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I've gotten the idea, which may be wrong, that with most people who marry a Colombian especially if they live in North America or Europe, the Colombian assimilates. Maybe it's due to my wife's stubborn nature or her appealing vivacity but she has not assimilated in the least. With her everything reminds her of a story from her Colombian past.
Her family is very conservative and if a boy wanted to court one of the family's daughters he had to come to the house and sit with the girl while her mother or an aunt stayed in the same room. Needless to say, the girls chaffed under these restrictions especially her younger sister who had a boyfriend. My wife did not have a boyfriend and her sister hatched a scheme to get her a boyfriend. My wife was 18 at the time and if she had a boyfriend she would have been permitted to go out with her sister and her boyfriend as a foursome.
The boyfriend had a friend who was attracted to my wife and who used to come with him to the house. He would try to talk to my wife but she used to brush him off and tell him that she was not going to be his girlfriend. Sometimes he would call on the phone and she would hang up on him. This went on for months but eventually the guy wore her down by bringing her little gifts and flowers etc. Remember guys, las detalles! She still wouldn't let him kiss her but as long as he was bringing her presents, she could tolerate him. As a result, my sister-in-law and her boyfriend were able to go out to movies and such with my wife and her "boyfriend".
My wife's boyfriend was nuts about her and used to call all the time and express his undying love etc. One night, he got drunk thinking about the futility of his unrequited love. He was a singer with a group of his own so he got his group out in the street next to the house to sing to her. Her father got up to see what was going on and it was he who got my wife out of bed to see what was causing all the commotion in the street. Her father calmly said to her, "See him? Is he the guy for you? Is he the kind of man you want to marry?". She didn't say anything and the father went out and sent the boyfriend packing with his group. The next day when he called, my wife told him she never wanted him to call or try to see her again.
Many years later she saw him after he had made a name for himself as a singer. They chatted about the old times and the moonlight serenade. She thinks he still carried a torch for her but to hear her tell it there are about 500 guys in Colombia carrying a torch for her.
By utopiacowboy on Jul 6, 2006, 17:55 in Friendly Talkzone.
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corazon en colombia says on Jul 6, 2006, 18:29: Assimilation? I think most people adapt and learn from the culture they are in, but to become part of the culture 100% is rare if you grew up in another one. Most people marry someone from another country because they are different, not because they want them to become like their own. I'm not sure what your confusion is...do you want her to become more american? Or are you just marvelling at the fact she is so unique? Can you explain a little more? Colombia = paradiso 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Wastelandlive says on Jul 6, 2006, 18:37: The Moral of the Story? Don't be an ass. If she's not into you, move on. Wasteland 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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oldbongo says on Jul 7, 2006, 10:37: sounds familiar cowboy... remember?...the time of the cholera...gabi m.
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utopiacowboy says on Jul 7, 2006, 14:43: You're right, OG. I think her whole freaking life is right out of Gabi M. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Rubiazo says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:25: That sounds crazy to me Sounds like the opening scene from "the Barber of Seville" except for the heroine in this case is frigid! I want less and less to visit Antioquia the more I hear about it. Are people really that atrasado there???? Jesus Fucking H Christ on a Pogo Stick!
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utopiacowboy says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:38: That's the most amusing part, Rubiazo. With her husband she is anything but frigid. It's all about appearances and respectability. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Gomezman5 says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:38: "El Cantante" ? There is (was) only one His name was was....one of the greatest salsero in history, and that is of course, Hector Lavoe. "El Cantante" was one of his most famous songs, and the words were written by another great salser, one of Hector Lavoe's mentors, Willie Colon
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utopiacowboy says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:39: I can always count on you, G5. I don't care what they say. Eres el hombre! Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Rubiazo says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:50: UC I think G5 is at the airport and he missed his bus again :)
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utopiacowboy says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:54: Back in the day, among a certain strata of Colombian society, it was important to preserve the virginity of your daughters. My wife is kind of a throwback to an earlier time. I wonder how many, if any, of these old customs have been preserved? Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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Rubiazo says on Jul 8, 2006, 21:59: Hopefully NONE Just hearing that kinda shit is vomit in my mouth. It makes me long for the days when the Romans knew what to do with the Jesus crowd :))
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utopiacowboy says on Jul 8, 2006, 22:01: You may be right, Rubiazo. Hey in spite of everything, the old girl knows what to do in the sack. Que mamacita. Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult. 0 funny, 0 helpful. |
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kat1 (Moderator) says on Jul 9, 2006, 02:30: in my Mum's day was like that, somebody had to be in the sitting room with the couple, how boring, my dad was quite stricted with us too but not to the point of sitting with us in the sitting room looking after us, but we always found our way, remembered were there is a will there is a way ;)
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Gomezman5 says on Jul 9, 2006, 15:10: UC....thanks for your support ! And Rubiazo........ I may have missed the bus again, but that is because the buses never seem to run on time. They come early, and leave early. You on the other hand, keep getting on the wrong bus period. That being the case, you have nobody else to blame but yourself.
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Rubiazo says on Jul 9, 2006, 21:47: I'm not on the wrong bus if it takes me somewhere I want to go :)
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Gomezman5 says on Jul 9, 2006, 22:36: So what's your point Rubi? There is none apparently.
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Rubiazo says on Jul 9, 2006, 23:12: The two founders To which I was referring in my post were Pacheco and Masucci.
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Gomezman5 says on Jul 10, 2006, 16:42: Rubi You are wrong....You just don't know what you are talking about. The word "Salsa" was created in New York, but the earliest forms of the music is from Puerto Rico. Look, do you think that the key salsa artists did not learn the music until they got off the plane in New York? Is that what you are saying? By the time they arrived in New York, they were adults and they were already playing salsa in Puerto Rico. Take for example Ismael Rivera, "El sonero Mayor" (aka Maelo), he was born in 1931, what the hell do you think he was playing throughout his youth and adulthood? He was playing salsa long before it was called Salsa.
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Rubiazo says on Jul 10, 2006, 19:49: He was playing SON CUBANO Why the fuck do you think they called him "EL SONERO" anyways? Nobody called it 'salsa' until the late 60's and it was a term specifically coined to adress the innovations by Fania. In the 60s everybody was basically playing Cuban music until the salsa came along. Puerto Ricans had their own African-influcend music, such as bomba and plena, and then they had musica jibara, but none of these had anything else to do with salsa. There are some bomba and plena tracks on Fania however. A good example would be "Chiviriquitón", which is a plena.
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Gomezman5 says on Jul 10, 2006, 20:53: Rubi You claim to be an expert on everything. When it comes to be opinionated, on this web site, you go to the top of the list. Do you have to be so dogmatic about everything?
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Rubiazo says on Jul 10, 2006, 23:23: I'm not taking it out I'm simply pointing out that it wasn't the only ingredient. And correcting you in that Salsa was played in NYC BEFORE it was played in PR, because that's just a fact. For awhile everybody was playing son, both here and there, and then the salsa developed HERE. It was not developed in PR.
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