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ok... I have a slight moral dilemna here...

Almost 2 yrs ago I meet a nice girl on some dating site we met up one date, dinner couple of drinks... nada mas. I could tell she was keen on me but not me for her. Anyway she asks me out to the park and if it was ok if her little sister comes along. No worries, I was just expecting a dorky little sister anyway so biggie.
Well little sister was no dorky little sister. At first I was just talking to her you know teasing her because she was/is so much younger than me. Didn't think anything of it at all. After the 3 of us went to a parche(sp) Pilsen. (Just a really cheap bar to buy beer, they are all over medallo). And thats really where hermanita picked up on the lack of chemistry that I had for big sis. And of course it was noticable that little sis showed me those subtle signs of interest. So of course I was smittened by her.
Now I still chat to big sis once in awhile and she keeps telling me lil sis keeps talking about me and if I'm ever coming back to Medellin etc...

So guys and gals as I'd really like to get a woman's opinion on this too... What should I do? The chemistry is there for me and little sis and I never sealed the deal with big sis. When I go back should I just be up front and call up the casa and ask little sis out or what? Or would that be the greasiest thing I could possibly do as I think big sis really wants my chorizo?

and no I'm not bloody trollin here... I just want to hear what others think good or bad before I know what I'm gunna do.

grassiass... paz

By papiChulo on Aug 22, 2008, 06:24 in Friendly Talkzone. AddThis Social Bookmark Button


GregYohn says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:34:

Hola!

Break it off with older sis, then give it a while to talk to the younger one. They will talk, so be ready for it.

12VOIP.com gives free calls to Colombia.Greg

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:36:

thanks greg... good advice

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Monita Linda says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:36:

The older sis doesn't do well, so, as to still have a gringo en la familia, they send you the little one.... LOL

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juli says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:39:

No problem, no dilemma. plus time has passed. This is easy. Hook up with the hermanita.

Next!

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:40:

monita linda... you're a cruel beech but I like you... ;)

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:46:

monita linda... you're a cruel beech but I like you... ;)

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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dwmte7 says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:56:

well, i always say, like the tire dealer...'first one to the wheel, gets the deal' short story.

common, greg....that's too long winded. remember, the family that lays together, stays together.

dwmte

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gringoloid says on Aug 22, 2008, 06:59:

if you're close to both see if you can hook them up for a threesome. sisters are into this kind of thing. i would never throw away fresh snatch.

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 07:13:

hehehe.. you guys are dogs... I really like lil' sis even tho I tried to hook you up GLoid... ;)

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badboy says on Aug 22, 2008, 07:25:

haha chorizo

no seriously show some respect and class to big sis by calling her first and explaining that you believe you are more compatible with her sister. don't say anything about chemistry tell her it's a compatibility issue. ask her if she would be offended if you and little sis were to hang out. if anything ever happens between you and little sis you don't want big sis potentially throwing muck into things.

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bigtexas1974 says on Aug 22, 2008, 07:27:

Had this problem before with best friends down here, but not sisters. The girls are really quite reasonable in these situations i think. MY opinion is that you talk over the lack of chemistry with the big sis, and the obvious chemistry with her little sister. Handle it maturely and out in the open, and I would think it would work itself out. Of course, in the process, be sure to mention that you would love to introduce the older sis to some of your gringo friends, one of which she may connect with better than you!

"Sex is one of the most wholesome, beautiful, and natural experiences money can buy." - Steve Martin "You don't appreciate a lot of stuff in school until you get a little older. Little things, like getting spanked every day by a middle aged woman."

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dwmte7 says on Aug 22, 2008, 07:32:

watch out texas....you're potentially setting yourself up. and you might like lil sis better, too.

dwmte

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Joel y Luza says on Aug 22, 2008, 07:45:

proceed.......I expect to read about this in Playboy Forum in a few months

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judgeschmails says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:07:

two words......
"manaja twa"

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:16:

ok.. and that is????

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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gringoloid says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:22:

same as my advice........menage a trois

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GregYohn says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:26:

Hola!

Once broke up with a GF and told her that things did not happen. This happened locally, so I said you can talk to me later, but no romance. Later said I have a new GF but still treated the old GF as a friend. I took her with present GF at the time to a singles event where she met other guys. She later forgot about me, but she was not hurt so much.

The one you found 2 years ago knows not much is happening. What is a person that shows up 1 time in 2 years? I have been to Colombia 12 times in 2 years to see my GF in Cali, so she knows things are over!

12VOIP.com gives free calls to Colombia.Greg

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Lowell says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:28:

How many years difference in age between you and "Little Sis"?

Alfred E. Newman. "What. Me Worry?"

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turnmeon says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:33:

papichulo just dont show big sister any interest as if you want to be in something more than a friendship, tell her that she is a good friend a stuff like that and treat her like a friend, she will eventuallymake up her mind, also keep in touch with little sister, ask her out just like you would with big sister, call her house and talk to both, so when you ask one out the other one doesnt feel bad or betrayed

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gringoloid says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:48:

don't answer that question papi......about the age difference.

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Timba says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:53:

I don't get it, what is the dilemna ?

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pedro says on Aug 22, 2008, 08:55:

Exactly, there's not really any dilemma here... ese huevo quiere sal.

que nota!

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:11:

thats right true love knows no barriers... it's not important to her so its not important to me... ;)

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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Mononoke28 says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:22:

I agree. Be honest and say that you had more chemistry with lil' sis and let them fight over you. You're at least being honest. =)

Diana

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SUERTE GRINGO says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:26:

This has nothing to do with love, it's more like lust over a young hot Colombiana with eyes for an older gringo whose sister could not close the deal for whatever reasons nothing more.

It's a great fantasy though go for it.

“If you're gonna eat your crackers in bed, you're gonna have to sleep with crumbs."

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tomtom33 says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:29:

Maybe la vieja would like a chorizo parting gift.

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:31:

hey suerte gringo.. who da fok you calling old? jejeje

tomtom... as always I like your thinking... but I'm in it for the long haul... no matter how greasy ppl think I am... ;)

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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SUERTE GRINGO says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:35:

She will enjoy your company when you're in Medellin lavishing her with gifts but she will love you even more when you're back home sending cash, gifts, and not too close to reach out and touch her soft smooth skin again enjoy the fantasy.

“If you're gonna eat your crackers in bed, you're gonna have to sleep with crumbs."

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morphus says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:38:

Big sis...little sis? Sounds like a case of pedofeelya.

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gringoloid says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:39:

suerte.............believe me, i know papi and he doesn''t lavish gifts on women.

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:39:

suerte gringo... you seem to like to piss in my pocket but bad news mate i already have a turd in each one.... BTW tosser... have I offened you in a post or are you just lonely?

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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Mr. Hollywood says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:41:

What's the dilemma?

No, serious, what you said in your first post about her mentioning that the hermanita keeps taking about you means the older sis is trying to set you up with her lil sibling.

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:45:

hmmmm... interesting mr. hollywood.... very interesting.

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SUERTE GRINGO says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:46:

papi,

No offense taken from any of your comments just a friendly reminder based on the phletora of men before you who have fallen in love with a young hot Colombiana only to achieve disasterous results something I see almost on a daily basis in Parque Lleras recently no hard feelings mate.

“If you're gonna eat your crackers in bed, you're gonna have to sleep with crumbs."

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Cerealkiller says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:47:

I agree with monita linda...and see a HUGE red flag there. Gringo needs to think with the head on his shoulders.

Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives -John Stuart Mill

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 09:58:

suerte gringo... no harm no foul mate I get it now... cerealkiller I hear ya but all my life I have thought with my head on me sholders since I was 15yrs old...had to grow up early. I reckon its time I deserved to have a little youth before I shit the bed one last time.

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Aug 22, 2008, 10:04:

i would say if it doesn't work with little sis either , try the mother jejejejje

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 10:06:

kat... now you're a true colombiana... jejeje... god love ya!

some of the rudest people I know don't smoke

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juli says on Aug 22, 2008, 11:30:

Yeah Mr Hollywood is on the money. Two years have passed. There is not a problem and no conversation is even necessary with big sis and if you do strike one up that is in the form of an appology or some kind of permission or explanation she will be a tad bit insulted - as if she's not over studly you. C'mon, she knows it's over and she's just trying to keep it in the fam. Just do it.

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Cerealkiller says on Aug 22, 2008, 13:04:

Well papi, if you just want to get jiggy with either sis (or both for that matter) then go for it...if you're in it for a longer-term thing, and with the expectation of a more rewarding experience then start looking outside that genepool... contrary to common belief, establishing meaningful bonds with people is not THAT hard. Sounds to me as if these two don't really care about who gets the gringo as long as it stays in the family.

Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives -John Stuart Mill

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romy says on Aug 22, 2008, 13:23:

"Sounds to me as if these two don't really care about who gets the gringo as long as it stays in the family." you know this type of altruistic behaviour is seen in other organisms, one sacrifices oneself but one's genes are still passed on and that's what it's all about apparently. I'm not sure if it's been proven in humans though. Very admirable if this is the case because the individual that is sacrificed expects no rewards or benefits directly.

"In the science of ethology (the study of animal behavior), and more generally in the study of social evolution, altruism refers to behavior by an individual that increases the fitness of another individual while decreasing the fitness of the actor."

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dwmte7 says on Aug 22, 2008, 13:23:

jiggy???

dwmte

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tomtom33 says on Aug 22, 2008, 13:30:

If the two sisters aren't into threesomes, you could ask the younger one if she has a hot friend.

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Cerealkiller says on Aug 22, 2008, 14:46:

Jiggy :

1) down with
2) having sex or messing around with
3) exclamation that means "Sweet!" or "Tiiiiiight!"
4) all right
1) "Gettin' jiggy wit it...na na na na na na na!"
or "Yeah, I'm jiggy wit that."
2) "I got jiggy wit your mom last night."
3) "Gator boots with the pimped-out Gucci suit." "JIGGY!"
4) "You aiight? Everything jiggy over here?"
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jiggy

jiggy piggy:
In which two pigs of the opposite sex are involved in tedious mating.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=jiggy-piggy

I don't know Romy, maybe I am just a selfish cow but I would never go for my sister's sloppy seconds (that's if I had a sister)/ crushes, let alone introduce someone I was interested in to my sibbling... just the thought of it makes me a bit queasy...

Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives -John Stuart Mill

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harvardexec says on Aug 22, 2008, 15:01:

Papi...Perhaps you should first ask if they have another sister that is even more attractive? Don't want your ladder on the wrong tree again.

"I'm going to be honest: I know a lot less about economics than I do about military and foreign policy issues. I still need to be educated."-John McCain

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MaFe says on Aug 22, 2008, 15:05:

If there was no chemistry there, and nothing was done with the older sister...go for the young one...

damn young ones are always the hotties...jaaaaaaa jaaaaaaaaaa

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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goin_south says on Aug 22, 2008, 16:03:

Here's to Su Dilemma, PAPICHULOOOOOOOOO_______!!!!!!!!!!!


“ I would rather be a conservative nut job rather than a liberal with no nuts and no job.”

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dwmte7 says on Aug 22, 2008, 16:15:

you're right ma fe....even i was a hottie when i was young.

dwmte

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tomtom33 says on Aug 22, 2008, 16:25:

At least you can remember being young, Douglas. I was too high to remember much.

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papiChulo says on Aug 22, 2008, 16:26:

You guys have all been great with your replies! I was really expecting to get flamed for this but you're all helpfull... graciass really thanks.

but keep them coming as me being in a dilemna is not all that uncommon for me... ;)

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goin_south says on Aug 22, 2008, 16:28:

I can always ask 'Sailor Jerry' for some help, later this evening ;-))

“ I would rather be a conservative nut job rather than a liberal with no nuts and no job.”

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dwmte7 says on Aug 22, 2008, 17:23:

common, southbound....we've talked about this before...sailor jerry??? oh LORD. give me some methasulem or ron medellin or even bacardi black label....but sailor jerry? i'd rather get a tattoo from the dude than drink his drek.

dwmte

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goin_south says on Aug 22, 2008, 17:53:

it's the best you can get,... outside of Barbados.

“ I would rather be a conservative nut job rather than a liberal with no nuts and no job.”

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manINred says on Aug 22, 2008, 18:32:

en fin, es la misma vaina

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romy says on Aug 23, 2008, 00:51:

CK- we're not talking sloppy seconds here... Papi has not gotten jiggy with either. I say the lil sis is fair game for something meaningful. And if this 'chemistry' is true then he has to go for it and quit 'pussy-footing' about it. Life's too short.

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papiChulo says on Aug 23, 2008, 03:26:

romy... I'm still in canada so what else can I do but "pussy foot" aboot...LOL. You don't know how right you are about life is too short... this last year I have been quite ill and there was a few scary times but it looks like I'm on the mend... thats a big reason why I'm selling up here. There is no bloody way I want to die a lonely old bastard in Canada. I'd dumpster dive in Colombia before that.
CK.. I don't think you're a cow at all. I apperciate your comments as getting a womans opinion is what I was hoping for and you PBH grils really bucked up... and the PBH perros comments as always give me a good laugh... grassi-ass to all... jajaj
Anyway my player days are long past me... I didn't get married until I was 30 and I lived in Australia in my 20s and that was when Australia was Australia... Canadians and Yanks were da shit back then with the aussie girls and aussies weren't the junk food junkies they are now.... It was good to be a young Canadian man in Sydney back in the day.. ;)
Wether I hook up with that young woman or not... well we will see when I'm in Colombia. As most human beings I want to find that compatiable partner... but I don't stress about it and I have plenty of things to do in Colombia with work, hobbies and good friends to share time with.

paz

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dwmte7 says on Aug 23, 2008, 05:58:

happy hunting/trails papi....don't pick em too young, as it takes too much juice to keep the show on the road--words from experience--get yourself and OLD lady with similar likes and dislikes and enough love to keep the fires burning til burnout.

hell, i'm an old fart and know full well i could hook up with some delictable hottie in a moment, but then what? might be great for a week or so, until my hernias began to bulge out again and mystiff joints gave way to ass time in front of the t.v. mom and i are similar ages and despite a periodic disagreement about this or that, we're partners til we're outta here.

again, buddy, good luck. the hunt's the best part of the fun.
douglas

dwmte

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Robert Jorge says on Aug 23, 2008, 06:28:

If you still like sister number 1 (the older one), then definitely hook up with sister number 2 (the younger one). Apparently, with some Colombianas, when you sleep with their best friend, sister, or close cousin, it makes them more interested in you. All of a souden, you become very desireable.
*It isn't necessarily "the rule", but far from uncommon.

He who farts in church, sits in his own pew.

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tomtom33 says on Aug 23, 2008, 07:09:

I guess my novia doesn't fall into that category, RJ. She tolerates my philandering, but not with family or friends.

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dwmte7 says on Aug 23, 2008, 07:43:

shame on you tom...you dalient old dude.

dwmte

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romy says on Aug 23, 2008, 07:43:

Yeah I wouldn't take RJs suggestion for something long-term. Sounds like 'el rato' tactics to me.

Papi- I understand you're in Canada. But the way you worded everything makes you look like you're pussy-footing. I mean a 'Moral Dilemma'? what morals are you considering? I'd say being honest is the way of staying clear of morality issues, even if you would have gotten some from older sis it's not immoral to pursue younger sis, maybe if you use one to get to the other... but a guy is entitled to change his mind even if it's between sisters. Maybe it's just about how you go about it and how you may manipulate things, then it gets very shady...

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paisa29 says on Aug 23, 2008, 09:29:

Honesty is the best policy.

"Fill the earth with the light and warmth of hospitality" Conrad Hilton

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dwmte7 says on Aug 23, 2008, 10:08:

listen, guys/gals, i've been in love--right, in love--with my wifes sister for 20 years. don't feel bad papi. i never went through any changes or hit on her or anything like that, but i have told her i've been her admirer for years. it's all on the up and up.

dwmte

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goin_south says on Aug 23, 2008, 11:46:

romy,... pC also said: "slight"... and I think I know pC, and believe me.... jajaja.. it's 'SLIGHT'...... moral......dilemma....lol

“ I would rather be a conservative nut job rather than a liberal with no nuts and no job.”

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joelg says on Aug 24, 2008, 20:38:

doctors are taught 95% of the diagnosis is in the history, and it's true, examining the patient usually confirm what you already know.

you wrote: I still chat to big sis once in a while SHE KEEPS TELLING ME LIL SIS KEEPS TALKING ABOUT ME ....when I go back should I just call ask little sis out?

big sis thinks you're a dumb ass or not interested in lil sis for not picking up on her obvious hints (translation, i know you don't want me, how 'bout lil sis?)

next time you chat with big sis the second she mentions lil sis ask for lil sis' email and then start chatting with lil sis (also stop chatting with big sis). through the chatting with lil sis (you've probably already seen her online???) you'll know if it's on or not and by the time you get back to Medallo everything will be worked out. you'll get in touch with lil sis by email (or on her cell) when you arrive and she'll be at your place in no time flat. THE TABOO AND SNEAKING AROUND makes it all the more EXCITING. i wouldn't call the house for a while. you and lil sis communicate through emal and cell phones. if your relationship with her lasts more than week she will invite you to the house for dinner and everybody will know who is with who. big sis will swallow her pride for the benefit of the family and balance will be restored.

guilt is a worthless emotion....enjoy yourself man, we ain't getting any younger

do what you like, take risks, build something

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Joel y Luza says on Aug 24, 2008, 20:46:

Papi- As we age, a sense of pragmatism tends to rule our lives .. you said you aint getting any younger and want to find that certain some one... Well, my friend, as long as you didn't tap the well, so to speak, with big sis', ease on over to little sis'. Be honorable about it, but just do it, because you are right, you ain't getting any younger, and the well will eventually go dry....

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lpdiver says on Aug 25, 2008, 03:55:

Honesty is pretty much always the best policy. Try to be tactful. My wife asked me what I thought about her sisters and nieces. I told her. No problems. I don't get left alone with them though. jejeje

ts

"cook some rice!"

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