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Interested in a Colombian guy

I'm an all American girl: outgoing, ambitious, sometimes aggressive (when it comes to what I want). People have said I'm attractive & I do have Italian roots. Last summer I met an amazing Colombian exchange student at my college & we were instantly attracted to each other, but I had a boyfriend at the time. Now I've dumped my boyfriend, can't stop thinking about him & am wondering how to start a relationship with him... he's since moved back to Colombia.

So I'm asking, what exactly are the gender dating rules in Colombia & how are they different from the US? Here, I would have no problem asking him out & flying to see him (being the pursuer) because I know he's interested. But my Colombian friend says men are supposed to do the pursuing.

Any suggestions?

By Raleigh1590 on Dec 9, 2004, 16:29 in Friendly Talkzone.

santiBOG says on Dec 9, 2004, 17:00:

Do whatever the hell you feel is right No smart guy will judge you for acting on your instincts. If a guy can't recognize that there are cultural differences, then he's a moron. Forget that crap about men having to do the pursuing. It's BS.

I like all-american girls!

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Miguel says on Dec 9, 2004, 23:15:

Bueno GO!!! Ahoramismo! A proposito, S U E R T E ! ! !

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Raleigh1590 says on Dec 10, 2004, 05:35:

By the way, to all you Spanish experts, como se dice "May I speak to Daniel" in Spanish? Tried to call him in Colombia from the states once & his parents seemed to be severely confused (now I think his dad hates me!). Plus you definately say Daniel differently in Spanish than you do in English, LOL. Currently trying to pick up as much Spanish as possible. :-)

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zambo says on Dec 10, 2004, 06:37:

to answer your question , you would say: "Podria hablar con DANIELLE (yes, like the female name) por favor?

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Raleigh1590 says on Dec 11, 2004, 08:51:

Danielle huh?

Sexy.

And is it pronounced AB-lar or ab-BLAR?

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Mi_lukea says on Dec 11, 2004, 16:09:

Can I speak to ... Is "Puedo hablar" as acceptable as "Podria hablar" ... is the only difference familiarity?

I have always said "Puedo hablar con ...., por favor". Was I wrong?

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Mariangela says on Dec 11, 2004, 18:19:

It's fine "Puedo hablar" is fine. It is actually the most common way to say it. It is more informal. You were not wrong.
Mariángela

Mariángela

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Miguel says on Dec 12, 2004, 19:44:

Hmm With all due respect to la colombiana Mariangela...you are wanting to come off as polite, right? If that is the case, podria might be the way to go in the early stage of your relationship with his family. What do you think, Mariangela?

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