A Colombiana that wants to stay and live in Colombia

lpdiver says on Jun 6, 2005, 23:38:

Jeff Take it from me beware those young paisa's. They can crank out a lot of babies real fast...jejeje

Tony

Remember what the monkey says, "Fuck money it's free"

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kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 01:51:

kernow62 says on Jun 7, 2005, 03:55:

Widower, I agree with Kat on this one. Woman #1 sounds like a good woman, but if she does not want to leave Colombia do you think you would want to move with your children to Colombia? If the answer is no then you should look for someone else. It is a big step in life to pick up and move to another country. Children are very adaptable though.

Have you been to Colombia? I don't recall if you have been yet. If you haven't been; I would first go to Colombia, see the country, meet the people. Then when you get back to Canada continue writing to those women that interest you. You might fall in love with Colombia and decide it is for you, just beware that your heart doesn't persuade your brain to act purley on emotion.

If you just want a woman fast, find one in Canada.

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kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 06:02:

WidowerfromCanada says on Jun 7, 2005, 10:04:

I am not moving anywhere folks !!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #1 is not going anywhere and we are just friends...

#2 is not a serious consideration for me.... too young...

I am not moving anywhere!!!!!!!!

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 10:09:

WidowerfromCanada says on Jun 7, 2005, 10:13:

I am not intersted in # 1 now at all I was just trying to convey to folks what is happening...

I have been slowing down and I am no hurry to find someone...

LMAO.... I am not moving anywhere other then to the suburbs of Toronto shortly...

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 10:40:

greenday says on Jun 7, 2005, 11:20:

hey If you're not interested in the 22 year old niece, then I am...hell, get me a pic and her phone #...

BTW: I agree with Elmo...and also stop with the gifts.

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caslug says on Jun 7, 2005, 11:33:

WFC, why don't you.. tell your inlaws that you are NOT looking for serious relationship(too early), BUT you CERTAINLY would like to meet as many girls/women as possible for "friendship" and maybe more. Hopefully then you'll be introduced to girls that are NOT looking something serious. But keep in mind, you're better off to meet women for casual dating in Medellin ON YOUR OWN. Because if you're just fooling around, it's better not to do it with friends/coworkers of the inlaws.

AND meeting women on your own in COL is a snap, reread w/ Elmo said.

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utopiacowboy says on Jun 7, 2005, 11:40:

You shouldn't be giving a chick anything unless you're breaking the bed with her every night. Why don't you cool your heels, check out amigos.com and correspond with some women for a couple of weeks? It will help your Spanish and give you something to do in the meantime. Leave your cousin's family out of it - you're asking for trouble.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 11:54:

kat1 (Moderator) (Trustee board) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 12:01:

WidowerfromCanada says on Jun 7, 2005, 12:28:

My approach now is friends for now and then who knows...

I have not sent any gifts other then the doll for the 26 yr old daughter going into the hospital for surgery... I am a softy on kids and that made me feel good to put a smile on a little girls face..

LMAO Elmo !! Funny stuff...

Utopiacowboy... What do you mean ? Why ? I thought this way might be better .. " Leave your cousin's family out of it - you're asking for trouble"

Greenday... I am still thinking about that one ( 22 yr old )... She is very very beautiful... I am not totally nuts and I am a hot blooded man...hmmmmmmm... Oh oh here comes Desi... ;-)

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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utopiacowboy says on Jun 7, 2005, 14:47:

I think my wife is very wise when it comes to dealing with her family. She keeps her mouth shut and tells them as little as possible. Otherwise they are constantly meddling in your business.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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Lionheart says on Jun 7, 2005, 19:14:

a new idea move to the whole family there, then you got plenty of babysitters and distractions .... don't settle for one, tell them they are all beautiful and you can't decide, and you don't want to hurt anybody. I am sure with your gringo experience and years you can beat all the young dumbass boyfriends at it too.

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adrimm (Moderator) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 7, 2005, 20:51:

Crazy4Cali says on Jun 7, 2005, 21:09:

Well, I, for one... ...admire WFC for sharing his experiences and then taking the volley of pot shots that always follows his posts with good humor. At the very least it makes for interesting reading.

As BrianS and so many others have said, ten cuidado when you go to Colombia in a vulnerable state (I know you say you're not...) but when it comes to ladrones de los corazones those colombianas are the worst. They can steal your heart so quickly you won't know what hit you (and you'll love every minute of it). I, too, thought I was a tough, cynical, divorce-hardened, soul, yet now I'm engaged. And I even had a long list of requirements... I said: "I want this, this, ... and this in woman." thinking, "yeah, right!" Then I met my colombiana and she says "Aquí estoy!" and so it goes.

If you haven't been there, then all this probably sounds too crazy to be true. If you have been there, it probably barely covers the tip of the iceberg. In any case, you've been warned. ¡Espero que tengas un buen viaje!

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lpdiver says on Jun 7, 2005, 21:50:

WFC You play with fire and sooner or later you are going to get burnt.
T

Remember what the monkey says, "Fuck money it's free"

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WidowerfromCanada says on Jun 7, 2005, 23:41:

lpdiver lead me to the fire !!!!!!!!!! ;-)

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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lpdiver says on Jun 8, 2005, 00:16:

my friend I think you are already there.

T

Remember what the monkey says, "Fuck money it's free"

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WidowerfromCanada says on Jun 8, 2005, 00:26:

Crazy4Cali good post....., Yes I am vulnerable in some ways when it comes to women right now...

Heart stolen.... I like the sound of that....

I have never been into the casual relationship and I am going to try to take my time... I will only put Monopoly money on my forehead when I go to Colombia...

I am not desperate... I have been blowing off the 29 yr old doctor who is now chasing me... I am not willing to play games... not interested at all...

After getting stomped on so hard after the Mariachi nightmare ( which never actually took place )... I don’t need that shit...

My priority right now is to learn Spanish... I am going no where fast until I can communicate better with a woman...

I know a lot of people think this is a soap opera but this is my life... Maybe what I am looking for does not exist... who knows ?

I am tired of North American women... sorry but that is the truth...
Okay ladies I am ready for the shots at me... Both my Mother and my Mother in Law support my decision in looking farther a field for a special woman...

I just do not see the qualities in a woman here in Canada that I am looking for... I am a very warm and friendly person... I would give the shirt off my back to help someone and I do sometimes...

I find a lot of women emotionally cold here in Canada... Beautiful yes but that is not the end all and be all... I have 2 small children which are my primary concern and who I love very much .... If I meet or find someone great... If I don’t we will be fine....

This is not a journey I wanted to take... I did not want to be single and a widower... I am though a man and I want to love again..
I am a human being and I am not perfect...

I am not dumb , blind or walking with my eyes closed... I have been around the block and I am a very good judge of character...

I look at UTC , Daver and many other guys here who have been very lucky in Colombia... Maybe there is still gold in them thar hills...

Maybe I am deluding myself but I don’t think so....

Life is to be lived and I am very much alive....

Jeff

Love is like a butterfly , if you chase it you will not catch it but you can hope the butterfly of love lands on your shoulder.

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greenday says on Jun 8, 2005, 03:34:

WFC you are DEFINITELY doing the right thing in going to Medellín in looking for a wife...just take it easy, meet as many woman as possible, don't let age or other factors sway you...take your time!!
You are certainly correct regarding the spanish...so keep studying!!

Good luck my friend!

P.S. in the future just skim over the negative posts regarding your situation...focus on the positive and don't look back...

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webmanco says on Jun 8, 2005, 04:15:

Elmodefoque, GIB I had to desagree with elmodefoque and in another posts with GIB, (Gringos/Colombians and the wicked web they weave ) in the issues regarding the sicologial view (from their point of view) of the reaction of colombian women with someone with looks from North America.

A piece of advice to all foreigners, not all colombian women will kiss your behind just because you are white or flaunt a passport from another country. Some will do it for love, others will do it for need of a better economic situation and because they want kids in a more suitable economic. and a few will do it because you are white an held a passport from another country. Some other will do it just becouse they like to do it no matter where are you from.

Now if modefoque aggres with GIB on the subjet of white´s being god´s send then modefoque must agree with GIB on the matter that latin woman when hanging around with a withe man (especially from north america) will be upgraded to a model status. Not surgery needed. Following that thought then when a latin woman hangs around with a latin man, she will be downgraded to an ugly less desired woman. Especially if you are not ligh skinned.

Personality counts. Otherwise instead of having your behind kissed, it will be kicked.

No hay extremo cierto o verdadero, porque los extremos opacan, enruedan, (lavan cerebros) verdades. Yotas

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oldbongo says on Jun 8, 2005, 10:09:

elmo querido... you are SO RIGHT ON THE MONEY....

how the hell did the fishing go?...

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Rubiazo says on Jun 8, 2005, 20:32:

modefoque lets go to estrato 1 together we will kick ass and take names, like salt and pepa!!
just give me a little while to learn how do dance vallenato properly. It seems pretty close to merengue :PP
Actually i'd be a lot more worried about my novia than the guachos, mainly because she shaves herself with a straight razor and I will be sleeping right next to her.

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adrimm (Moderator) (☼Travelguide writer) says on Jun 8, 2005, 22:02:

utopiacowboy says on Jun 8, 2005, 22:10:

I jumped into three kids lives when they were 9, 13 and 14 and as far as I can tell, we are all the better for it. Not to mention my own kids who were 21, 19, 14 and 13 - I share joint legal and physical custody of the younger two with their mother. It's like going swimming - just jump in hollering "Cannonball!" - the water's fine.

Disclaimer: any comment I make is inane and is not to be taken seriously, and is so patently ridiculous that no one should take it seriously, even as an insult.

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kernow62 says on Jun 9, 2005, 05:34:

UTC, I must be tired UTC, I h I must be tired UTC, I had to re-read your post. I thought it said you share a joint with them. ja ja

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