Advise to people thinking about marrying a Colombian

christobeldawg says on Sep 7, 2007, 23:51:

I suggest we have a genuine talk on this, with input from people who are serious about this issue. There is so much cynicism when this comes up, and that is not unwise, but why don't we run with this post in a more serious manner, for a change. There are good relationships between American men and Colombian women. What are some of the common denominators? Obviously, as the poster states, they take time to develop, there must be common interest and values. Most, but not all, of these potential couples will likely live in the US, not in Colombia. How can we truly help sincere people looking for love avoid the pitfalls of this type of international dating? I would venture to say there are as many bad American guys as there are Colombian women in this arena. Bad as in authoritan types, losers at home types, guys wanting someone they can control types, etc.. With the bad Colombian women, they get more press, the gold diggers, the visa seekers, the manipulators, etc..
How can we help genuine and sincere people to sidestep the minefields, and find true lasting love?

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RussianFred says on Sep 8, 2007, 00:06:

I total agree with Chris. I am looking out for American men and women. This is a serious topic the Colombians are overall very honest and good people in my opinion. This is really why we are here, maybe Peter should have a guide if he does not want discussion. Of course one size does not fit all!

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christobeldawg says on Sep 8, 2007, 00:34:

Peter, would you be willing to input here? RFred and I are not out to save the world[in fact, we don't even know each other] but since this issue continues to come up, we would sincerely like to help the sincere US guys and the sincere Colombian gals on this. Not to discredit the introduction agencies, but they are painting a picture for profit. We could be much more caring and objective within some type of format here. I have heard success stories and horror stories, as has most everyone on this site. What could we possibly do to help clarify what might possibly be helpful to genuine people regarding this all important issue?

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timeforachangeofscenery says on Oct 14, 2007, 00:47:

Christobeldawg, there's not really any point to clarifying anything here - and i'm not saying that to be argumentative.

I firmly believe that to be successful in love, you do so without rhyme nor reason. It's those hombres y mamasitas that approach love with a "Plan" and a whole buch of preconceived "rules" that come aground. "She has to earn as much as I do", "He has to want children" - phooey.

Personally, I think that as we grow older, our perceptions change and we grow to want new things. If you married a chica cos she's funny and smart, then chances are, fifty years from now, you're going to die happy with a wife that loves you. If on the other hand, you married her cos her tetas were just PERFECT and you didn't want to share her with any other mo fokk, then in a years time, you're both going to be looking for a change of scenery.

If you want to separate the wheat from the chaff, (the gold diggers from the keepers), you gotta dump the game-plan and go for someone that wants to make you as happy as you make them.

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