Cyber relationships

A few years ago I was feeling very low and with no one to talk to so I decided to surf the net and let time pass by, I went to this Colombian website and decided to enter the chat room, my nick was la mona (i used to be blonde) I scanned all the other nicks to choose who to talk to and there he was my husband his nick was el mono (he's a natural blonde).

I was a bit shy and did not know what to say the truth was that I haven’t had a relationship since my ex who used to beat me up and abused me mentally and emotionally, he left me scared and I was too afraid to even consider finding somebody else but I felt left out and lonely so I decided to chat to this guy with no intention other than to have a good talk, I really needed somebody to talk to after what I had been through (I’d just come out of coma after a drug overdose) this lovely guy listen to me, was real fun and I enjoyed talking to him so much that I decided to keep in contact with him.

Although I was too ashamed of my past I decided to be honest with him from the start but he didn’t judge me at all instead he gave me the moral support that I needed to keep going, this guy was so good to me that I started to wonder… was it too good to be true? I didn’t know what to think, this was very new to me I have never had a cyber relationship as they call it, so I didn’t know what to expect but I have been around too many times to know that life isn’t too easy and that things like this don’t occur in real life.

I decided to back off for a while but he kept insisting and calling me so I decided to give it a go, we talked for hours on the phone, started sending each other letters and pictures and writing e-mails until we decided to buy web cams although is not the same as seeing each other in person it would had to do for the time being that’s what I thought to myself.

we had this long distance relationship for a year before he decided to come to London to meet me in person, he liked my wicked way but he knew that I was living a life which was eating me up inside, he decided to give up his job in Miami and came to England to work for my father and to take care of me, he help me through my bad patch and got me up on my feet once again, he has been my rock and I felt deeper and deeper in love with him as time went by.

Years after we first saw each other in person we decided to get married and we now live in London and are planning to move back to his beloved Miami... I will never forget the first day I saw him, seeing him at the arrivals meeting point at Heathrow airport waiting for me was like seeing our child for the first time when she was born, so exciting it was like something that I had been waiting for my whole life.

I now know that these relationships do work out…but how?? you make ask yourselves, I guess it’s because you get to know each other a lot better, you talk about things you wouldn’t say in person, you tell your partner all your dreams and goals in life without thinking that they are going to laugh at you and you don’t argue as much, the best thing is that is a lot like a childhood kind of relationship you get to know each other first then you sleep together and it feels really especial not like the relationships I used to have where you usually sleep with the person at first then may be get to know each other and that’s a big may be! Anyway your guess is as good as mine! But whatever it was it sure was worth all the hassle and the waiting!

By nanis on Jan 18, 2005, 11:29 in Friendly Talkzone.

oldbongo says on Jan 18, 2005, 11:45:

takes all kinds... to make the world go round.

keep spinning girl.

the oldgringo met la commandante the old-fashioned way,
en persona,shot thru the heart...however,he can imagine
the connectivity that provided the means for you, can do it
for others too. just think, elmo and the oldgringo are only
now beginning our lifelong adventure onto the high seas of
international burro comedy.

kernow62 says on Jan 18, 2005, 12:23:

Mrs. Gomez, I just wanted to compliment you on your excellent use of English in your posts. Unless one was to know different, they would assume you were a native English speaker.

Albatross says on Jan 18, 2005, 12:23:

! I still like to meet girls the old-fashioned way... by hanging out in bars...

“Democracy - a pathetic belief in the collective wisdom of individual ignorance." - H.L. Mencken

Peter Miami says on Jan 18, 2005, 13:32:

That was beautiful, I am happy for you and him. I meet women the old fashion way also at clubs, that this is not the right way to do it but it is the most effective. I was born and raised here in Miami and you will love it. It is a wonderful place with great weather. You got a great man keep him and take care of him. Good luck!

Peter Miami

elmodefoque says on Jan 18, 2005, 16:29:

pink, let's make a deal, you show me your naked butt and i promise to show you mine. one suggestion, don't eat before you see it. i saw my self in action (videotape) with my wife, my god that had to be the most horrible sight ever, it was worst than watching those poor victims of the tsunami, it was awfull! i almost threw up

over 5 million colombianos in USA and only 27 barranquilleros, i'm one.Curramba, el mejor vividero del mundo!

larryste says on Jan 18, 2005, 21:00:

Online dating I am glad that things worked out for you.
I read in the newspaper that online date is not a popular as it once was. People are starting think of it in a bad way. All of the dating .coms are starting to lay workers off.

utopiacowboy says on Jan 19, 2005, 08:41:

The dating sites are laying people off? Hey, at least they're getting laid (off).

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

Lionheart says on Jan 19, 2005, 11:47:

do-it-yourself works better it seems I have only heard this for US based agencies - the ones where high $$$ memberships and more are required. With the abundance of cheap dating or meeting sites which offer free browsing up front the tradition dating agencies are loosing their potential. People don't have the cash to spend anymore, so they tend to do it themselves. From what I read the success rates are even higher than what the agencies showed. I think international agencies have a higher chance for survival, due to the problems with languages, customs, cultures, and legal problems.

Crazy4Cali says on Jan 19, 2005, 12:29:

Match me I met my current novia colombiana through match.com (the international/latin america version). I'm just a plain-ol' middle-aged, divorced gringo with custody of the kids, but still recieved about 300 e-mails from different women in response to my posting. (a "culture" shock for which I was hardly prepared). Surprisingly, to me, most latinas that responded thought it was a good sign that I had the kids after the divorce (showing stability, I presume), while most gringas I've met, saw this as a challenge at best and a liability in the worst case.

The respondents to my ad ranged from a (surprisingly) few golddiggers to a few old enough to be my mother with every possible type in-between. The real test, just like a "normal" relationship, was to see if we could get past the "small-talk" phase to more substantive conversation. The next test was to see if that, too, would die out or not. In the end, there was one who captured my heart and we've been going strong for three whole months now (yeah, I know, that's just the beginning).

Say what you will about internet romances, but for us old-duffers (mid-40's) who no longer have the social life of a 20-year old, to the extent I ever had such a thing, the internet provides a way to meet people from a much larger population then simply hanging out a the local club would (assuming I even know where that club was).

All the other elements of developing a relationship still exist: common and/or compatible interests, goals, maturity, living habits, parenting style(s) if you have kids, etc. Further, the "long distance" nature makes it easier to project things onto the other person that may or may not really be there. So "caveat emptor" applies big-time!

Bottom-line: it can be successful with an open heart and open eyes.
The jury is still out as to whether or not I'll be writing a story such as the charming one posted by Sra. Gomez, but I'm optimistic.