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Desperate men, or am I just being a cold hearted bastard ????

Ok, I know I have said this over and over, like a broken record, but……. What the hell is up with these desperate and stupid men? I was talking to my friend in Colombia, won’t say what city, because maybe one of the guys might actually be reading this board, and be offended, but she told me about two guys she has been helping lately, teaching their girlfriends English and so forth.
Both guys, engaged to two girls, one actually filed for a visa, she turned out to be a real gold digger, asking for a lot of things and money, and actually said, “ when I get there, I’m not getting married right away, I’m waiting until the very end�? which seems smart on her part. But she was such a “ gold digging bitch�? as my friend quoted, ha ha, that she felt this girl was using the guy , just to get to the USA, so she could get a job and then leave him, but after so many problems, he broke off the relationship, but didn’t cancel the application for the visa, because he thought, “ ah, she will never get it, and how would she get the $$ for the ticket�? well guess what stupid, she got the visa, and somehow, she got the $$$ for the ticket. She arrived in Miami 21 days ago, and didn’t bother to call him, until she couldn’t find a job and was running out of $$$$. So now, he is in Pennsylvania, paying for her ticket, to go be with him, how desperate is that?

Other guy, got engaged in 3 months, bought and gave his girl a diamond ring, but after problems, her getting cold feet and constantly fighting, he called it off and the girl gave the ring back. Well, so I thought. I talked to him a few times, told him, he was going WAY too fast, needed to slow down, and if she was a good girl, and the right girl, she would wait. He agreed and said he was taking a step back, slowing everything down, was going to get to know her better. Oh sure!!! My friend tells me, he just filed papers for the visa, WHAT? And “it’s so hard to be without her and to be alone�? geezzzzz, will these guys ever learn??? I give up. Somebody shoot me, plezzeeeee

By muddie on Jun 23, 2008, 16:04 in Friendly Talkzone.

sloopskipper says on Jun 23, 2008, 16:15:

I don’t understand it. These sure seem like desperate people who will travel thousands of miles to find something that is in their own back yard.

That is, unless they don’t feel that they can deal with their equals in their own country.

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miamimike says on Jun 23, 2008, 16:31:

I know two sisters here in Miami who married Guys who came from BQA. The Sis that arrived first, unbeknown to her new husband, told a few Colombiana friends that she only married for a plane ticket and Residency Papers(green card). She was planning the Divorce before she EVEN married the guy. They met on the Internet through an Online Agency(first). The guy isn't a friend and I never met him so I would never get involved. He is a grown man and should be using his Head.(superior location). They hurried and married not 6 months after they first met. Caveat Emptor,,,Come to Miami and meet them here ON YOUR TURF,,,

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tomtom33 says on Jun 23, 2008, 16:45:

There are the users and the used on both ends of the equation.

I came to Colombia over 5 years ago now. I have never been married and was not looking for a wife. Lo and behold, I may have found one. But we have been dating for over 4 years now, and we are living in Colombia. She has no desire to live in the US.

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Monita Linda says on Jun 23, 2008, 17:10:

I am married and living in Colombia, my husband has no desire to live in the country I come from, although we do plan a visit to my family next year. He often times jokes with me that I married him to get Colombian residency.

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CanadaMan says on Jun 23, 2008, 17:49:

mudd,

Yeah the truth be told mudd you are a cold hearted bastard.. jajajajajaja broma

The problem is a lot of guys don't check out a woman heart , see how she sweet she is , how sincere she is and if she loves him for him.. They just go for the body and looks.. I am happy to say is that I have a Novia who all those qualities..

Have a good one,

CanadaMan aka singlefather

..

Formerly WidowerfromCanada...I am engaged to a wonderful Peruviana.

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papiChulo says on Jun 23, 2008, 18:41:

all I can say to this is... never underestimate the power of the almighty...P%$$Y... :)

I'm not greedy I just want a lot.

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dami says on Jun 23, 2008, 18:55:

I've got a fiancee in Bogota. Never had a problem with dating in my own backyard. Just met the keeper in Bogota.

If you don't read the flags before you get hitched... you're signing on for trouble. No matter where or how you meet.

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podborski says on Jun 23, 2008, 19:08:

troll

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GregYohn says on Jun 23, 2008, 20:56:

Hola!

I've known some American guys that think a fiance visa is meant as a dating visa and not to marry the woman you want to marry!

12VOIP.com gives free calls to Colombia.Greg

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CanadaMan says on Jun 23, 2008, 21:21:

podporski , Doug75 and everyone ,

muddie is not a troll.. I know him quite well from another forum and he has his feet planted on the ground straight.. He is a good guy,,,

CanadaMan

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Formerly WidowerfromCanada...I am engaged to a wonderful Peruviana.

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GregYohn says on Jun 23, 2008, 21:32:

Hola!

The women think the guys are serious when they tell them they love them and want to marry them. The women think a fianace visa is for fiance.

12VOIP.com gives free calls to Colombia.Greg

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Cartagena Hooker says on Jun 23, 2008, 22:23:

No you are not a cold hearted bastatrd. You are only surprised by a subculture that has existed here in colombia for over ten years. Older men in the united states are basically ignored by women there. They may be divorced or widowed. But they are desperate and often find they are rejected by younger women and considered damaged by damaged women who are in the same perdicament. Men in their forties fifties and sixties are usually sexually active but have few options other than strip bars.and self abuse which is often preferable to female abuse. They hear about a culture where older men are not considered refuse and learn that younger women might find that a nice man who is stable and considerate may be a better choice than a macho stud. Of course These men feel like kids in a candy store and often buy more than they can handle.. A lot of these men are socially retarded and never could even date some of the women they find interested here. So they choose unwisly and find a shark but they learn and pay. But it is like Sheryl Crowe says "lie to me I promise to believe" So let them enjoy being in love its better than being ignored and often more pleasurable. CH

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goin_south says on Jun 23, 2008, 22:31:

and, it can go well, (or, not) irregardless of the time alotted.

Life is a .... GAMBLE!

WHO NEEDS CASINOS?????? jej

Where do we go from here?

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muddie says on Jun 23, 2008, 22:51:

Thanks CanadaMan, i see this board has the same negative guys as planet love ja ja
To Dougie fresh75 and Podboy, what do you want a history lesson or background check.
39 years old, live in San Diego, good looking, speak some Spanish, and have had the same novia in BQ for over a year now. She isn’t in a hurry to get married, nor am I. spend most of my Colombian time in Medellin, got lots of friends there, Mas?

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CanadaMan says on Jun 24, 2008, 00:12:

My pleasure mudd.. There are a lot of very good posters here so keep coming back..

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Formerly WidowerfromCanada...I am engaged to a wonderful Peruviana.

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CanadaMan says on Jun 24, 2008, 07:01:

bump

Formerly WidowerfromCanada...I am engaged to a wonderful Peruviana.

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