Happily Married Colombian's to American's. If your out there please post!!!!!!!

kernow62 says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:11:

Not American, but live in America. I have been married for 15 years to a wonderful woman, I couldn't have wished for a better woman.

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huskie says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:18:

I have been married and continue to be married to the same man for 36 years, and we love and respect each other more every day. It has not always been perfect, for either one of us, but who's marriage is perfect?

Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:20:

Thats what I want to hear, keep it comming people!!!!!

Listen, im sure its not easy, language barriers, culture barriers, amongst more, but LOVE conquers ALL!!!!

But let's go people, I need more, Uplift my spirits to the Sacred Union of our two wonderful cultures!!!!!!

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helmut says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:29:

I am no American either, but I want to leave a post anyway. I got married with my Colombian girlfriend last december after having been together for two years. So you may say that our marriage is very fresh, but every day of our time together has been fantastic. In my opinion, Colombian women are something special, very nice, friendly, and with a warm heart (i was not so lucky with the women of my country of birth), and of course my wife for me is the most special of all! But before taking the decision to marry, and this is true for partners of all countries, one should get to know his possible future wife or her possible future husband as well as one can. Having this said, I I can only add that I have never been so happy in my life before as I am at the moment.

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huskie says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:35:

If only I could get my hubby to write here on PBH, but I know he will not, and tell you the truth
(HAHAHA)
Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:42:

Im Loving the Posts so far fellow PBHers. Lets keep it going!!!!!

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Brians says on Jul 9, 2008, 13:42:

Yo estoy muy contento con mi espousa de Medellin. Ella es mi sangre y mi vida. Tenimos una nina que tiene 4 meses. Llevamos tres anos casados.

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Rabeka says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:05:

Hello, I am Estadounidense happily married to a Colombiano. We met at work in january 2003 and started dating a few months later. We got married on Valentines day 2007 and we are expecting our first baby 8/28/08! We have our ups and downs but so far so good!

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vicshere says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:06:

what happened Canadians don't count

listo

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:07:

Not with boobs like that they don't ;)

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truthspeaker says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:08:

Now,

How many have cheated on there spouse??

Remember, I can only tell the truth. No more Sex Tourism in Colombia.

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:15:

am gonna thow up

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:18:

I have a Mexican friend with a great expression about marriage, regardless of the type of woman.

Mismo infierno, diferente diablo.

Same hell, different devil.

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:20:

Im sorry you correct, anyone counts. You are 100% correct.Please tell me about your happy marriage. I could not edit the title. So please tell me about your good fortune!!!!

P.S. Rabeka CONGRADULATIONS ON EVERYTHING. I hope I can have the same as you!!!!!!!

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:23:

most cases when gringa marries a colombiano it should not raise any red flags.
she's not marrying the guy for his colombian passport
but lets be real here, you walking around a country with over 150 million USA females and not one is willing to give you the time of day.
You land in colombia, and all of the sudden every maria, conchita, luz, claudia etc. wants to marry your gringo ass. RED FLAG, RED FLAG, RED FLAG.....
ONCE AGAIN TAKE THE TEST CHALLENGE
come to queens NYC and if a hot colombianita gives you the time of day, marry her

you like colombianitas? LOTS AND LOTS of them in queens and nj

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:32:

Very true Elmo. There is controversial concept called ladder theory that attempts to explain this whole mess. Draw your own conclusions.

http://www.laddertheory.com/

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ladder_theory

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 14:50:

Come on peolpe, lets keep it positive, Let's keep the science out of Love. I want some feel good stories. Im sure you know peolpe that are just in Love. I'll choose LT as the Love theory. But I want to stay focused and hear more about those happy marriages!!!!!

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:04:

I have been with my British husband for 19 years! what about that

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truthspeaker says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:17:

Is he equiped with his full faculties ??

Remember, I can only tell the truth. No more Sex Tourism in Colombia.

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:26:

Be nice. Come to think of it my aunt has also been married to a British guy for something like 30 years. In fact, I like him better than my aunt. I also have a cousin that married a Danish guy who is also super cool. They have been married for about the same time. I do have one aunt that married a Scottish guy. They ended up divorcing but only because he couldn't keep it in his pants. These are all born and raised Colombian women. Of course, they were from a previous generation when women in Colombia were a lot more traditional.

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:33:

guys, the trick is to get your colombianitas as far away from anything latin as possible.
first few years she will give you hell, but after that it should be smooth.
KEEP THEM AWAY FROM CIVILIZATION AS WE KNOW IT IN THE LATINO WORLD such as warmth, music, foods, laughter, family, friends, dancing etc,

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:34:

Thanks Colombiano/Gringo, All I have been saying is, there have been many posts speaking about some real horror shows when it comes to marriage. Just wanted to read some good stories. I dont want the impression that it was all bad. Thanks for posting all!!!!!!

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:37:

i also know of a couple. my wify's aunt married a german guy going on 30 years.
she did not see the light of day for almost 10, by then she had forgotten everything about barranquilla
europe is agreat place to bring your colombianitas, nothing there to remind them of home.
i think the latino population is like 7

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:40:

elmodefoque says on Jul 9 (today): flag

guys, the trick is to get your colombianitas as far away from anything latin as possible.
first few years she will give you hell, but after that it should be smooth.
KEEP THEM AWAY FROM CIVILIZATION AS WE KNOW IT IN THE LATINO WORLD such as warmth, music, foods, laughter, family, friends, dancing etc,


blah blah blah blah

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:45:

So Elmo, does that mean I need to keep my wife far away from my Colombian Latin ass and the rest of my crazy Colombian family?

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:50:

and I have to stop going to Colombia then, i go once and sometimes twice a year...

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:50:

mi reina, no bull.
we took my wify's aunt to "natives" a restaurant in queens.
she had not eaten anything latino in 30 fokin years.
all she ate for the last 30 years was GANSENBRAEN AND WEINER SCHNEIZEL
when she saw la picada paisa her fokin eyeballs nearly popped outte her fokin head, they almost ate the fokin plate too.

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:55:

well she could have eaten Colombian Food if she has wanted to, didn't she went to Colombia in those 30 years? or a Colombian restaurant?

I live in zero latin zone, but i do go to Colombia often, but if i want something Colombian i can go to London or Birgminham, but really because i go to Colombia often i don't miss all those thing that much.

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:55:

CG, don't worry, you're safe

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 15:57:

where there is REAL love the place where you decided to live does not matter :)))

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:00:

although i do agree on this Elmo,
"guys, the trick is to get your colombianitas as far away from anything latin as possible."
i won't say anything latino but some latino people, sometimes SOME of them are not good influence specially if your new wife is very young.

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helmut says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:13:

"all she ate for the last 30 years was GANSENBRAEN AND WEINER SCHNEIZEL"

elmodefoque, your knowledge of German is not quite correct.

it is Gänsebraten and Wiener Schnitzel.

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:16:

y vea yo aqui pensando que el berraco hablaba Aleman eh?...

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elmodefoque says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:25:

you guys forget, my great great great grandaddy, field marshall wolfgang hamburger came from germany and helped built barranquilla.
so i heard german andd french (godparents) spoken around the house
barranquilla is the most cosmopolitan city in colombia

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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ColombianoGringo says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:28:

Funny. I apparently spoke German as a small child since we lived there for a few years, but I never practiced it and I couldn't even count to ten now.

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:28:

Elmo said "so i heard german andd french (godparents) spoken around the house"

" (obviously when you weren't present) jejej :)))..

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briarblue says on Jul 9, 2008, 16:46:

Dang Elmo, we haven't had German spoken around the house since my 6-great grandfather almost 300 years ago. No wonder you can spell that chit alot better than I can.

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Cerealkiller says on Jul 9, 2008, 17:29:

My partner and I are a very happy cohabiting couple. Life is very good in that respect.

Conservatives are not necessarily stupid, but most stupid people are conservatives -John Stuart Mill

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CatGirl says on Jul 9, 2008, 18:42:

Privtatbd: Very thoughtful of you to put up this post and try to balance the positive with the negative ;)) I know a multitude of people of all shapes and sizes in long term loving & supportive relationships (too long to list). Maybe this is why I wont settle for less, I know they exist.

Love and Time: the only two things that cannot be bought, but only spent

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Philly says on Jul 9, 2008, 18:49:

Happily married, living in Colombia and we have a daughter

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Privatebd says on Jul 9, 2008, 19:31:

I hope and wish to get more people to post about the happy lives together. Let's go people, this post still has some life to it!!!!! And Thank You CatGirl!!!!!

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MaFe says on Jul 9, 2008, 19:37:

My mother has been married to my stepdad for 24 years! I have a beautiful brother and sister through that marriage. My mother has made sure to raise us with pride in both cultures... we are all multilingual.


My mother's younger sister married my stepdad's nephew they too have been married for 24 years and have 2 beautiful children which are fluent in both languages.

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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CatGirl says on Jul 9, 2008, 19:39:

Gracias Amiga!!!!

Love and Time: the only two things that cannot be bought, but only spent

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MaFe says on Jul 9, 2008, 19:42:

kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9 (today): flag

although i do agree on this Elmo,
"guys, the trick is to get your colombianitas as far away from anything latin as possible."
i won't say anything latino but some latino people, sometimes SOME of them are not good influence specially if your new wife is very young.

This can be true of any culture!

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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Catfish35 says on Jul 9, 2008, 21:16:

My grandfather married my grandmother before I was even borned. And they were married for over 9 years. They each had two brothers and two sisters that each had spouses I can remember clearly and they all were very happy. When my father was borned soon after so was my mother and that made all of them very happy for a very long time. Long after they were married they stayed happy and then I was borned. And so was my cousins and there cousins and aunts uncle and he got married and was happy to. I can't remember where they were from but then most of us had origins in Parador.
from the main city in Tuttle Beu Chemp. Did not have any germans or Colombians or canucks for that matter but everyone was sure happy and some stayed married longer than my grandparents!
I have very fond memories of all of that!

"So many guns, and so few brains". sam spade

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jinksmiester says on Jul 9, 2008, 22:38:

Not american...canadian...but never been happier than i am right now married to my colombian wife.There are undoubtably gold diggers and green card seekers in colombia and all over but my wife does not fall into that catagory.Unlike manny ladies i met while touring colombia she did not ask what i owned in canada...what kind of car...house etc...her questions were about me.Thats how i knew i had the right one.
Since coming to canada ive brought in two of her sisters and one of her friends to work my business.My house is filled with pretty ladies jabering away in spanish and always a happy place...it really DOES,NT get any better than this.My wife and i now have a beautiful baby girl soon to be 1 year old. Our daughter will grow up learning english and spanish and will learn about her heritage and know her familys in both countrys...i think she is a very lucky little girl.We visit colombia and maintain family ties and have set up an import business for my wife here bringing in hats/ fique handbags/jewelry etc..that she sells here.Some of the money made from that makes its way back to colombia to family there to support them for the work they do chasing around dealing and buying and shiping the things we import....all in all i would,nt change a thing.

A man is not old until regret takes the place of dreams

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Robert Jorge says on Jul 9, 2008, 23:24:

Great story Jinks - you are blessed.

--"I believe in making the world safe for our children. But not for our children's children, because I don't think that children should be having sex." - Jack Handy

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huskie says on Jul 10, 2008, 00:19:

Kat says:

"y vea yo aqui pensando que el berraco hablaba Aleman eh?..."

LOL Kat, thats funny!!
Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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paisa29 says on Jul 10, 2008, 05:37:

jinksmiester... What a beautiful story! congratulations.

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Albatross says on Jul 10, 2008, 07:06:

"Since coming to canada ive brought in two of her sisters and one of her friends to work my business.My house is filled with pretty ladies... " - Jinksmeister

“Democracy - a pathetic belief in the collective wisdom of individual ignorance." - H.L. Mencken

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McGringo says on Jul 10, 2008, 07:34:

You did'nt expect them to be ugly didjya?

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mcheasley says on Jul 10, 2008, 07:38:

U.S. citizen married to a colombian and very glad i am!!!

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:10:

For Elmo's benefit only.

I met my Colombiana in the US, she was already a US citizen; I am not a US citizen nor do I intend to ever be one. My ex (not married but long term 10 year relationship) also Colombiana, also met in the US. Although she was illegal, it was obvious she didn't plan to get a green card through me.

Orlando is full of Latinas, I think the last gringa I dated was in high school, you do the math.

I am probably an exception though, the ladies can't get enough of me. :-D

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:10:

You aren't a pimp are you Jinks?

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miamimike says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:18:

Anyone wanting to meet a Colombiana in Orlando only has to call Gloria's Agency(below link). She(gloria) is Colombian herself, a friend of mine met his wife through her agency 4 years ago. The Guy's acceptable age in her agency howvever is much younger, none of this 50 year old guy meets drop dead gorgous chicha 30 years of age,,,For that, you have to come farther south to Miami. LOL

http://latindest.com/


Hi Jim, where ya been? I tried to get Gomezman to come back to PBH but so far no luck! He has a lot of the "Go-Go Colombia" Crowd to educate! LOL

"Wait a minute. What did you just say? You're predicting $4-a-gallon gas? That's interesting. I hadn't heard that." -- Feb. 28, 2008 --George W. Bush, Washington, D.C.

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elmodefoque says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:21:

kernow, you is the fokin MAN a latina broad magent!!!!
dude, they got a lotta latinos in orlando now. They're all over the fokin place.

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:37:

Hi Mike, I was chatting with G5 a few days ago via E-mail. I have been checking the forum every 6 months or so, but to be honest I don't like the format.

I would say, if you guys want to meet a Colombiana, or Latina in general, just go to a city in the US and find one. All the hard work is done, they are already probably able to speak a little English, they may have a green cars or even be a citizen, but even if they are illegal they are already here, you save on paperwork and air fare. If you find a good one she will have credit cards of her own and a job or two. I honestly cannot imagine why you would want to travel to another country for a woman, there are only about 38,786,002 Latinas already in the US.

Remember if you want the marriage to last, find someone in your league. If you look like Homer Simpson don't go looking for a young hottie. If you are educated, don't look for a poorly educated girl. If you live in a single wide trailer don't go after a sophisticated city dweller, you need at least a double wide.

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:38:

Elmo it is worse once you put a wedding ring on.

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elmodefoque says on Jul 10, 2008, 08:43:

that's excatly what i been telling these guys for YEARSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS
you want colombianitas??? they're right here, no need to import them to then have to pay them hefty import fees while they are all over florida ny and nj

yes, upgrade to double wide trailer jajajajajajajajajajajaj

any colombianita willing to date me, IS UP TO NO GOOD

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oldbongo says on Jul 10, 2008, 10:31:

kernow..
there is another old dicho:
"a young man should not get married yet.
"an old man should not get married at all."

this oldbongo subscribes, and therefore, unmarried,
is still humping and fishing in the great northwest
with la commandante, una hija del barrio, mucho removed,
and has not found reason to complain.

jinks, lucky you, because here, la commandante has only corroncho brothers to import.

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 11:40:

oldbongo it is only a bit of paper that separates you from I.

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arnold_kate says on Jul 10, 2008, 14:18:

I am American (gringa) married to a Colombian. We met in 2001 and married in 2005. I couldn´t be happier. We have two kids under the age of two. We have a great little family. We recently moved from the States to Cartagena (two months ago). We have opened our own business and looking to buy a house. Marriage between cultures is great! We balance each other.

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dwmte7 says on Jul 10, 2008, 15:30:

i--gringo--married my wife--colombiana--some 19 years ago. instead of me taking her and her kids, it was her taking me and my SEVEN kids.. never once heard her complain about that, the only complaints i ever heard was her barkin at me. i admit, mrs wonderful can wake up some days with a whole lot of attitude....not unlike my other wives, but this time, when she would bitch at me, i just decided to stick with it, unlike the past. in my younger days, when one of the mother's got into my shit, i was out the door. true i was--always was--very dalient. unfaithful, chasing girls at every oportunity. that's why i got myself in divorce court so many times. now, i don't f around at all. just boring old me sit around the house, piddle around and stay outta trouble. have a drink and get high with a friend (s) occassionally, but always at home. i don't go out.

i obviously have a wonderful wife, but boy can she be a toughie. it's just the way women are wired.

dwmte

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Robert Jorge says on Jul 10, 2008, 19:19:

Kernow - you married out of your league - all due respect. (smiley intended)

You have a good point about the education level difference factor.

--"I believe in making the world safe for our children. But not for our children's children, because I don't think that children should be having sex." - Jack Handy

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 19:24:

If you have an "amiga" or "amigo" in Colombia or anywhere almost, and you are not sure if she is being faithful, buy her a cell phone and as long as she has it on her and it is a current model you can track her to see where she is in real time. Have to love modern technology. All you need is her or his cell number.

http://www.trackapartner.com/

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kernow62 says on Jul 10, 2008, 19:25:

Rob, it wasn't difficult to marry out of my league. I am in a league of my own. ;-)

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loarrso says on Jul 11, 2008, 03:54:

I'm Colombian happily married to american for 6 years :)

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webmanco says on Jul 11, 2008, 04:00:

Bienvenida Loarrso


Elmo
but lets be real here, you walking around a country with over 150 million USA females and not one is willing to give you the time of day.

So we men need to make sure we take our clock when going North. :-)

...A yo, déjenme queto y no me jodan má! ...

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Lisa Zee says on Jul 11, 2008, 14:58:

Ich war für viele Jahre mit Amerikanischen Männern verheiratet. Amerikanische Männer sind treu und verständlichvoll aber der Unterschied in Kultur ist sehr groß. Wen die Bildung gleich ist ist es einfacher.

Oops wrong forum!

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MaFe says on Jul 11, 2008, 15:37:

Lisa Zee says on Jul 11 (today): flag

Ich war für viele Jahre mit Amerikanischen Männern verheiratet. Amerikanische Männer sind treu und verständlichvoll aber der Unterschied in Kultur ist sehr groß. Wen die Bildung gleich ist ist es einfacher.

Oops wrong forum!"


Bedeuten Sie Mann?? Nicht Männer?!
Was versuchen Sie, über Ausbildung zu sagen?

Alle Kulturen haben Unterschiede! Das ist, was das Leben interessant bildet!

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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truthspeaker says on Jul 11, 2008, 15:56:

50% of marriages fail normally. 85% - 90% of internet, dating site marriages fail between two different nationalities

Ready to roll the dice?

Remember, I can only tell the truth. No more Sex Tourism in Colombia.

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kernow62 says on Jul 11, 2008, 16:01:

Do you have a source for those figures truthspeaker? I want to share them with a friend but want to check the source before I put my foot in my mouth. Not doubting those figures, they sound about right, but I like to see the source of statistics.

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lpdiver says on Jul 11, 2008, 16:06:

Well dis her Coonass married his Paisa in Medellin four years ago TODAY. We are still happy and have passed the "magic" two year I got my green card era. Will it last...I hope/think so; but, you never know do you?

I'll keep you posted.

ts

ps...I got some gigantic leverage today! My wife forgot our anniversary. I remembered...thanks microsoft outlook! jejeje

"cook some rice!"

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dwr says on Jul 11, 2008, 16:34:

20 years with kids. The secret you ask? Live in Colombia.

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MaFe says on Jul 11, 2008, 17:30:

dwr says on Jul 11 (today): flag

20 years with kids. The secret you ask? Live in Colombia.

===
Ja ja...I was once told that the success to a great marriage are the following; Respect, communication, friendship (be each others best friend) love, sex, and loyalty...this if from a couple who have been married for 46 years! They are both from very different nationalities! (Don't live in Colombia, none are Colombian)

Congrats to all the Americans/people who have mixed marriages!

I think mixing cultures is great, all mixed marriages, (actually even marriages from the same cultures) have their differences- it's difficult work. Yet, I believe it's worth it when you find the right person.

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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Lisa Zee says on Jul 11, 2008, 20:54:

Es war eine einfache Frage, es war eine einfache Antwort. Wen sie nichts positives zu sagen haben, bitte schreiben Sie mir nicht!.

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CatGirl says on Jul 11, 2008, 20:59:

Sounds great Lisa - but can you say that backwards?

Love and Time: the only two things that cannot be bought, but only spent

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CatGirl says on Jul 11, 2008, 21:00:

MaFe - Great comments, you are a good person.;)

Love and Time: the only two things that cannot be bought, but only spent

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aztec says on Jul 12, 2008, 07:07:

Successful marriage is hard to accomplish even when both of you are born, raised in the same city, share the same religion and are relatively close in age. My first wife meet all of those criteria. The marriage was successful but hard mainly because we were in that stage of raising children and never having enough money.

With my second wife of 18+ years, a Colombian, we met none of those variables! In the first few years none of it matters but eventually it catches up with you and problems arise from different perspectives and cultures. Fortunately, we loved each other enough to work through them. I am now at the happiest and most satisfying part of my life. I must give thanks to my Colombian wife for that!

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kernow62 says on Jul 12, 2008, 07:26:

The religion thing is a bitch. My wife will occasionally bring over her bible toting pals to the house and she does seem to get upset when they see me skyclad running around the backyard leaping over a burning log. Other than that though it is all smooth sailing.

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huskie says on Jul 12, 2008, 08:41:

Sehr arme deutsche Sprachenübersetzung
Anfeuerungen

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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MaFe says on Jul 12, 2008, 16:21:

Es ist weisheit gekannt: Es gibt Dinge, die wir wissen, dass wir wissen. Es ist unbekannt gekannt: das ist zu sagen, dass Es Dinge gibt, die wir jetzt wissen, dass wir nicht wissen. Aber es gibt auch unbekannt unbekannt: Es gibt Dinge, die wir nicht wissen, dass wir nicht wissen. Und jedes Jahr entdecken wir Ein noch paar von die unbekannte unbekannt.

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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Lisa Zee says on Jul 12, 2008, 19:18:

WTF?!

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kernow62 says on Jul 12, 2008, 20:26:

Ich bin der musikant mit taschenrechner in der hand. Ich bin der musikant mit taschenrechner in der hand. Ich addiere und subtrahiere kontrolliere und komponiere.

Und wenn ich diese aste druck spielt er ein kleines musikstück. Ich addiere, und subtrahiere, kontrolliere, und komponiere.

Und wenn ich diese taste druck, spielt er ein kleines musikstück.

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webmanco says on Jul 12, 2008, 20:36:

Whatever

...A yo, déjenme queto y no me jodan má! ...

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huskie says on Jul 13, 2008, 04:47:

ok, Mozart, Leiten Sie das Orchester
Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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Desideria (Moderator) says on Jul 13, 2008, 04:53:

Muss I denn, muss I denn
Zum Staedt'le hinaus
Staedt'le hinaus
Und du, mein Schatz, bleibst hier?

Sei mir gut
Sei mir gut
Sei mir wie du wirklich sollst
Wie du wirklich sollst

Cheers,
Desi

"I have opinions of my own, strong opinions, but I don't always agree with them."-President George W. Bush

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dwmte7 says on Jul 13, 2008, 06:07:

heh, i thought swahili was banned.

kernow...know what ya mean. although we're catholics, my wife welcomes these colombian, 'witnesses' over to the house and they sit and run down nonsense for hours. my wife always telling them that their practices are--to her--wierd. but the ladies are nice enough. but, like you, they think i'm a bit on the wierd side, running around in my skivies. don't they have husbands?

dwmte

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huskie says on Jul 13, 2008, 06:22:

Wir sollten beide hier bleiben
Cheers

"Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds-"

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dwmte7 says on Jul 13, 2008, 07:10:

that's two strikes, huskie.

dwmte

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rocinante says on Jul 13, 2008, 08:41:

I don't think I want to be in a relationship where there are major cultural differences including religion, food, traditions etc..... Not to mention a huge language barrier that renders all conversation above chit chat useless. Women are the most social creatures in the universe and communicating frequently about every little friggen thing is of monumental importance to them. When a woman tolerates all the things I listed above AND the language thing AND MOVES AWAY from her beloved tight knit family AND (the least important thing) is that the guy is 20 years older, fatter balder, doesn't dance, doesn't like Vallenato and doesn't want his meat extra well done..... I think this women is nuts, desperate, with kids or playing the "I move to your country on your dime and find a Latino who 'gets me' and can saitisfy me with everything on the list - not just 'security' which is the only thing I get from you"

Happy marriage is a broad term but oftimes in the situation outlined in the title of this post (AND SHE MOVES AWAY) the guy doesn't share her culture and is totally satisfied with just "I'm in my chair having a drink watching the game, thanks for dinner we'll have sex later and maybe talk chit chat here and there - I make the money, I rescued you and your kids, so you cook clean and clean my pipes, you owe me - if you want to go out salsa dancing, to church or talk about something important, forget it because I'm tired, I'm 50 and yo no comprendo" - repeat.

In this situation can you blame the woman for the resentment she feels? Can you blame her for having ulterior motives? Can you blame here for not realizing that the grass is not always greener on the other side? Not to mention oftimes she gets married only after meeting the guy a handfull of times - but hey, they talked on the phone for almost a year and there was a webcam involved.

There are millions of women on the planet and I don't believe in this "only one person exists for another - soulmate" bullshit - I'm middle of the road left and right brains but the logical numbers against your "we don't even speak the same language let alone the other stuff" marriages are staggering.

No woman can tolerate this for all too long - they are complicated creatures with a laundry list of needs. Men are happy with sex, a maid and bragging to their friends, "Look at my hot young Colombiana I imported and married - ain't I the shit?" - Women need a bit more.

The hubby is always happy until the wife starts acting badly because of the resntment of her situation. If she hides it well and has an escape plan or some other stuff on the side that keeps her hopes up the hubby may never fully know.

Like my father always said - when the wife is happy, the whole house is happy.

I'm sure many here will chime in about how thier wife is the perfect little wifey, totally satisfied in Canada, has little problem with her family living 4,000 miles away but she talks with them on the phone and my town has lots of Dominicans and Goya products so it's just like she's in Colombia etc.... You guys are the lucky ones who bucked the odds of human female nature - or she is desperate, tolerant or extremely simple.

If your house is happy who cares? I would never take that risk.

"World economic indicators point to a democrat winning 2008. It will surely be Obama. Peso 1400 by November" Feb 5, 2008

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Robert Jorge says on Jul 13, 2008, 11:36:

Rocinante is correct. Very harsh, but correct.

--"I believe in making the world safe for our children. But not for our children's children, because I don't think that children should be having sex." - Jack Handy

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dwmte7 says on Jul 13, 2008, 11:42:

well thought out and presented, roci. that should be on all visa applications for gringos going to latin countries. read, sign and pass.

dwmte

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dwmte7 says on Jul 13, 2008, 11:44:

did everybody notice...it wasn't the wives--colombians--who posted...but the husbands. pity. i was fuckin one of them.

dwmte

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utopiacowboy says on Jul 13, 2008, 13:28:

I miss those web cam sessions.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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podborski says on Jul 13, 2008, 14:20:

so if I understand elmo correctly, if I snag a much younger, much better looking colombiana, as soon as she can she's going to dump me and run off.

Am I the only person who thinks this is about the perfect scenario? Being the commitment phobe I am and all...

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CanadaMan says on Jul 13, 2008, 14:32:

UTC,

You can still do your webcam sessions , you go on your basement computer and she goes on your bedroom computer.. lol


..

Formerly WidowerfromCanada...I am engaged to a wonderful Peruviana.

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lpdiver says on Jul 13, 2008, 16:03:

Pod...true. Kind of like trading in your car every two years...if you can afford it...no?

ts

"cook some rice!"

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ibemeubeu9001 says on Aug 16, 2008, 08:19:

Hello All, I have been married to a wonderful and beautiful lady from Cali, and considering its only been 6 years we still have the greatest time ever,,,,Note we do have our moment's of you know not agreeing with one another we seam to always work it out......Ya, who says that your to be with the lady down the street that was your girl-friend in high school or college, God has a way of putting life together the way its too be.......I found my best friend and love in a airport thousands of miles from my home and I know it was right soon as I saw her.....................Ok,
Thank you for reading this little not of happiness::::::See Ya

I just happen to be from Long Beach,CA, and I love visiting South America, My first visit was to Bogota, Ibaque, and Cucuta and not being a spanish speaking person, I had a great time. Would I travel to South America again, You Bet! The people are wonde

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MaFe says on Aug 16, 2008, 16:28:

dwmte7 says on Jul 13, 2008, 11:44: flag

did everybody notice...it wasn't the wives--colombians--who posted...but the husbands. pity. i was fuckin one of them.

I posted my mami's and tia's story...
and someone else tried....in broken German....jaaaaa jaaaaaaaaa

"All human actions have one or more of these seven causes: chance, nature, compulsions, habit, reason, passion, desire. "-Aristotle

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Joel y Luza says on Aug 16, 2008, 19:58:

I noticed some comments about language differences...That was one of the easiest things in our marriage to solve.. English classes, (intensive), and my pitiful attempt at spanish...Cultural differences? well, that has taken a broad mind to get through...Around the house, Colombian... I cook.. because she doesn't.. so sh eats what I cook.. or we cook together..Her Bogotana diet isn't too much different from mine, for the most part, more rice and beans.. but it's all coming together.

As far as successful marriages.. We have our tense moments, but for the most part, we are committed to each other.. She has turned out to me my best friend.

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manINred says on Aug 17, 2008, 04:29:

I agree, and I recently expressed my skepticism over the issue before.

I fail to see how one can form the deep emnotional and spiritual ties with a partner when you don't even speak the same language. I've been in that situation before and it's a joke to even try and bother. Point of story: learn spanish if you go to Colombia to wife-hunt. Don't just have a basic understanding/grasp of it... not sufficient... KNOW IT WELL!

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ColombianoGringo says on Aug 17, 2008, 13:34:

"I fail to see how one can form the deep emnotional and spiritual ties with a partner when you don't even speak the same language."

I completely agree. If I wasn't Colombian myself, I would never have even considered marrying someone from Colombia. My wife is from the same neighborhood as my mom's family so we share all the same idioms, customs and traditions.

Without at least sharing a language, I don't see how you can get to know anyone well enough to decide that you want to marry them.

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juli says on Aug 17, 2008, 14:56:

If one is desperate enough all reasoning goes out the window. El amor es ciego, pero los vecinos no. Even if I had two kids and no prospect of marriage I would never prostitute myself on the web and marry some guy that I only met twice who is old enough to be my father. The cyber relation with someone who can't speak my language. Forget about the culture differences and having to move away from my family to a foreign country. But if he looked like Brad Pitt that might change my mind : )-

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