Question about Barranquilla

vladimiro says on May 31, 2004, 23:08:

600mil pesos is only $200 USD. The family probably needs it what ever the reason - and it won't be the last time her family asks you for money.

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walter says on Jun 1, 2004, 00:52:

What does your gut feeling say? You have to be aware that she is poor. So, there is a chance she is trying to milk you for money. Best thing is to use time to get to know her. If the relationship has not been that long and you rarely see her. I would personally make an excuse of not having the money. Or tell her you need more time in order to provide this kind of money for this kind of thing.

I will tell you this, if she consistenly ask, ask and ask for money. This is a big indicator of wanting the "plata" and not you.

Another option, tell her you will have the money when you visit her again. And see for your self if this is a legit request.

Bueno Suerte!

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viewpoint says on Jun 1, 2004, 06:35:

The advice you asked for If you need to think (or question) about sending your future wife $200 for any reasonable request (considering her economic condition), then you either lack unconditional love for her or you have already made up your mind (looking for an excuse) that the marriage is not going to happen. $200 wouldn't do much more than pay three months rent for a two bedroom apartment without utilities. It probably pays two months rent and utilities. In the USA you might be expected to spend that much on a visit to a "fine dining" resturant with your girlfriend. Send the $200 and maybe she (and her family) will eat two square meals a day for awhile. You ought to be sending her a $100 per month "just in case she needs it", after all you have committed to marry this woman and more than likely your economic means are much greater than hers.

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utopiacowboy says on Jun 1, 2004, 07:24:

I must agree with you, Gary. Before my wife came to the United States, she would need money every now again for unexpected expenses and I would ask her how she would have handled it if I was not in her life. She said that she would have borrowed money from friends or coworkers. I told her that I did not want her borrowing money from anyone anymore and if she needed money to tell me. I gave her an ATM card to a bank account I set up with a little money in it so she could have some emergency money.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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seattlejames says on Jun 1, 2004, 08:20:

I agree with everyone... I kinda think that if she is your fiance, and you trust her, please go with your 'gut' feelings. If your gut feelings say she is using you for money, maybe it is a little to early for her to be your fiance. My girlfriend has never asked me for money but I send her money because it makes me happy and her happy. On the web cam she will show me what she bought for her family like, shoes, shirts, baby clothes for babies, etc.... She will take her family out for dinner at fancy restaurant and again, it makes her happy and me very happy...I also sent her a new atm card I set up for her and she was very happy, not for the money, but because I have faith in her..

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Pete in Bogota says on Jun 1, 2004, 21:00:

Give me cash cash cash I don't know how long you know this woman, but if before you are married she asks for money for her family it will NEVER END ........ BELEIVE ME.

I have noticed that the REAL honest people are embarased when they have to ask to someone they really respect for money. But in Clombian culture they have a terrible habit of going around saying, "ME PRESTA, ME PRESTA." Asking to borrow money they never plan to pay back.

Now in Colombia if your fiance's family s real poor they may clasify for a government aid where the government helps with the down payment. But there are restrictions to where they can buy the apartment / house to make sure they can make the monthly payments.

If her family asks you for money now they will never stop. NEVER you have to go into this marriage knowing this you may have to adopt the whole family financially. Now 300-500 a month for a successful businessman in the US is nothng, but what gets me is many times the recepients do nothing just wait to withdrawl the money and expect it. Especially if her family is poor this will be your fate I know of tons of cases and many close friends pass through the same issue.

Some of us have decided it is best to marry a Colombia orphan unless you want to put up with the financial payments. Just keep this in mind I hope this is not your case you may be the exception, but if you are suspicious now you have some reason, the snowball effect.

Good Luck

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