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adrimm says on Apr 9, 2006, 17:25:

Visit Colombia You won't regret it. Start planning (this inlcudes some Spanish lessons)to take the longest break you can and go. You can read all sorts of opinions and accounts online, but seeing it and making your own impressions (vs a second hand account), is invaluable.

Also (alternate if for whatever reason you can't go to Colombia) if his culture is still super ingrained and maintained in him after 16 yrs away, there must be something supporting that (big family that moved together, large Colombian community that he is a part of?) Dive in. Get to know the family, etc.

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utopiacowboy says on Apr 9, 2006, 19:25:

Good advice above.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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pia says on Apr 10, 2006, 13:36:

American woman, Colombian man I am an American woman with a Colombian guy. We have been together for 3 yrs. There are some cultural differences to get used to, but you can do it. We used to fight a lot, but we don't fight hardly ever anymore.

It helped me a lot to take dancing lessons since I didn't know at all how to dance. I also had to learn to be around big groups of people, which I didn't do very much before. I really love his friends, such nice people.

I went recently to Colombia and loved, loved it. Beautiful. I had an amazing time.

If you can't go soon to Colombia, and if you live in a big-ish city, go to good Colombian restaurants and try the food, then research recipes for things you like. I also asked my novio's female friends to show me how to make stuff. I especially love the soups, Sancocho and Ajiaco, but every little thing from Arepas, Papa rellena to la Bandeja Paisa and Bunuelos (sp?).

I took a spanish class before going and bought a set of book-free vocabulary cds to load to mp3 player and listen while en route to work.

There are a number of very beautiful coffee table type books with photos of the cities in Colombia. I bought one of Medellin on the internet after we met and let my novio go through it and tell me stories.

Eventually, you might hear some negative stereotypes about Colombian guys, which you should completely ignore as it is not true at all.

Also, buy a bottle or box of Aguardiente if you can locate some and put it in your kitchen cabinet for a nice surprise toast to the two of you.

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Tiffany says on Apr 10, 2006, 14:44:

thanks for the info! just twondering what are the stereotypes for colombian men?

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pia says on Apr 10, 2006, 14:54:

the same as for any The same stereotypes I guess said of all men in all cultures, which is why it is wrong. (I should have not mentioned anything previously, sorry.)

Have a fun time learning about the culture and picking up spanish. I also ended up learning a lot about soccer/futbol, which I now completely love!

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adrimm says on Apr 10, 2006, 16:26:

Well if I had to pick one, I'd say Sort of like that of Italian men.

BTW I'd take alot of what you read here with a big grain of salt, everyone sees things from different perspectives.

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colombianaporsiempre says on Apr 11, 2006, 15:00:

Spanish lesson Look, my aunt told me this, she's learning french, and she said that English people talk with the tongue right in the middle, that's why you gaus can make those sounds than i can't, In Spanish, we make the sound of the RR, You can do it with your tongue behind your teeth and blowing hard...If Does NOT work... TRY THIS...put you tongue behind your teeth, blow hard and try to MOVE your tongue like a fin ( like sharks or fish) but.. FAST...


I wish It Help You...

CHAO PARCEROS..

Colombiana 100%

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AnnieCoyote says on Apr 11, 2006, 18:53:

Colombian men & American women Hi Tiffany:

I am an American woman who met a Colombian. What a life changing event for me. After 4 years together in the USA we married. We both had been previously married and he is also younger than I. So I was a little afraid but no matter...I absolutely dove in to his culture and we now live in Colombia running our business in paragliding. I adore him and we get along great despite our differences. Pia's post was very good, great suggestions. I find my colombiano likes to be spoiled a bit. Loving his family, especially his mom, is the way to his heart as well. He also likes noise and large groups, not the "lonely" type. So don't try to hold him back from his friends and family.
I also can make a great "caldo" (soup)- Santander style - which his mom taught me to make. This is a good thing to know after a night of partying...helps the hangover!!! And he will love you for making this for him.

Best of luck with your new found treasure.

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Tiffany says on Apr 11, 2006, 20:01:

Thank you so much Annie!!

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pia says on Apr 11, 2006, 20:38:

You are right... They do love to be spoiled! My Colombiano just absorbs attention, very cute. And is quite attached to his family--a very large, happy, and affectionate family.

I am not sure of the soup, however and I am curious. The one I have heard of for hangover is changua con huevo. But, I don't live in Colombia, so I get most of my info secondarily through Colombiana friends here, hanging out in our kitchens and swapping recipes.

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mariasman says on Apr 12, 2006, 12:44:

Brain transplantation may help You need to find a Colombiana who is willing to donate and then you will be set. If not for him, then do it for our country. American men all over are depending on you.

mariasman

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victoria moreno says on Apr 15, 2006, 15:11:

hey hi i am a american who married a colombian..they do like a lot of attention..which i do give it to him ..but not all the time ..you don't want to spoiled them. me and my husband been together for 9 years we are pretty young..we are in our early 30. we use to fight but now i have the hang of it, i will be quite when ever he does something and we he screws up , i'll fix whatever and the next time he listen to me..that's how i solved all of our issues.

my first time to colombian was very awsome i enjoyed myself to the fullest..good luck ..

keep in touch vicki72574 at aol.com

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mtc says on Apr 17, 2006, 08:14:

Married to a Colombian When you said that you used to fight alot...what exactly did you fight about. I think that my husband has A.D.D. Everyday he decides on another career. Nothing ever seems to be followed through. My salary is enough to keep us very comfortable but I sometimes think that he feels imasculated because I am maintaining the household. This frustration runs over in everything. How do I make him feel better. We are waiting for his US citizenship so that he can start to work with a SS#. I know that it is possible to work without the proper SS# but in my business I cannot get into any kind of legal trouble because of my license...it pertains to gov't clearance. Please tell me how you stopped the fighting between you and your husband. I can't seem to do anything right these days for him.

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utopiacowboy says on Apr 17, 2006, 08:17:

Have you tried giving him El Chiquito on a regular basis?

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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landcruiser77 says on Apr 18, 2006, 11:20:

mtc are you my wife???are you M.R FROM TX you are talkin about me,because is not cool.

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