help Divorce

philkett says on Aug 2, 2007, 11:54:

Can a lawyer from Bogota defend a case in Csli

vicshere says on Aug 2, 2007, 12:07:

yea right she will work you out in bankruptcy

listo

scotty says on Aug 2, 2007, 14:40:

goin through the big D and I dont mean Dallas.

good luck

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Dan says on Aug 2, 2007, 20:27:

Not sure if your situation is like mine but...

I got married in Colombia a little more than 2yrs ago and already we're divorcing. I'm working it from the US and working with a lawyer right now. She (lawyer) pretty much said that once action takes place, the most needed from the other person is current address/contact. Only requirement is that she get's contacted by someone sending the paperwork being filed. She doesn't even have to sign it either. The only bad part is if she disagrees with anything then it can get drawn out even longer.
Luckly, I have time on my side. ie... She's in the US w/2yr conditional. After divoce, she leaves the country and can not return unless she finds some other shmuck.

God Bless America!

Conchale Vale!! says on Aug 2, 2007, 21:42:

Dan be very careful of the on the 2 year conditional issue. There are many avenues for her to no be sent back all she needs is a good lawyer. Like a restraining order and abuse charge..she stays there are a lot more ways around it. I know a colombian girl in Miami that was only here 3 months and got a good lawyer and never had to go back even on a conditional...as well as getting a whole lot of coin from her ex.

Would be interesting and helpful for others on here to see how each of you met, how long you knew each other etc. Not trying to pry but might help those that are contemplating the bring home the bride idea. Good luck. I think the other guy has a different issue as it seems he is married in Colombia. It will be very informative in that situation to see if the prenup holds up I have wondered about how it works in colombia.

vicshere says on Aug 3, 2007, 05:32:

I also know a girl who was on a conditional...where the husband beat her (for real) about 5 1/2 years ago.....long story short she now has an American passport

listo

Dan says on Aug 3, 2007, 19:23:

I thought about that stuff... as a possibility of what she could end up doing. If she was to ever get a lawyer and claim that I've been doing something like that too her, I could end up loosing my job, which is a VERY bad thing considering I'm in the military. Right now, she's not fighting anything, she chose to move out when I was away for a class. She just says she want to go back to Colombia where her family is at and where "she understand what people are saying". We'll see how things go in the meantime.

God Bless America!

miamimike says on Aug 4, 2007, 01:26:

You want to notify US Immigration immediately of your living/martial status VIA Registered (return receipt) mail. If possilble get to her to sign a Change of Address card from US Mail showing she is no longer at your address and residing under your roof. Don't go with her to your two year interview to Immigration to have the conditional status goes without saying. When I divorced in 1991 from my Mexican Wife of two years, I notified the above mentioned and Immigration sent my exwife a Voluntary order of Deportation, she complied and went back to Mexico on her own. Last time for that "Dance",,,,marrying and bringing a Woman to the USA,,,

"Wait a minute. What did you just say? You're predicting $4-a-gallon gas? ... That's interesting. I hadn't heard that." -- Feb. 28, 2008 --George W. Bush, Washington, D.C.,

miamimike says on Aug 4, 2007, 01:33:

BTW, you may offer her a Cash payment of say, $2K-5K to agree to your terms and go quitely. This may be the best money you ever spent.I did this to my now EX($800 gratuity) and She gave me a Quit ClaIM Deed TO MY tOWNHOUSE for $1 prior to the divorce. I sold the Townhouse a year later and realized a $12K Profit(appreciation) which I did not share with her. Had she not signed off and prolonged the Divorce until the day I sold the property, this then, under Florida law, would have been considered "Community Assets" and she would have been entitled to 50% of the appreciation profit.

"Wait a minute. What did you just say? You're predicting $4-a-gallon gas? ... That's interesting. I hadn't heard that." -- Feb. 28, 2008 --George W. Bush, Washington, D.C.,

miamimike says on Aug 4, 2007, 01:35:

Opps this was meant for Dan and Philkett also, if it applies,,,

"Wait a minute. What did you just say? You're predicting $4-a-gallon gas? ... That's interesting. I hadn't heard that." -- Feb. 28, 2008 --George W. Bush, Washington, D.C.,

RussianFred says on Aug 4, 2007, 06:35:

I am doing the dance next month, marriage. I am 44 and my girlfriend is 20. All this divorce talk is making me nervious. I hpoe I a not her ticket to the USA. I see love can hurt. I hope everything works out for you.

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Dan says on Aug 4, 2007, 09:38:

I sent a couple letters to immigration. One to the local state office and another one somewhere else, I forget now, but want to say it was in DC... When it is final, I'm going to send the letters again. Which office(s) would you recommend?

God Bless America!

Conchale Vale!! says on Aug 4, 2007, 13:59:

Dan I understand your concern if you are in the military. If she really wants to go back to Colombia you might not have a problem. She might not want anything. However if she really just wanted to go home she probably would have done so without moving out. Be careful about pushing to hard on pulling her status that could make what might be a easy divorce go south in 2 seconds. I am assuming she does not have kids and you don't have kids. If she does have kids god I hope you have not brought them to the US. If her intent is to stay and take you to the cleaners she doesn't really need to prove abuse. If you lied about things she can prove, she says you are a alcoholic etc stupid stuff like that with a good lawyer can get her easily past the 2 year conditional. Good luck to you if you think she is not going to make a big deal be careful how aggressive you get with her....its sort of a judgment call that only you can make.

Dan says on Aug 4, 2007, 19:36:

Well, so far things are going as well as can be. We'll see how it goes when I get back home in a couple months.

God Bless America!

panthdave says on Aug 14, 2007, 15:37:

Hey...Just concentrate on the divorce who cares what she does afterwards so what is she stay's as long as your divorce goes official good bye just like being married to a gringa..and personally gringas will take you to the cleaners more than a colombian..

Good Luck on the divorce if she gets her temp papers so what is that your problem NO Just get the Divorce and move on. Take your loss and thats it...

Hey also if you have not done anything wrong don't worry can't prove anything in court...if you did so what....unless was really bad but I am talking minor shit..Marriages have many problems and if they cannot be worked out thats why there is a divorce...but complaining about her trying to get her status in the States my feeling so what..do what you want I just want the Divorce and move on...you can go do what you want...

Philkett get the Divorce....Sorry at that point all she cares about are your assets...Prenup holds hire your lawyer and start the process. Just keep your cool..Very frustrating and stressful .....Have to give you credit for the prenup's...

panthdave Miami

Chelesupercono says on Aug 14, 2007, 16:53:

Same old song with new singers.......when will these gringos ever learn......

and they just keep on coming.....PINHEADS

never go to bed with someone crazier then you are, you will do it and you will regret it.......

Miguel_Clavo says on Aug 14, 2007, 17:50:

get rid of a prenup to solve marriage problems? if you fall for that, then i will nominate you for the PBH ChowderHead of the Year.....nothing personal, but dont do it......she wants the things protected by the prenup.....=)..i say pass her off to another PBH poster..stays in the family that way....=(

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miamimike says on Aug 18, 2007, 23:15:

Good Luck on the divorce if she gets her temp papers so what is that your problem NO Just get the Divorce and move on. Take your loss and thats it...
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Panthdave, the problemis when you bring a Col Woman here on a Fiancee Visa you sign a Affadavit of Support and if she runs up a Big Bill or has a lenghty hospitalization for whatever reason, who dothink the Bill Collector goes after? The Person with the Deepest Pockets and that in 99.9% of the cases will be the person who signed the Affadavit of support. Not to mention, if she has Children and brings them to the US, you as the signer will be on the hook for for 10 years, or until theyturn 18 years of age. I would fight to make sure she gets deported out of the USA. Offer her a "Gratuity" if need be but get her back to Colombia,,,Caveat emptor,,,Been there, done that,,,


Dan, in my case, I sent the Correspondence mentioned in my prior post to the Distric INS office in TaMPA, Fl where I resided at the time and also to mesquite, Texas. I know they received them,not only because of the Return receipt Requested slip I received after they signed it but also her Divorce Attorney received a Copy of the Mail(letters) I sent to INS explaining why I thought my Ex would not be an Exemplery candidate for US Citizenship. In the End, she went back to Mexico, actually before the Divorce was final, she presigned the Divorce papers and left the country,,,

"Wait a minute. What did you just say? You're predicting $4-a-gallon gas? ... That's interesting. I hadn't heard that." -- Feb. 28, 2008 --George W. Bush, Washington, D.C.,

Leeroy says on Aug 19, 2007, 10:36:

Oh the positivity!

Chelesupercono says on Aug 20, 2007, 14:55:

Whats positive about about a clusterfuck??

never go to bed with someone crazier then you are, you will do it and you will regret it.......