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PLEASE HELP!!!

This is a pretty long story but will try to keep it short. I’ve been with my
Colombian boyfriend, for 4 years and he’s never physically cheated on me, im sure of that, but he has previously joined an adult sex site (with a very explicit homepage about himself), I found loads of email correspondence from other women, talking very sexually, one arranging to meet him for a "night out around the town" (he told me he only joined the perverted sex site as a joke and he is not an active participant on the site), I caught him masturbating online numerous times, and calling sex lines etc etc. He always apologises and says hes sorry and he would never physically cheat on me. Its driven me to the point of crazyness, I check his phone, email etc (and normally find something!!) though not for the past 8 months or so. Im so paranoid that I dont even want him looking at other women, this is not a healthy relationship. Does he have a sexual problem

By jessi72 on Jan 16, 2008, 14:23 in Friendly Talkzone.

Leeroy says on Jan 16, 2008, 14:28:

Masturbating online?

No-way any healthy adult male would ever do that.

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travelingirl says on Jan 16, 2008, 14:32:

I won't judge as to whether or not he has a problem but I would think you'd feel better if you just ended things. Doesn't it suck always being paranoid and unsure about everything? You should start thinking about yourself and how his actions are making you feel. If you think you can take a lifetime of checking his phone, email, etc. then stay with him. But otherwise, I'd move on.

Around her hair she wore a yellow ribbon...

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nueva york bombero says on Jan 16, 2008, 14:32:

Not healthy ....for you. For him its great exercise and entertainment!
Get out now......

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wendell13 says on Jan 16, 2008, 14:34:

What is his homepage? Give us the site and then I am sure we can help you

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adela says on Jan 16, 2008, 14:35:

Dear Jessi,

I've read about this subject many times. This behaviour is every day most common in the work,not only in Colombia.

I know a close friend from my childhood that confess me that he spend aboyt 60% of his salary in games and adult places. Efectivelly he is loyal, phisically to her partner and he said "I'll die if she left me". So what's going on? As my friend, I think your boyfriend has become a sexaddict. He should ask for therapy, specially focus in sex addictions.

Màs fe, màs abrazos, màs besos, màs disculpas, màs visitas a nuestros amigos antiguos nos haràn màs plenos cada vez.

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adela says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:08:

Check out this site at Standford:
http://cse.stanford.edu/class/cs201/projects-00-01/pornography/addicti...

Màs fe, màs abrazos, màs besos, màs disculpas, màs visitas a nuestros amigos antiguos nos haràn màs plenos cada vez.

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arthur brode says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:11:

sounds familiar lol
whats the name of the site?
i want to join!!

http://www.calirentals.net/

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Brians says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:18:

Honey I was not masturbating online!! It was only a joke!!

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tasco66 says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:20:

I just hope he is not doing his sex chat with teenagers on the web...

That Dateline NBC program 'To Catch a Predator' is pretty disturbing…

Bravo, Presidente Uribe for the perfect operation!

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diabloblas says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:24:

you can get electrocuted masturbating on line...believe me it hurts

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gringoloid says on Jan 16, 2008, 15:26:

jessi........listen to me......give me the name of the website and his user name and I'll create an account with this picture of a hot colombian babe I have on my computer. I'll then test his fidelity and let you know what happens.

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arthur brode says on Jan 16, 2008, 16:55:

wait a minute...
shouldnt this post be in the Dr.Ruth forum or something?

http://www.calirentals.net/

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ujay says on Jan 16, 2008, 17:00:

so whats up,
the guy got court wanking,big deal,
show me a guy who says he dont wank and i will show you a liar.
and that goes for women too.

www.unionjackedfilms.com

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arthur brode says on Jan 16, 2008, 17:46:

so you are saying that all women "wank"?

http://www.calirentals.net/

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Chelesupercono says on Jan 16, 2008, 20:20:

It's all lies.....Latin men are 100% faithful and would never cheat on or offline.....jesus honey what the hell did you expect? Puteros todos!!!

never go to bed with someone crazier then you are, you will do it and you will regret it.......

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gold digger says on Jan 16, 2008, 20:49:

give it up more and he won't masturbate.
4 years and no ring? Time to bail !

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john_stark says on Jan 16, 2008, 21:01:

Yes, he has a sexual problem. Yes, you have a sick relationship. Anything else?

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Robert Jorge says on Jan 16, 2008, 21:35:

Messing around Online is not too far removed from "messing around". If you feel the need to keep track of him, watch everything he does, go through his stuff, check his computer - you both have a problem. I would run and run fast if I were you. Quit wasting your time hoping things will work out. Even if he is "faithful" physically to you (which I doubt), it isn't a situation you want to deal with the rest of your life.

The masturbation isn't a big deal in my opinion. But the messages from other girls, the calls, you checking on him - stop the madness. Do both of yourselves a favor and make a friendly break.

--"I believe in making the world safe for our children. But not for our children's children, because I don't think that children should be having sex." - Jack Handy

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jack_jason says on Jan 16, 2008, 23:17:

El que niega la paja, niega la madre.

This is just spanglish, please do not correct me

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