dating colombian girl

Gator says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:52:

Not sitting down and counting to ten.

"Credidi pretio parvo emere et magno vendere tibi in animo fuisse!" .

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:54:

explain???

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Medellin Traveler says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:55:

I STONGLY suggest you not stay at her place. You need to book a hotel room in an area that is the "safest" part of town.

You are "in love" and cannot trust your own actions and decisions at the moment.

Do some research on Bogota before you fly into town.

Trust others opinions and advice before your own.

Oh yeah, you are not dating a Colombian woman, at least not the one living in Colombia.

Good luck!

"Huevos Rancheros en Medellin, No Quiero Taco Bell." - www.medellintraveler.com

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:57:

We have been comunicating online for a couple of months and we seem to get along really well.I want to meet her.Does anyone know where plazulas Del virrey is???

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dave_travels says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:57:

Yes. Be very afraid of her getting her hooks into you and you not ever wanting to return home again.

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Medellin Traveler says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:58:

It's too late! She already has her hooks in him!!

"Huevos Rancheros en Medellin, No Quiero Taco Bell." - www.medellintraveler.com

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 18:59:

What would make you say that??

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:00:

she has her hooks in But I am not there yet

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:01:

she is meeting me at the airport,I also have a friend who will be there aswell
she is from bogota

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:02:

I have dated from colombia before and I want a woman from there

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la campiña says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:06:

yea, 2 things , run for your life and dont look back and ask yourself "what if" or throw yourself into a life of happiness, education, culture shock and good times , only you know your situation and I wish you well , worked for me and continues to rock

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dave_travels says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:08:

She could be a good girl or she could be bad. Since you are new to travelling outside of North America, it will be easy for you to fall for this girl. Stay in a hotel until you get your feet wet. If you find yourself buying her girlfriend's dinner also on the first date...be aware!

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:14:

Thank you for the feed back.I have talked with her son and her mom
I have seen the son.She also speeks english fluent.We have talked about everything and I am excited to meet her .She said it would be alright for my friend to meet with her and see where she lives,She claims to be a christian and she is very very sweet.I am will to take her to usa.I just want to trust her

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Gator says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:21:

Not sitting down and counting to ten.

Amigo, if you don't understand the above you are already in over your head,

¡ Así es la vida! Dulce para unos y amarga para otros. ¡Qué lástima que muriera tan joven!

"Credidi pretio parvo emere et magno vendere tibi in animo fuisse!" .

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static says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:25:

(setting up lawn chair)

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:27:

I know the world is filled with cynics and I just want to say screw it !!!!and just go.
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la campiña says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:27:

or her madre 'tia,tio , hermano, hermana ,abuelo,abuela, hijosssssssssssssssss, the extended family here is like stretch gordon, on and on and on , PERO good genuine people are here in abudance and i hate saying be carefull, but ....................., by the way I'm married to a rola and maybe I'm lucky , i never look back now, there is bad wash in every laundry, and al contrario cuidado con los extranjeros, posible eso es mas importante y profundo por colombianas, hay bandidos con palabras muy dulce, cuidate muchisimo, tus saben

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eywed says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:33:

Cynics-r-us here at PBH. But some of the good Folks on here have been thur the ringer and some have not. There is a lot of good advise on here from people who have been right where your at now. I'm thinking I would be getting a hotel room of my own and then play it by ear. Oh and by the way you asked the question so get ready for the answers. Alot of them!!!!!

Ay Hombe!!!!!

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:38:

thank you ,I feel like the advaice I have been recieving is being very helpful.I know the world is filled with good and bad .this person seems very genuine and I know I am volnerable.The hotel might be a good choice and I also rented my own car.this is the craziest thing I have ever done by far.I an praying to god that I am not making a mistake.I know she has actually sworn on her son that she is not lieng and everythis is true.I hope I am a good read of people

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:40:

I guess I am at her mercy because I speek very little spanish and she is fluent in english.she is also a lefty so she cant be that bad :-)

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Gator says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:40:

A man's gotta do what a man's gotta do. If you heart and mind say do it then do it and don't ask others for advice. It's your life. I also live in Bogotá now, before that Cali and a long time resident and am very happily married to Mrs. Gator who is a Caleña.

!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! DO NOT RENT A CAR!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! vERY EXPENSIVE AND IF YOU HAVE NOT DRIVING IN COLOMBIA YOU WILL HAVE AND EYE OPENING EXPERIENCE. iF YOU EVERY WONDERED WHERE THE PHRASE "TAKE NO PRISONERS" CAME FROM YOU WILL FIND OUT.

Taxis, public transport ion and buses are cheap and go every where..

"Credidi pretio parvo emere et magno vendere tibi in animo fuisse!" .

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:41:

I just need to post my thoughts and maybe some of you can become friends when I am there

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joebike1 says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:42:

again this meens the world to me,guess I am a little nieve

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eywed says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:53:

I agree with the above , "Dont rent a car" Taxis are very cheap. Driving in Colombia is crazy. Nieve in some place is no big deal, Nieve in Colombia can get you killed. Don't go into this Nieve. your going to get some good advise on here, listen to alot of it.

Ay Hombe!!!!!

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Gator says on Oct 19, 2007, 19:56:

Is the neighborhood she lives in El Virrey? Could be in the Chapinero are on the north end
The Mercado de las Flores (flower market) in the Parque El Virrey, just off calle 87.

Both good areas and upper middle class for the most part.

"Credidi pretio parvo emere et magno vendere tibi in animo fuisse!" .

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Robert Jorge says on Oct 19, 2007, 20:31:

I think you going down there to meet her and spend time with her is wise - not crazy. The renting of the car, now that's crazy. I won't beat a dead horse on that issue, but like the above guys said, DON'T rent a car.

Before you go, I advise get a couple of small gifts for the family. Nothing fancy or expensive. Maybe some body lotion for mom, a little Tshirt for the son, a bottle of Scotch whisky for an adult male is always appreciated.

When you go with this lady to dinner, a big red flag is: If it is clear that it is a "date" for just you two, but all of a sudden a friend happens to show up and you are expected to pay for your date AND her friend or cousin (very common), beware. Also, no matter how much you may want to, DO NOT take your girl shopping or buy her anything other than dinner, or a cab fare. If she asks if you can buy her something; when you part ways that night, make that your final night with her. Can you imagine going out with a women in the US, and having her ask you to buy a pair of shoes, or a dress, whatever? Don't do it in Colombia ... it would even be worse.

He who farts in church, sits in his own pew.

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culipayaso says on Oct 19, 2007, 20:38:

Do you guys actually believe this guy!!! It's obviously a joke.

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eywed says on Oct 19, 2007, 20:53:

Culipayaso- You very well might be right. On the chance this is real I hope what little advise I have given helps. On the chance your right the advise I give and the others on here give will be read by others that might be in the same boat but are afraid to ask questions on here because they will get blasted on here on many diffrent levels.

Ay Hombe!!!!!

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Andydg says on Oct 19, 2007, 21:06:

I've been there, done that. Going on 7-1/2 years of marriage to my Colombian wife. No regrets at all.
First visit is the most difficult because everything is new to you. You'll do fine, just trust your own instincts.
As for driving there, everytime I've been there it was a blast. Mind you I've only been to Baq, yet I find it fun to drive there. To me the drivers there are more predictable than locally in Calif.

with my family I have no time for friends......

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Lisa Zee says on Oct 19, 2007, 21:41:

If you are not a "troll".... listen to this guys very carefully and read all the posts about dating in Colombia. Good luck.

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coffee beaner says on Oct 19, 2007, 22:11:

GREEN CARD TIME!!! Another pasty gringo falls for our great Colombianas, how wonderful. LOL

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john_stark says on Oct 19, 2007, 23:22:

"Only a major tool would do that on a fist date."

WTF? He's already fisting her?

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webmanco says on Oct 19, 2007, 23:28:

Hire a bodyguard for her dog.

JK

...A yo, déjenme queto y no me jodan má! ...

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billyb says on Oct 20, 2007, 00:11:

Joebike, do yourself a favor and listen to Gator, he'll give it to you straight from both points of view.

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scotty says on Oct 20, 2007, 00:26:

1. Go meet the girl
2. Dont stay at her place get a nice hotel room
3. Dont rent a car, use the taxis
4. Have fun

Get Rhythm, when you got the blues. Johnny Cash

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Robert Jorge says on Oct 20, 2007, 00:35:

5. Don't be paranoid, but on the other hand, trust your gut.

He who farts in church, sits in his own pew.

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la campiña says on Oct 20, 2007, 00:40:

its sad but whatever, rip her tangas off give it all youve got , enjoy, relish in her flesh ,then leave without a forwarding address

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billyb says on Oct 20, 2007, 00:44:

Camps, just might be right :))

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la campiña says on Oct 20, 2007, 01:01:

dog eat dog, saben

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kat1 (Moderator) says on Oct 20, 2007, 02:29:

how do you meet all those girls online? what sites do you go? i'm just curious of all those gringos meeting this girls, are they all in dating agencies, or some of you meet them in a casual chat room like ICQ?

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Medellin Traveler says on Oct 20, 2007, 04:22:

I met my lovely Paisita on www.latinamericancupid.com and met my novias on www.myspace.com This is FREE, so you can meet as many as you want before heading down to Colombia.

I would say Latin Cupid is a good site with many members. I talked to about 100 girls before finding my lovely Paisita.

A. DO NOT RENT A CAR!

B. Forget about any type of lotion as gifts. To many it's a waste of money. I went to the dollar store and purchased key chains, coffee mugs, and coloring books all for under $18. All gifts where greatly appreciated. DO NOT CONFUSE GIFT GIVING WITH LOVE.

C. Find yourself a guide who speaks English. I believe someone on here posted their services before. I don't understand what you meant by "she decided it was okay for my friend to check out where she lives." YOU ARE A MAN!! YOU ARE THE BOSS! DO NOT act like a pansy American man. Act like a MAN! Treat her with respect but don't let her run the show. You are the one flying to another country to meet HER! Do not spoil her, she is not the most wonderful person in the world. Even though you may think that. We are all special and wonderful.

D. AGAIN, get your own hotel room! This is not an OPTION!

E. YOu have a few months before your planned trip. Get busy with the Espanol lessons. It's time for an all immersion crash course for you.

F. Do not spend every waking moment with her. Get out and explore on your own.

G. Don't forget your camera. Take lots of pictures.

H. TAKE IT SLOW!!

I.Trust your instincts. But make sure you are capable of keeping an open mind, put the "love" to the side."

GOOD LUCK!

"Huevos Rancheros en Medellin, No Quiero Taco Bell." - www.medellintraveler.com

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sjr24 says on Jul 3, 2008, 06:52:

well to answer the initial questions: yes you are crazy. and...yes there are some things you should be afraid of.

i'm not seated at the cynics table, but we're all a little crazy and we all do stupid things. I met a girl from Cali and five years of my life have disappeared - i was young, it was crazy and looking back on it, it was stupid...but it was, and continues to be one of the best things I've ever done.

be afraid of a lot of things, but don't be afraid to make a mistake, because life isn't straight forward.

i wish you all the best ;>)

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