Colombian custom

thundernco says on Dec 28, 2004, 09:49:

Asking for hand in marriage? I did, and it was very well received. I think it set the foundation for mutual respect between my suegros and I. Good luck, TNC

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toneloc24 says on Dec 28, 2004, 09:54:

It would be smart I have no experience with this, but I'll offer my two cents anyway.

Take her father out for a drink, maybe dinner. Don't tell him the nature of your intentions, as he may infer something to his wife. MAKING A HUGE GENERALIZATION, BUT....Colombian women talk a lot and can't keep a secret. Tell him you want to discuss something with him about Colombia.

During the dinner/meeting, lay your case out, while plying him with aguardiente, or even better, whiskey. By the end of the meeting/dinner, you'll have earned his respect, as you approached him first, man-to-man. No matter what country, I'm pretty sure every father wants that respect in regards to his daughter. Later, or the next day, with him, you ask the mother for her blessing.

Be a gentleman about it. Start off with the family on the right foot. Suerte!

"Don't tase me, bro!!!!"

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Rikito says on Dec 28, 2004, 10:01:

Colombian Custom Here is what I did. I took Marce out for dinner at our favorite restaurant in Bogotá and ordered a nice bottle of wine. As my toast to her, I read a poem that I had written asking her to marry me. The poem is at the end of this message. At that point, I gave her an engagement ring that she put on her right hand. When we returned home that evening, I asked not for her parent’s permission since we are both adults, but I did ask for their blessing, which was wonderfully accepted. Not a dry eye in the house

Here's the poem

UNA PREGUNTA PARA
MI VIDA MI ALMA

Hay tanto estar agradecido para.
Cada día nuevo llega con una frescura todo es
propio.
La brisa de cada día me recuerda de usted.
Así que suave, así que apacible, así que adorando.

Nuestros mundos han unido manos.
Un sentimiento tan hermoso como sentía jamás.
Un amor tan fuerte como jamás experimentado.
Mas tan frágil como la vida él mismo.

Este amor que compartimos es un amor duradero.
Cuando debe ser.
Este amor es un amor que da.
Cuando sólo dando, puede esperamos recibir.

Yo siempre le adoraré y le necesita en mi mundo.
Cuando espero que usted siempre me necesitará.
Una necesidad construyó en el amor y la confianza.
Honradez y pasión.

Encontré un medios del amor que un amor me ha
encontrado también.
Quiero estar con usted para siempre y más allá.
Las oraciones dijeron que usted adora está aquí
conmigo.
Cuando adoro está aquí con usted.

¿Marcela Herrera mi más estimado amor,
usted me se casará?

rdp 12/2/04

It is not life that matters, but the journey.

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elmodefoque says on Dec 28, 2004, 10:02:

damn tone, you got it down. no wonder my wife's father hates my guts. not only is that sonamanbiche only 5 years older than me, i'm also every colombian parents worst nightmare, i'm a freaking indio, and to top it off, i did not bother to ask for her hand. heck, i did not want her hand, i wanted her ass!

PROUD ENEMY OF THE RIGHT WING!!!!!! THANK YOU!

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fzrdan says on Dec 28, 2004, 10:20:

You guys got it right. I will ask for their blessing, not permission. Frankly, I am sure my girl would marry me even if her parents did not approve. I can't imagine that scenario actually occuring though as her parents seem to like me and they just want their daughter to be happy.

Great poem Rikito.

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vanwely says on Dec 28, 2004, 10:49:

Very nice
I am thinking of proposing on the top of Monserrate.


Colombia - Tierra Querida

Colombia - Tierra Querida

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william_andrew_channell says on Dec 30, 2004, 07:05:

Monserrate? They say it's bad luck for boyfriends and girlfriends to go to Monserrate together. I'm not really superstitious..., but you never know.

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fzrdan says on Dec 30, 2004, 22:23:

Oh no..I think..no, I know..my novia knows. I was asking some questions about her dad and she got real inquisitive about why I was asking so many questions. When she suggested I take her dad out for a few drinks, just the two of us, I knew that she knew.

So much for the surprise. I also told her I want to go to Santa Marta in February. She probably thinks I want to pop the question there. Smart girl. I will have to think of something good since the element of surprise is gone.

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