The Bogota Airport and a Woman from Medellin

Mr. Hollywood says on Feb 26, 2007, 19:51:

Meet her at the Motel El Dorado.

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StateSide says on Feb 26, 2007, 21:11:

You are NOT crazy! I know the feeling all too well. I met a Colombiana on the internet and am going to Bogota to spend some time with her. These girls can absolutely screw your head up. You will never find a girl from the US that can ever come close. Be careful... There is some very good advise on this site and there is also some bad. In your spare time read what you can here and after a while you will be able to know who to trust and who not to trust. Also some of the people on here will more easily talk with you through e-mail instead of through this forum. Make sure you turn on e-mail contact. Look on the left of this post and read the topic Arriving in Bogota.
Good Luck!

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utopiacowboy says on Feb 26, 2007, 22:11:

"Do you think that is to crazy to spend $ 500 plus hotel just to go see a girl you met on a vacation, when there are plenty of girls out here?" Yeah, it's crazy but it's a good crazy. There are millions and millions of women all over the world but it only takes one. And even after 4 years of marriage I'm still hot for that one.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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goin_south says on Feb 26, 2007, 23:31:

Aaaawhh, Sh*t, DG... Why you always want to get these guys on the merry go round, when some of em jus gotta take a spin on de Rolla Coaster! Wet & Wild.

Meet her in Medellin. There ARE...direct flights to Medellin. If she told you otherwise, and you didn't check yet... Maybe you better listen to DonGringo...and ride the MerryGoRound.

Where do we go from here?

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ricardotexas says on Feb 27, 2007, 00:25:

GO TO MEDELLIN.....I DID ALL 3 TIMES. TRUST ME. YOU WANT TO GO TO MEDELLIN. I MET MY PAISA, IN HER CITY, IN HER NEIGHBORHOOD AND MET THE WHOLE NEIGHBORHOOD AND HER WHOLE FAMILY. DON GRINGO IS RIGHT. there are direct flights to medellin. why does she want to go to bogota? paisas dont really like bogota and bogotanos dont really like medellin but they to know the paisas girls are the best. lol! FIND OUT WHO SHE IS ON A DAILY BASIS. THERE ARE LOTS OF GOOD LOVING CARING PEOPLE BUT IT TAKES JUST ONE BAD ONE TO MAKE YOU WISH YOU DIDNT GO. YES, EVEN THAT BEAUTIFUL GIRL.I KNOW SOME ARE GONNA THINK IT WAS BALLSY OF ME, BUT I NOT ONLY WENT TO MEDELLIN, I STAYED IN THERE HOME WITH SHE AND HER FAMILY. THEY GAVE UP A ROOM FOR ME. I WAS NEVER ALLOWED TO EAT OUT. THEY COOKED BREAKFEST, LUNCH AND DINNER FOR ME. I WAS ACCEPTED BY THEM AND WAS DEDICATED INTO THE FAMILY BY HER GRANDFATHER.OK SO WE WERE DRUNK BUT WHO CARES! LOL!!! THEY TREATED ME LIKE A KING. MY MONEY WAS WORTHLESS TO THEM. THEY WERE OFFENDED WHEN I OFFERED TO PAY TO STAY. dont let me paint you the perfect picture. because i went 3 times and all 3 times i stayed at there home. in not telling you to do the same. my fear was falling in love with someone that just wants her visa. they could of robbed me blind but i was blessed that i found a good one with a great family. i got to learn medellin very well. find out what neighborhood she lives in. it can tell a lil bit about her. if you want to contact me and ask anything, i am here to help you out. and hey, never let your gaurd down. dont take out american money ever and let her do all the talking in the city. if your not a paisa, you will draw alot of attention to you and especially cause you are a gringo a.k.a.(american). your not going as a tourist so dont act like one or do tourist things. you will go crazy with the endless other beautiful girls there. it too will be a test to you if you are truly in love with her. that is eye-candyland. my first trip was in feb. 2006. and with gods help, she will be here in the usa by march 20th and we will be married by may 20th. (k-1 visa).

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Kem says on Feb 27, 2007, 01:20:

I agree with DonGringo and Ricardo. I met my gf last year, also from Medellin, and yesterday booked my ticket for April. As said above, its important to know her social and cultural background and enviroment. My advice is dont start something economically unbalanced, meaning; dont let her financially be depended on you. So let her atleast be a middle class girl from a good family. I realize this sounds bad but its reality.

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blogota.com says on Feb 27, 2007, 05:14:

I have to jump on the bandwagon here... as somebody said here before, to paisas, Medellin is a religion, it does NOT make sense that she suggested Bogota as a meeting place just to make your life easier. Paisas are programed to hate going to Bogota, it's in their DNA.

My guess is that she is hedging her bets at this point, she probably has someone else -- could be a traqueto ;)-- and right now she just wants to see how things go with you. It would be a risk for her to see you in Medellin as people could see her with you and get her in trouble.

blogota.com

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blogota.com says on Feb 27, 2007, 05:15:

Kem is right... don't be the dumbass gringo that pays for everything for her and her family... CAREFUL.

blogota.com

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goin_south says on Feb 27, 2007, 05:30:

why does she want to go to bogota? Probably to get the VISA PROCESS STARTED PRONTO ;)

I remember many moonwalks in my mocassins ago, I was talking online and phone to una Paisa, who asked me if when I came to Medellin, we could also take a day to go to Bogota... to do just that, get the visa process started.

Whooooaaaah! I said. Then, I said....Ciao! for the last time.

Where do we go from here?

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Aji1 says on Feb 27, 2007, 05:40:

DG is dead on with his advise. I spent almost all of my time with my wifes friends and family when in Bogota. It gave me a chance to see them in action. It also gave my wifes family a chance to get to know me and understand "soy un gringo que tiene palabra". Thus I have never had a problem of them, or my wife, presuring me to send her family money etc.. It has been great going on ten years now. It is not a "home court advantage" if she, or they, are trying to decive you. The advantage is yours. Besides, she knows all the best and cheapest places in Medellin, why would she want to come to Bogota? Whatmore, Medellin is an easy trip from the U.S., even if you have to change planes. It is not like it is a 32 hour trip to India from the U.S. I worry she is hiding something. Maybe she is just poor, but you need to know the real deal. You won't find it in Bogota if she is from Medellin. Open your eyes, free your mind, and your a s s will follow.

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Peter (Moderator) says on Feb 27, 2007, 05:44:

Blabla what a load of paranoid comments, gentlemen. I know plenty of paisas that love to go to Bogota - let's be honest, I personally like partying in Bogota a lot more than in Medellin too.

And guys, did the guy say anything about getting married or anything like that? No. Not everyone is the "gringo wants to marry a Colombian" type.

All he said was "just to go see a girl you met on a vacation". Nothing wrong with meeting up with someone you met on vacation. Sounds like fun to me.

All this talk about "oh she'll take advantage of you" - how dumb do you think the poster is? Come on!

Poor but snappy

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Aji1 says on Feb 27, 2007, 07:02:

Better safe than sorry Expect the worst and be pleasantly suprised if it turns out to only be paranoia. Besides, I think the paranoid comments was based upon jsmithjoe's tone. He sounds like he is primed to fall. It is hard to keep your wits about you after you fall. The issue is not is the poster dumb, it is about retaining your wits about you. As shown in the quote below, he already has one foot on the slippery slope.

"I just cannot get this girl off my mind. We still talk all the time. I obsess over her."

Make sure the boat is sea worthy before you go out too far. I think that is all that is being said by the paranoid group.

Zai jian

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jsmithjoe says on Feb 27, 2007, 10:49:

Wait wait wait... First thank you so much for all the advice.

I, not her, suggested bogota. Again, she did not suggest Bogota. She wants me to go to Medellin. The problem is there are no direct flights from LAX to Medellin. There are, however, flights from LAX to Bogota (Obviously there are direct flights from Medellin to Bogota). So since I am only going for a weekend, I would like to cut 3 and half hours out of my trip (6 hours round trip). (i.e. waiting for a connection in Medellin + actual flight + landing departing + then going back to bogota). Thus, I thought it was fair to ask her to meet me in Bogota. That is why the post states "she said she would meet me in Bogota."

For the record - the girl gives me a speech about Medellin everytime I talk to her. In medellin they say this, in Medellin they eat that, in Medellin blah blah blah... She is proud and would like me to go there. Again, I have already been there. But I am busy and If I am only there for 4 days - might as well make the most of my time.

As for giving her money - I am not going to do that, and for getting married - yeah I am 28 and an attorney - and I am not quite willing to give away half of my income under the California community property laws.

Thank you so much for the advice - Its just a weekend - not a life decision - I guess I was not that clear, but again thank you so much.

Let me know if that changes any opinions.... Thanks so much for all the help genuinely enjoyed all the info!

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ricardotexas says on Feb 27, 2007, 12:03:

it just sounded like somoene madly in love. you obsess for her? mr smith my self and all theses other guys are speaking truth. none of use didnt say to not do it. hey, there is no better to me, and i am latino! not even the famous big booty puerto rican girl is better than a colombiana. the last thing we everrr want to hear is you gotten kidnapped or was suckered by a beautiful paisa in the country with the highest kidnappings in the whole world at one time. i am going off of statistics. the capital cities (ie. bogota) are the normally the most dangerous. medellin has calmed down alot since escobar has been gone. all that glitters isnt gold. but i think we all did see you mention

"She said she would meet me in Bogota since there are direct flights it will be much easier than going to Medellin."

an extra 3 nours is well worth your safety, your pocketbook, your heart, and your sanity.

poor but happy is the best place for the truth when it comes to talking anything colombia. especially the women. buddy you are in love and its ok to admit it!.lol....just be careful. we are family here at POOR BUT HAPPY. JOIN THE CLUB.

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Kem says on Feb 27, 2007, 14:31:

So what you are saying is that you just want to spend one fun weekend with this girl and thats it? Then you should go for it, and not care about anything said.

Or are you falling head over heals with this girl and do you secretely see a future with her?

In that case, you should follow the advise given above.

Its simple really -)

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calif en la selva says on Feb 27, 2007, 16:28:

FLIGHTS American Airlines leaves LA at 0700 and heads for Miami, then a direct flight to Medellin puts you there at Rio Negro around 9 PM

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