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Getting married soon in Colombia, but

After reading many stories on the website and others I am really starting to wonder if my fiance wants marriage or wants to come to the states. I am 40 years old (never married) and I live in California. I am marrying a colombiana who is 35 years old (on March 12th) that I met in Cartagena more than a year ago. She is from Palmira and has a 10 year old son. We talk on the phone everday now and nearly everyday since I met her. I have visited her 6 times and on one trip I spent nearly a month with she and her family. She is very loving towards me and often says she is very much in love with me. She appears to be excited about our church wedding and she has been planning most of it (10 friends and family from the states will be attending our wedding). She knows she will be coming to California to live with me and does not seem to be overwhelmed with it, but says she does not care where we live as long as we are together. To make a long story short, I have seldom questioned her sincerity until recently. I realize no one knows our relationship (which is very good)...but am I being pharanoid or realistic? Do a lot of women marry americans to leave the rough conditions of living in Colombia and is it likely that she would have a difficult time finding a colombian to support her and her son?

By bbattiste on Mar 3, 2005, 13:27 in Friendly Talkzone.

bhill says on Mar 3, 2005, 14:49:

Re: Getting married in colombia Come on man, are you feeling this way because of some suspicious
behaviour, or after you spent too much time surfing the internet?
You've been together over a year? I've never met a gold digger with
that kind of patience.

I could never make such a generalization anyhow. People are
individuals. Her age, parental status, and nation of birth are
not sufficient information for a group of strangers to judge her
a gold digging ticket seeker.

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thundernco says on Mar 3, 2005, 16:33:

Nothing that you've posted gives any indication as to why you would question her sincerity. Are the normal pre-marriage jitters or did something happen? -TNC

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utopiacowboy says on Mar 3, 2005, 16:48:

Here's the deal. A 35 year old woman with a 10 year old son is never going to be able to marry in Colombia. OK, it's not "never" but it's pretty darn close to impossible. My wife's situation was even worse, she was a 42 year old widow with 3 children. After a year and a half of marriage we are still honeymooners. I really don't understand your question - everything you describe sounds great between you. Why the doubts?

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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chismoso says on Mar 3, 2005, 17:06:

Re: Getting married in colombia Tranquilo. I'm sure if you were suddenly to get all jazzed to buy a few cars and start your own driving school in Colombia, she'd be just as happy to live there with you. Ask her. You'll see.

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