Fiance in Colombia

carolain11 says on Jul 3, 2005, 07:50:

that is weird She is affectionate in winter but not in summer? that is the strangest thing I've heard in my life... also, who pays for the plane tickets? you or her? how old is she? how old are you? there are many things that have to be taken into consideration when trying to figure out someone's unusual behaviours. And about the sex, yeah, we're very traditional and everything, but hardly any girl over 24 is a virgin anymore. It's like finding a needle in a haystack.

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lockheed says on Jul 3, 2005, 08:15:

PULL THE EJECTION HANDLE I think she is not your match, cut the $$$ and see what happens, instead of her comming to MIA you go south.

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Crazy4Cali says on Jul 3, 2005, 08:29:

Have you tried the direct approach? If you have a concern like that about your relationship, you should at least tell her your concerns and ask her what's up.

Can you hop down to Bogota in-between her visits to see her?

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rjstuff says on Jul 3, 2005, 09:35:

Two and a half years without physical intimacy is too damn long in my opinion. I will need to get physical much sooner than that - for me physical compatibility is very important (a close second to mental compatibility) - or as UC will say I am a horny m** f**.
I have had some relationships (for lack of a better term) that extended a few weeks or months without physical intimacy but then I forced myself and her(them) to talk about it and in all cases we either broke up then or a little later after 'trying' to extend the relationship.
So, my advice will be to talk about it and be prepared to end it if the result is not satisfactory - (I do not want a woman with too many hangups and hangups about intimacy will kill the relationship - I want to laugh and cuddle and kiss and makeout and ... ... ...)

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utopiacowboy says on Jul 3, 2005, 10:21:

If you are with a Colombiana and you're not getting it, she's got another boyfriend or she is just not into you. Kick her to the curb - you've wasted far too much time on her already.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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suipacha says on Jul 3, 2005, 10:32:

This guy is an obvious troll. Don't respond to this flamebait...

"A single sentence will suffice for modern man: he fornicated and read the papers"

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caslug says on Jul 3, 2005, 13:15:

Affenctionate but no intimacy after 2 yrs..WTF?? Dude, u got bigger problem than the summer/winter thing. Sounds like she's getting action in COL, hence no need to get action during her short trip to see you...Sorry to break to you like that. You should talk w/ suipacha.. he is our resident expert on COL gal cheating on foreigners w/ other locals or other foreingers. You sent her money w/o intimacy??

Calipro once said NEVER spend/send money before being intimate!! Words to live by..

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silviat says on Jul 3, 2005, 13:39:

well is not that I always want to be saying things against what you guys say... and yes this situation is very very weird (if it is even true).

But I have some girlfriends who are still thinking on keeping virgin until marriage. They arent manye and its true it isnt a very common situation in colombia, but they are strong catholics and they believe it is the right thing to do. And I believe they feel that way.

I also met a guy from the peacecorp in ecuador who married an ecuatorian girl, they had a very nice relationsihp and they have a succesful marriage but they didnt have any sex before their wedding. I think one of the questions they asked her in the interview was in which side of the bed did he sleep at. and they had to explain that they didnt have sex yet.

Now this seems like a weird situation (that about the winter and the summer for example) and I would have my doubts about the whole relationship, not just the girl, but I just thought on sharing that there are women here that still believe in keeping theirselves to their future husbands and that the explanation may be different from "like she's getting action in COL, hence no need to get action during her short trip to see you"...

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caslug says on Jul 3, 2005, 14:01:

question silviat.. If SOME girls are waiting for marriage before having sex, do these GIRLS look for guys who are virgins too? There's guys i've met in COL AND US that like to meet a "innocent" girl, but they themselves are NOT "innocent". That doesn't sound fair does it.

Unless the girl(and guy) is religous, then i can see that. I've know some "religous" catholics girls that believe the same thing. BUT they'll have ORAL with their b/f, apparently they found a loophole in the rules. I was told by persian and afghan friends that women there give up ANAL to preserve their virginity. anothre loophole.

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Miguel says on Jul 3, 2005, 14:17:

Loophole Nice play on words caslug and good advice on suggesting consultation with suipacha. That should work!

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Rubiazo says on Jul 3, 2005, 16:33:

I just feel real sorry for anybody who marries a virgin who'se well into her 20s. That shit starts to dry up, you know! That kinda makes me think about the guy who was so into yoga he held his arm up above his head until it withered and became useless!

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rjstuff says on Jul 3, 2005, 16:34:

I was such a schmuk spending money and buying gifts and taking these girls on dates when they told me that they wanted to stay a virgin - had I known about the loopholes, I would be a different man now! Damn! Damn! Damn! I will take Oral or anal any day over no sex! jajaja

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utopiacowboy says on Jul 3, 2005, 17:56:

You bet, Rjstuff. Plugging them in two out of three holes ain't bad.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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Rubiazo says on Jul 4, 2005, 06:02:

Viva el chiquito! Vivalo!

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