Colombian female I'd have nothing to write to you anonymous people about, but the emerging stereotypical-ness of such a relationship is starting to make me uneasy. And it ain't just on PBH. The majority of North American males heading down on my last flight to Colombia - they were doing the same thing I was!!! WTF mate? Isn't there something wrong with that scene? So I want to know how you guys confront the feeling (if you ever have it at all) that you've been dedicating yourself to a love story that's realistically just so...common?
By august on Nov 19, 2008, 00:54 in Friendly Talkzone.
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La_Huella says on Nov 19, 2008, 01:29: You're just a face in the crowd brother.
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Peter (Moderator) (Trustee board) (Dev team) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Nov 19, 2008, 01:48: Then again, love is common. If your gf was from the US, would you feel the need to identify with all US guys? You don't have to identify with a particular group just because your gf is from a specific country... Poor but snappy 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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justin.s says on Nov 19, 2008, 02:07: Hmm I havent been to colombia yet, but no matter how common the situation may seem, it still can't compare to places such as thailand for example. How many million 'farang' go to thailand every year just for that reason alone?
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dwmte7 says on Nov 19, 2008, 03:39: it's the 'good ship lollipop' mate....climb on board and enjoy the ride. lots of folks ride this ship. some make it to shore, some are lost at sea, some jump ship somewhere along the way, some drown and some make it to the destination: a happy life. you will undoubtedly be one of the above. dwmte 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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utopiacowboy says on Nov 19, 2008, 04:12: It's wrong and you know it's wrong. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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elmodefoque says on Nov 19, 2008, 04:26: i'm colombian to the bone but i still stand by what i've been saying for hundreds of years. I'll get there, when I get there! 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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sandman0011 (☼Travelguide writer) says on Nov 19, 2008, 04:39: As the saying goes, www.medellintravelguide.com www.medellinofficerentalswww.medellinlanguageinstitute.com 0 funny, 2 helpful. |
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Philly says on Nov 19, 2008, 04:42: August, yes the fact is you are one of many but you are on your mission. Every situation is unigue in its own way. We all travel the same path to get here, but it is up to you to make your own way once you get here.
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Bill Turley (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Nov 19, 2008, 04:56: Well, I don't really fit in the same mold as many of the others, I met my lady love in Miami and lived with her in Ft. Lauderdale for a year before we got married. This was a cultural adjustment and examination time. It worked, I am married to my best friend and have been for nearly 20 years and we live in Colombia Mr. Bill Somondoco 0 funny, 1 helpful. |
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elmodefoque says on Nov 19, 2008, 05:35: you wanna try to find REAL CHEMESTRY SIN INTERES I'll get there, when I get there! 1 funny, 1 helpful. |
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teeo9111 says on Nov 19, 2008, 06:00: Elmo,in all due respect I don't think Mr. August was referring to the spoiled colombian bitches of NYC,they are a different breed of cat once exposed to the american culture and lifestyle,just like american women.He's referring to the colombianas of Colombia.....
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Chriscan says on Nov 19, 2008, 06:22: It sounds to me like your problems are in your own head. Don't worry about what everyone thinks. ************* WARNING ************* my words often come from my ass. www.independentbanff.com 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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elmodefoque says on Nov 19, 2008, 06:49: guys guys please, colombianas in colombia are no challenge. I'll get there, when I get there! 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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jdixon150 says on Nov 19, 2008, 06:58: I agree completely and often ask the same question but I think the above comment sums it up best. "Life is not a dress rehearsal" Rose Tremain.. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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badboy says on Nov 19, 2008, 07:01: "in new york, i have a hard time nailing broads in their 70's"
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feldz0084 says on Nov 19, 2008, 07:06: I havent been to NYC in ages Elmo, but in Minneapolis, the 10 Colombianas we have and 1 hot Peruana I saw while back are all married to some dorky fokn white guys with big pockets, who work downtown corporate
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 07:29: "These Paisa women are dedicated to making a home for their families, being lovers and providers and seek a man that can provide for their futures. They are fiercely loyal and expect only fidelity in return." I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 1 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Chriscan says on Nov 19, 2008, 07:35: I think Colombianas are more likely to be loyal if they really love a man for who he is rather than for money and security though it's no exact sceince. ************* WARNING ************* my words often come from my ass. www.independentbanff.com 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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TheYoungEngineer says on Nov 19, 2008, 08:38: Haha - yeah - I feel pretty messed up sometimes - I go to school with all guys.. I go to another countries with all guys from my country to hang out with ladies there... jeez - where did I end up? Maybe just on top.
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elmodefoque says on Nov 19, 2008, 08:55: EXCELLENT POINT youngengeneer, what about older colombianas. The ones gringos don't pick up,are left behind to live a long loveless life after they hit 35. I'll get there, when I get there! 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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TheYoungEngineer says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:02: yeah - I agree - but also they have grown up and had experience too... so do those older ones chase after you too? or are you too busy with the 20yo ones?
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elmodefoque says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:19: now that i think about it, there must be lots of horny older women colombia, but i'm too busy attending to the young ones half my age. I'll get there, when I get there! 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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webmanco says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:24: :-) ...A yo, déjenme queto y no me jodan má! ... 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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paisa29 says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:25: Paisa/Calena/Luver ... cada quien habla de como le va en la feria... me pregunto que tipo de mujeres anda relacionado ústed. "Fill the earth with the light and warmth of hospitality" Conrad Hilton 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:38: Yo te entiende su lado paisa 29 pero ese es mi humilde opionion, con mucho experiencia saliendo con bastante viejas alli para 4 anos. Ese fue casi mi numero uno razon para mudar de Antioquia. Todo la gente tiene su direcho para tener su opinion personal y ese son mios 100%.. I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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paisa29 says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:41: respeto su opinión, pero eso no le darecho a generalizar porque todas las paisas no "Fill the earth with the light and warmth of hospitality" Conrad Hilton 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Waterdawg says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:44: PCL / That's kind of a broad Statement , don't ya think ???? I have lived down South for five years now , and ya I see some of what you are eluding to , but also some really great , cute and Nice Women too .. Folks are pretty much the same the World over... No ???
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 09:56: Waterdawg! one of the first acronyms in my first statement was IMO(in my opinion) thats all is it.. Thats how I feel personally! no more no less.. I give you kudos on how you see some of those hyjinks going on down there as well and are not blind to it like MOST gringos(covering the sun with one finger lol) and I agree there are some great women to be found there though far and few between. Geesh I found one. It took me A LONG while but I found one. I like the fact that you go out of you way to try and help your CIEGO gringo buddies when possible. Good for you! I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Waterdawg says on Nov 19, 2008, 10:02: PCL / Everything is cool ... Some times I get tired of both sides ..lol .. It seems to get a bit over the top around here .. " Us vers Them " Gringo-Colombiano ... Men - Women and so on ... Grab a bottle of wine / Cheese / Spanish Ham / Old time Beach music / Pretty Lady and Chill !
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yap271 says on Nov 19, 2008, 10:57: ELMO has it SO RIGHT ....always!!.. HEHE..
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Mononoke28 says on Nov 19, 2008, 10:58: To the OP, it's called love and being in a relationship. If you lived in LA and your girlfriend lived in NY, you'd be making the same amount of trips but on a national level. It's normal, it's life. Diana 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Robert Jorge says on Nov 19, 2008, 15:12: Paisa/Calena/Luver described my ex-wife spot on - almost scary. Except, she is from Bogota, not Medellin: He who farts in church, sits in his own pew. 0 funny, 1 helpful. |
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dwmte7 says on Nov 19, 2008, 15:51: well, there's certainly those wandering colombians like colombianos. i think it's a bit more than a crap shoot, depends on how the two of you are. been there done that there are ladies in colombia as faithful as your dog, and there are those that follow the old chicken rule..."the old rooster says, cockadoodle doo...the old hen says anycockal doo" so just get to know your lady before you sign up for permanence....also....know yourself. don't expect what you don't give. dwmte 1 funny, 0 helpful. |
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:28: "These Paisa women are dedicated to making a home for their families, being lovers and providers and seek a man that can provide for their futures. They are fiercely loyal and expect only fidelity in return."
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:31: Actually, this is an even worse, further off-base generalization.
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:36: So we have one who thinks paisa girls are doting, man-dependent, brainless homemakers and another who thinks they are crazy two-timing maniacal bitches...
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:39: Again,, OPINIONS, EVEN YOURS! manNred are like assholes, everybody has one and they all stink.. lol One thing for sure though there are ALOT of wannabe know it alls on this forum.. Even drop me into that category.. lol I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:42: Opinions that are insulting/borderline racist/sexist get deconstructed and ridiculed... deal with it.
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:45: And again,, Alot of wannabe know it alls. Who think they are the Dr Phil of Colombia.. Who cant see other peoples opinions, I dont see anything borderline racist/sexist in my posts.. Deal with that. We just have to agree to disagree.. simple as that. I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:54: NO QUESTION.. Codyint in my statement the first acronym I used was (IMO) to be taken with a grain of salt. To be read just like that. I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:56: The sexism was predominant in the first misguided generalization, and the racism was prevalent in the second misguided generalization. I guess it depends on whether paisas consider themselves a race or not (some do), in which case, regionalist would be more appropriate.
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 16:56: ps I don't actually think Americans are ugly little whiney bitches.
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manINred says on Nov 19, 2008, 17:21: It is unfortunate that you have had bad experiences with paisa women. If you want to paint them in a disgusting disingenuous light as a result, that's fine, but don't expect not to get called out on it.
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Paisa/Calena/Luver says on Nov 19, 2008, 17:31: I have had MANY experiences with paisa women both good and bad and I call em like I see em.. I have run into people who feel exactly the same way as I do in Colombia, even some right here in this thread.. The statements I claim are my opinions for specific instances and NOT a generalization of paisa women as a whole. As for "disingenuous light" AGAIN thats your take.. And no I don't have to respect your words as you don't of mine of course, but I do take the time to read your words and accept them for what it is YOUR WORDS AND FEELINGS.. good for you. I love Laura Acuna & Jessica Cediel! lol 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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august says on Nov 19, 2008, 17:47: Aw and the discussion was going so well...shame. At any rate, it's good to see different people's takes on this matter. Seems the lesson here is to focus more on one's heart rather than the over-representation of our types on PBH or my recent flights. I'm sure there's an equally large crowd of people with relationships with Uruguayans anyways, right?
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La_Huella says on Nov 19, 2008, 22:24: I actually think the FIRST statement about Paisa women is worse. It's almost like saying "wow, those negroes are so joyful, they love to dance and jump and sing all the time, and swing their big dicks in the wind" :P
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goin_south says on Nov 19, 2008, 22:27: ""The cold, slimy realization that one is no more than a real-live stereotype"" Why Not Colombia?..........Stay Tuned, for more.... utterly worthless, self-indulgent gobbets of nonsense. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Mongo says on Nov 19, 2008, 22:45: Here's a stereotype for you: "Here in Colombia, it's about adding life to your years, not years to your life." Brian Andrews 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Robert Jorge says on Nov 19, 2008, 22:52: Mongo, I'll buy that theory. I agree. He who farts in church, sits in his own pew. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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utopiacowboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 05:13: I appreciate my real doll. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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dwmte7 says on Nov 20, 2008, 05:38: cowboy...would that be the blow-up or the barbie? dwmte 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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utopiacowboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 05:46: Now that you mention it they used to say that she was a Barbie doll in Colombia. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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badboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 07:23: "American women generally don't appreciate their men, or any men. Or, if they do appreciate him, they either don't want to or don't know how to show it. I don't know what part of American culture has made them that way. It could be consumerism, feminism, or a combination of factors."
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badboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 09:17: or to put it another way: guys who feel "unappreciated" by the women in their own country and go looking in other countries appear to be dysfunctional and disturbed and chronically immature. the sex tourists are something altogether different. lol
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TheYoungEngineer says on Nov 20, 2008, 10:05: I think american women are just as appreciative - however many that I know are afraid to show it. It means a lot to me if a women goes up and gives me a hug - I do the same.
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Peter (Moderator) (Trustee board) (Dev team) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Nov 20, 2008, 10:32: I find all the generalizations pretty dumb, and all the projecting of ones own insecurities on these generalizations kinda funny, and sad too. Poor but snappy 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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badboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 10:49: y.e.: "I think american women are just as appreciative - however many that I know are afraid to show it."
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Mononoke28 says on Nov 20, 2008, 10:59: These Paisa women are dedicated to making a home for their families, being lovers and providers and seek a man that can provide for their futures. They are fiercely loyal and expect only fidelity in return. Diana 0 funny, 1 helpful. |
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TheYoungEngineer says on Nov 20, 2008, 15:23: Hahah!
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utopiacowboy says on Nov 20, 2008, 20:05: You haven't met the right engineer, dude. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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dwmte7 says on Nov 21, 2008, 05:25: you're right engineer....love makes all hurt better. and pretty soon, hurt goes away and is replaced by more love. dwmte 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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manINred says on Nov 21, 2008, 05:37: "I find all the generalizations pretty dumb, and all the projecting of ones own insecurities on these generalizations kinda funny, and sad too.
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