arranged marriages

gypsymomma says on Apr 7, 2008, 04:18:

I'm not sure about Columbia, but I have a friend that married a man from El Salvador. He went against the grain by marrying an American. Arranged marriage was preferred by parents, but he came here to college and met her. Funny thing is shortly after they married, he went back claiming he had some familial responsibilities. That was about a year and a half ago. He is still there, claiming all sorts of excuses on behalf of the U.S. Embassy as to why he cannot come home. I think he is married there, too. My friend is young and naive and was pregnant when he left. Sometimes I want to tell her to be a little less trusting of these hollow sounding excuses, but that is not my place. She even converted to Catholicism for their marriage, undermining her own upbringing. I know arranged marriage has been commonplace in Central America.

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Rikito says on Apr 7, 2008, 04:47:

Sorry, but you made a terrible mistake. You must write 100 times the following and submit it to this post.

"The correct spelling of the word Colombia is: C O L O M B I A


Siempre contigo :-)

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vicshere says on Apr 7, 2008, 05:42:

actually mine was arranged to......i arranged it

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Mononoke28 says on Apr 7, 2008, 09:31:

I've never heard of that at all. Not even from my parents who were coffee farmers and were surrounded by a lot of country folk.

Diana

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britabroad says on Apr 7, 2008, 09:39:

Mrs Brit says that in the good old, bad old days, you would be expected to marry into a good family of the same or higher class than yourself. She also says that parents often judged a boyfriend as to his suitability for marriage, and maybe a little push in the right direction, but no real "arrangement" went on.
Having said that, her mother - who immigrated to Colombia from Spain during the Spanish Civil War - was 12 when she got married, although she still lived with her parents until she was 16.
At the age of 12 I can't see her making a decision about marriage by herself.

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Cali2005 says on Apr 7, 2008, 10:34:

I am not sure about arranged marraiges but the current problem seems to be from family members selling their kids off to guys that have money.

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ColombianoGringo (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Apr 7, 2008, 10:43:

Robert Jorge says on Apr 8, 2008, 06:03:

I have the same take as ColombianoGringo.

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Lauthra (☼Travelguide writer) says on Apr 8, 2008, 07:58: