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cintiamay comments on colombians and bathing....

Ok we get it.... shower sex Jay, that's the 2nd time. My novio has confirmed w/ me that he did not have hot water when he was growing up except for the period when he lived in a more urban area in Armenia. And he does not like hot water for anything. Lukewarm, that's it, so as far as shower sex, doesn't happen cause neither of us agree on the temperature (of the water that is)!!! He is muy caliente though so maybe I should try the cold shower, he'd probably warm it right up...

cintiamay comments on Poll - Getting fat in American?

Guiness = bread
That stuff's so thick I could cut it with a knife.
Getting back to the main topic, my novio hasn't gained any substantial weight since being here, and he's been here a while. He's just very active, plus he's not that old (25) so that helps too of course. We do eat a bit of meat, so I worry about the steroid stuff, try to buy organic almost exclusively, but its expensive... plus he's carnivore, can't cure that. We just do a lot of activities, mountain biking, walking, no excessive tv watching. And no mountains disguised as shopping carts.

cintiamay comments on Some people just ain't got any class

COC??? That is not a band I expected anyone here to mention, let alone know anything about.... wow, impress me already...

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btw, snow does suck... I always shoveled my own snow, but now my novio insists on shoveling, lucky me! He thinks if a man is in the house it looks bad if the woman is outside shoveling. No matter, I make him a good breakfast and certainly express my gratitude ;)

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Great story... makes me very happy to see someone finding their true path.. also makes me long to finally go to Colombia. My boyfriend wants to show me his country, plus he's afraid he'll lose his hair if he stays in the U.S. too long (which would be a crying shame, its beautiful).
My dad is in similar circumstances that you once were GIB, I hope to convince him to come with us. Maybe he'll find what he deserves down there, I don't know... but better than being over-medicated and overweight, which he is. If his fear doesn't get the better of him, maybe he too will find his true path...
Good luck to you !!!

cintiamay comments on Why Men Should Not Marry

Sounds good but doesn't happen like that... my stepmother cried poverty, even though both worked and she made similar income. My dad had a teacher's pension. She "let" him keep it and put it against his half of the house, so she could take it all! Miamimike, what you say sounds so logical, too bad law is anything but... and I'm from NJ not CA...

cintiamay comments on Being in a relationship with English people

Hey I like frog legs.... does that make me a French lover??? Couldn't be, can't stand BO. That's the one U.S. trait I def. have, I love my showers... but so does my paisa novio, he always smells so damn good!
N2Aquatix you are right on the $$$, passionate people need passionate people, sometimes resulting in bad fights but good make-up sex! Clalorena, you seem very romantic, don't waste your time with someone who isn't (or at least doesn't appreciate it). But Lauthra's right too, being direct is good, say what you want. May not be romance-like but makes you happier.

cintiamay comments on Why Men Should Not Marry

Definitely a troll but.. This was def. a bitch session w/ no real relevance to Colombia.

However, even though I am a U.S. woman (since an American can be North, South or Central), I do recognize what s_cambria is saying because he described my stepmother to a T. Funny thing is, I see her as representing what the old generation created in women, which seems to be what the men who hate my generation of women seem to crave. What was so great about the 50's & 60's time that some men seem to long for it? I see it created dependent women who had to marry for convenience or sense of duty or MONEY, because they couldn't support themselves. Nowadays, I don't have to marry to be taken care of. I can do it myself. I choose to marry or be in a relationship because I like or love that person. My stepmother was married to my dad for 18 frickin years, bringing 4 children in from a previous marriage. And my dad was available only because he was widowed. She treated me poorly the whole marriage like Cinderella and was every bit of a selfish, nagging, money hungry bitch as described above. She took more than half my dad's money when she decided to divorce him, took the house I grew up in (and promptly sold it) and remarried for a 3rd time less than 4 yrs later. She needed a man... and she showed me everything I never wanted to be as a woman or a person.
Therefore I don't recognize what is described in this post in myself. Who would want to be married to someone like that? A miserable person who makes others miserable. My stepmother gave me a valuable lesson, how not to behave & live. And my father made sure I would never be a dependent person like her by helping me get educated. Independence didn't foster a negative or selfish outlook for me, it taught me respect for others which I carry into my relationship. And I didn't let my country's media turn me into an asshole. I feel bad that U.S. women have this bad rap, but anyone who acts like above described deserves it!
One more thing, I didn't let my bad experience jade the rest of my life! s_cambria needs to chill and take his own advice, 80+ years on this rock, enjoy it!

cintiamay comments on The joke is on me- help! me with what "american" foods colombianos like

Can speak only for my novio He's paisa from Armenia. His favorite things are salads & soups. He makes both very well. His soups are broth based and usually are with seafood or chicken. His salads are usually mayonaise based with tuna usually and various vegetables and avocado and hard-boiled egg. He also likes typical lettuce & tomato/cucumber salads but with a lemon juice-water-salt topping instead of the usual US dressings. In the winter he could live on just soup & salad with arepas on the side.

I find his tastes to be more simple, a meat & potatoes (or rice) kind of guy. I make him beef & chicken stews, mexican dishes like buritos & quesadillas, chilli with cheese, stir fry vegetables with shrimp, chicken or beef, Italian dishes like lasagna, stuffed shells and plain pasta & sauce. However, the pasta dishes HAVE TO HAVE meat of some kind or he won't eat it (def. not a vegetarian). He doesn't think a meal is complete unless its con carne. Also, for breakfast, he loves eggs w/ tomatos, green peppers, onions & cheese or pancakes or french toast (w/o syrup for some reason). I've learned to always have arepas on hand for most meals, that seems to be a staple along w/ beans & rice.
GOOD LUCK!!!

cintiamay comments on colombians and bathing....

my paisa boyfriend is always telling me the water is too hot, whether washing dishes or taking showers. This would give me some insight into this phenomenon.

cintiamay comments on long hair

Long Hair = Very Nice my Colombian boyfriend has very long hair. Black & shiny and very hot looking. I know his abuela hates it, but since she doesn't see him everyday, it's okay. Desi is right, combined with the scarcity of body hair, it makes for a very nice look, as long as the face is shaved.
Most of his friends also have long hair, but that goes with the music he listens to, not his culture. Sorry this doesn't answer the poster's questions regarding long-haired American men though... whoops...

cintiamay comments on Why are Colombian men so Attractive?

Stralia Although my paisa boyfriend is indeed shorter than me (he's 5' 6" and I'm 5'10") it still works quite well. However, shortness doesn't seem to run amongst his friends who are all as tall or taller than me and all grew up in the same area as him in Armenia. The height thing seems to bother other people around us who stare like we're from Mars, but we don't give a damn. I can't help that my boyfriend has huevos of steel and had no problem approaching me for a date. I think he liked the proximity to my boobs ;)

As far as liking blonde blue-eyed amazon boys, just not my cup of tea! (No offense to any blonde blue-eyed boys now) I've only dated 1 blonde in my life. Tall dark & handsome was always my motto... then I met my novio... such is life.

cintiamay comments on Colombian wins $149,000,000 in New York Mega million Lottery

$149M is more than just a millionaire. My novio said the same thing when I told him. That the guy should not move back. Of course, he could be kidnapped just the same in the US.

cintiamay comments on George Bush will visit Cartagena on Monday

At least he's fluent in 1 language and English isn't it. I wonder what language he thinks in ... oh right, he thinks whatever comes out of his earpiece.

Atrevido, bite your tongue about him being kidnapped (or worse). That would leave us with the ol' Dick C. Who'd have us invading everyone so Haliburton could get the contracts.

cintiamay comments on George Bush will visit Cartagena on Monday

Well of course ColombianoX After all, the US is God's Country. There is no other, so why show such respect to another's national anthem.

cintiamay comments on George Bush will visit Cartagena on Monday

Considering his popularity He needs all the security he can get! And of course he wouldn't want to avoid the problems his visit causes a la Clinton. He'd be dead before he followed Clinton's lead. Don't worry Diego, he's got his hands full with all the other nations in the Middle East to ponder over bombing COL. They're low on the list of future targets (any country w/ oil is on the list though).
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/6557428/
Of course he's ending today back in Texas for a much needed vacation for the holidays... more vacation for Emperor Gringo

cintiamay comments on Tell me about the women to avoid

I have only 1 comment. Would all the guys who spout about fat U.S. chicks please post at least 1 picture of themselves so we can see how svelte and beautiful they are....

cintiamay comments on Street Kids, to give money or not?

Hmmmm.... another American asshole speaks Desi - not american
villdkatta - aren't you Canadian? (I could be wrong)
Point of View - no idea... are u plagued w/ u.s. citizenship?

just nice to see that being called an American is such an insult! But i guess the Swiss hate us as much as the rest of the world... thanks Dubya!!

Oh and to the issue at hand, I believe the glue sniffing issue is rampant as well among European and/or previous Eastern Bloc nations, utilized by young and teenage children, not just in South or Central America. I unbelievably agree with Mr. Nomad Picarron that food is best instead of money. It is impossible to know what will be done w/ money or if it will ever benefit the child its given to. Of course, buying food takes more time, much easier, if you were going to do anything at all, to just empty your pockets of change.

Anyway, Nomad, you should chill out. You seem to have a distinct opinion and pool of experience. But beating everyone up while trying to express it ruins it for you. Then again, you said "i treat this site as a game" so why do you seem to get so mad if someone differs with you?

cintiamay comments on This board is getting to partisan.

As usual Desi (and Utopiacowboy) have good explanations for things.

Diego, in your explanation, your use of generalizations makes sense. My dislike of generalizations concerns the fact that people on the board use them to denigrate and insult others.

btw, my novio would agree with most of what you wrote regarding the type of woman you like. And other than the dark eyes and the good cook, he would probably describe me accordingly. I'm learning to cook though, because I like to feed him... and make him happy.

cintiamay comments on Have you changed your appearance to visit Colombia?

Had to be said Wow, another nice comment about Desi... Gee Desi, Calipro seems to like you a lot too, he mentions you in almost every post he makes. you've made quite an impression with him...

;-]
cintiamay

cintiamay comments on Gringos and Mail Order Brides

Isaac,
Most women around the world would have had their children or decided they didn't want them between the ages of 35-45... That's not an American thing (although 2 women over age 57 here just had kids) If you haven't had any by,um, how old are you, then I guess you would have to find a younger woman to do so. Why didn't you find a Colombiana who was 35-45? Or for that matter, an Americana who was 27? Oh right, because you aren't a "deal" for an American woman but you are for this particular Colombiana. So that when she reaches 35-45 she will have had her kids or decided she didn't want them...

This is a very logical post.

Except for the part about Elmo. I think he's got enough machismo that if he did shoot his balls off, they would just grow back anyway.

Oh and I voted for Kerry and we lost... so can I shoot you???

=)
just kidding isaac!

cintiamay comments on This board is getting to partisan.

hehe Yes Calipro, me & my novio are simply suffering from inferiority complexes, that's why we're together. See, we weren't good enough to catch "one of our own" and we are so sad that the gringos and colombianas are making such beautiful music together without us. We cry about it all the time, while we're screwing usually. Since we both suck in bed, at least we can suck together and not feel soooo bad about it. Thank you for attempting to protect our delicate natures... particularly since we're sooooo undeserving of it.

kisses,
cintiamay

cintiamay comments on Gringos and Mail Order Brides

Immoral Minority DiegoDelNorte,
Thanks for the lesson on my dying culture. I am one of the 48% immoral minority (almost half thank you) who did NOT vote for President Bush. While I can see that the media in my dying country continues to blare ridiculous condescending garbage around the world and the religous right of my dying country continue to obsess about the unborn & gay marriage and supposed family values while supporting an oil-war where our soldiers are helping kill countless people from another country (where's the family value in that), that does not mean (given the 50+ million people who voted for the other guy) we are all like that... I have been reading and reading posts on this site about Colombian women being so wonderful. And I'm am happy that there are women out there perhaps not being confused by their own government and overexposed media outlets about who and what they should be. I myself am one of the apparently dwindling few "gringas" who don't buy that b.s., want to look & feel healthy, work hard, LOVE & CARE FOR SOMEONE SPECIAL, and concern myself with internal growth and not the growth of my bank account. While I haven't been financially able as some of the people on this board to fly to other countries and sample the local people & culture at will, I still yearn to do so when possible and am always looking to learn about other countries values, beliefs, lifestyle etc. because to be uninformed in this imperialistic nation of mine, is to buy into their horseshit and see everyone outside the borders as my enemy.
Whether I understand or not a man's longing to leave this country to seek happiness in a foreign woman is irrelevant. Everyone has their own path to follow and I respect ANYONE who chooses to follow his/her heart or libido to the goal of happiness. What I think is important is to not buoy yourself on your pursuit by expressing UNENDING negative commentary on others in order to "explain yourself".
I came to this site to learn about a culture and a people I was unfamilar with and certainly couldn't learn about through U.S. propaganda. What I didn't expect was to feel like a low class citizen barraged by more generalized PROPOGANDA. Colombian women seem exemplary on their own merits. Can dumping on American women make them shine that much brighter??
Just be secure in your choices and quite generalizing American women to prove your point.

cintiamay comments on Colombian (Latin American): cheat, faithful, etc.?

DiegoDelNorte, I see your distinction. But you are unique in your honesty. I've met only 1 man with similar approach (and he got married last year =)
I never met any man (worth pursuing) that wanted me to be with other men. They wanted me to be faithful, even if they themselves wanted something more "on the side". I've heard that whole, bring a friend, let me watch b.s. too. It seems okay for a man to be w/ 1-2+ women at a time, but, for the most part, if it were a 2nd man, forget it. Because then they would be comparing themselves to them, potential homosexual stuff, blah, blah, blah. As though the same thing would not happen for the woman in the reverse situation. Most men I've met who yearned for additional action on the side, were never as magnanimous with the woman they were in a relationship with. It seems if it feeds the man's fantasies, its fine, but if it feeds his insecurities, its bad.

cintiamay comments on Colombian (Latin American): cheat, faithful, etc.?

Elmo, thanks for defending our honor... I think...

cintiamay comments on Tattoos, Tongue Rings and Body Piercing

Well as someone into that scene (along w/ my novio) that is probably true (though not exclusively). Most Colombian people I've met in that scene do have body art or augmentation (mostly tats) but that probably comes from the music & US influence. As for myself and my man, neither of us are interested in any of these adornments, but we do like to look at it!!

cintiamay comments on what do colombians talk about? elmodefoque needs to know.

Elmodefoque,
I'd love to give you more suggestions since NYC is my area in gringoland (the suggestions here are already good) but I'm too busy changing my undies... you made me piss my pants with that post.

cintiamay comments on Any Experts on Colombian Women?

For the under-represented (but seemingly well defined) minority If I or my novio were to believe all the stuff written in this forum regarding Colombian Men and American Women, then we would definitely be out chasing those wonderful people of the opposite sex in our own country and not bothering with each other. Because I would be an elitist, money hording, parochial, fat & plastic, sexless mop with hairy pits and he would be a penniless, cheating, no-job having mami’s boy chasing after any tail he could find.
Damn, we would suck! =D

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lapiraqua, fellow headbangers that's us.... he does love Iron Maiden. But Slayer is probably his favorite, we're going to see them in November in NYC... m/

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Nope... wasn't us. We were recovering from a great trip to Colorado around that time.

cintiamay comments on American girl dating a Colombian

I'd like to ask how old you are, but that really doesn't matter. What does matter is what kind of person this man is and whether you want to progress the situation to that level sooner rather than later. You're obviously very attracted to him. Not all men equate a quick conquest w/ cheap or easy... but some do. It depends on the person. I've always allowed my feelings to override my brains in just about all my relations. Sometimes that resulted in quick exits (on one or both our parts) and sometimes it was just the start of something greater.

I've only dated 1 Colombian man and he is my current novio. I'll admit that I followed my feelings early on, but I trust my instincts and I felt very strongly about him. The result? I am in one of the best relationships of my life! Many things about him I like because of his background & culture. But mostly the things I like of him are uniquely his... just as a person.

As arqtat said, you are in control, and from your own words you seem to trust him to respect you in that way. I say follow your instincts if you feel they're acurate...

cintiamay comments on My first post: Need help for Dia De Amor y Amistad

hehe... even this gringa figured beso negro out w/o the clean description elmo provided... thanx elmo for gracefully initiating anyone else who was still in the "dark" hehe. And I'm glad to know even you have your limits when it comes to your donkey.

cintiamay comments on which city...

Sticking w/ the pattern Like most of the women here, I met my Colombian novio outside Colombia. He's been in US for several years and is a hard working, hard loving, beautiful soul that I was lucky enough to have cross my path. Like Diane didn't know he was Colombian when we met, it didn't matter to me... but I am enjoying learning about his culture and home.
To all the guys who appreciate the qualities of their colombianas, I understand, as passionate, friendly & gorgeous are words I use to describe my novio too... thankfully, he finds me just as passionate... even though I'm americana;)
Sorry I can't say any further about Cartegena or Barranquilla... just responding to heat...

cintiamay comments on How to land trophy colombian women?

Its nice to see all these pictures of the guys with their ladies. Elmo, your nephew is cute (even fully armed), how bad could you be if you're related?
Shaz & Desi, you prove that there are good looking, approachable, women everywhere, not just in Colombia (no matter what all the guys say).
I posted a silly, casual shot of me & my novio during our usual Saturday nite carousing. His hair is longer and legs are shorter than mine, and let me tell you, that creates all kinds of controversy, esp. when we're approached from behind on the street.
Waxing poetic armpits,
cintia

cintiamay comments on My photo Gallery

Great Pictures... Those are mountains... city looks great even from far away. The paragliding must be insanely cool from that perch. wow! and your fiancee is gorgeous, what's she so worried about? If she's a "fat" paisa, then I better lose some pounds also before I go to Colombia...

Thanks for sharing these!

cintiamay comments on COLOMBIA, JUNGLE AND INDIANS

Tell me about it I'm from New Jersey and we all watch that show like its a train wreck. You just can't take your eyes off no matter how hard you try. But there's people like that in every state in this country. At least this way I can identify who helped vote our president into office.

Between Springer, Baywatch and Friends, its no wonder the world has us all figured out.

cintiamay comments on What COLOMBIANAS want....

thanks for the lessons... I may be a gringA but I'm cute too...

actually, seems so many things in Spanish are taken differently depending where you live, so any insight you give in the Colombian understanding is appreciated. My novio tries to teach me, but I like to surprise him sometimes with new words or phrases I learn...

cintiamay comments on Why are Colombian men so attracted to blonde gringas?

very interesting... my novio did ask me when we first started going out if I ever thought to dye my hair blonde. I'm dark haired with some red highlights... anyway, I did put some blonde streaks in my hair for the summertime, and he went nuts, thought it so attractive, etc., especially with my green eyes. I think the opposites attract idea is very true.
Still, I know for a fact that he likes dark-haired, tan skinned women just as much as a blonde. but it was kinda funny when he asked if I'd dye my hair...

cintiamay comments on My experience with an american man (first part)

Did you have to be in Colombi Nevertheless, I got married in Colombia, fulfilled the requirements for getting the Colombian marriage visa, the requirements for the civil and Catholic weddings, and obtained the K-3 visa which allowed her to come to the United States. All this in about 8 months.
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utopiacowboy, did you have to be in Colombia the entire time to do this?

cintiamay comments on My experience with an american man (first part)

motherof2, thanks so much for your valuable input. I've been wondering (not just me) how marriage would work if done in Colombia rather than US... your response here helps me immensely. Not just gringos want to get married some day...

great story.... continued good luck to you!

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

I broke up with my very first girlfriend (gringa) because she didn't see the utility of me attending university
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Ouch! She couldn't see the purpose for getting higher education? Some people.. Unbelievable...

I'm really wanting to go to this fascinating & beautiful country... I know my colombiano would love to bring me... but I have to improve my Spanish first!

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

Well, these words make me feel better... I was starting to get a complex listening to all the cheating colombiano talk! I've had gringos who cheated and I think its all about the age as well. Mi hombre grew up somewhat as you stated, with split parents and a father who moved on to other younger women. He's young, under 30, and I'm sure that his upbringing (both urban & rural areas) shaped his more enlightened outlook. As with any relationship, only time will tell.

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Many non-Colombian women I know in Colombia would say that the Colombian men they've met are much better in bed than men in their cultures because they are more sensitive, giving, romantic and passionate, and that they are not so obssessed with beer!
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Mine definitely is a great lover... but comparison to others, I'm not gonna go there... but your comment about beer obssession, that had me on the floor!! too funny...

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

Shazcaz, thanks for the welcome. Looking forward to the men's responses regarding your question. As for me, I am trying (really) to view everyone one at a time, as generalizations are so callous (that includes the ones about colombianos and gringos as well) and do nothing but perpetuate myth and stereotype and cause those that give them and receive them less of chance to grow as humans and connect with potential mates/friends because the light inside others is missed.
Believe me, my colombiano could be completely missed and he & I already get strange looks from both sides of the fence (americans & latinos, men & women). This is not because one is pretty or ugly, (I think we are both bonita y guapo, and I'm not being pretentious with that) nor is it necessarily because he's latino & I'm americana. Mostly its because I am tall (5' 9") and he is not as tall =) (probably 5' 6"). You'd think we comitted a mortal sin the way some folks stare at us, like "how does that work" or something. It works very well thank you, and so does he ;) He also has very long hair, longer than mine, which I think is muy guapo and makes him very different than his friends.
Anyway, when any of my friends meet mi amore, they always come away saying how sweet, interesting, cute and well spoken he is. And also a lot of fun. Had I let the the social more that men must be taller than their woman, I would never have given him the 2nd (and 3rd & 4th) look that I did when we first met... thankfully, the stars aligned and my guardian angel kicked my butt and I decided this tall gringa moon child should give the short colombiano with the beautiful eyes, hair and smile a chance. The first time I ever dated a fellow Cancer, which I think is what really makes the difference.

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

Wow… this took a while
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Guess I should have known there would be some unhappy campers out there. These are only personal observation of mine gathered over the last 20 years or so. You can’t make al the people happy all the time. to each their own. i don’t tell anyone how to live their life.
As i have said in other posts i am sure there are gringas with qualities i find desirable, the thing is i wasn't lucky enough to meet any. i had gone out with a number of gringas and at that time i did not possess the experience with latinas thus did not have any reference comparison. I simply like and feel comfortable with the colombian culture, sense of humour, easygoing attitude.
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I can understand your feelings re: liking the Colombian culture, humor & attitude. Since you’ve lived there, you have first hand knowledge for your opinion. Depending on what pool of people in US you were exposed, I’m sure it may have been hard for you to meet that which you seem to admire in the Colombianas. Being a gringa though, I like to think I possess a lot of those same qualities, at least my current man thinks so ;)

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No, actually never had a memorable or bad instance with a gringa, nor am i hateful of them. just shared my perceived differences. will you think me strange if i tell you i don’t find britney spears sexy, physically attractive, or able to sing well? call me old fashioned but another super independent, super successful women by the name of Martha Stewart does not seem feminine either, at least to me. even many of the hollywood starlets that american men salivate over i do not find that attractive. to me many an ordinary colombian girl simply waiting at a bus stop is more attractive.
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Wow… all unmemorable experiences w/ gringas. Damn, where did you live anyway?? And as for Britney & Martha, its truly scary to think that those women might represent the majority of women in the US to foreigners. I am right with you. Britney…. Sorry, but ugh!! Talentless except for publicity, pandering herself like a streetwalker. And Martha, well, success by any means never appealed to me. And after reading in detail her life story (biased as it may be) I don’t think nurturing and compassion are in her genes. If anything is inherent in women as far as I’m concerned, it is those 2 traits. Martha’s scary! The fact that these are the types of role models US women are provided, shows how warped the US can be. Thankfully, not all gringas model themselves after these image-obsessed, uber-selfish types. And as for starlets, the only actress I would salivate over would be Kate Winslet, and she’s British.

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perhaps you may want to visit the country and spend some time and get to know he people and culture better as your sampling pool does not seem to be statistically significant.
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I agree with you, hence I dismissed this as being nothing more than a personal opinion about a select few persons.

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interesting dissertation theory. as far as "cheating" goes, it is really a gastronomy issue, in that some people like to vary the menu now and then and may actually find it psychosocially healthy.
again, to each their own. they don't tell you how to live your life and vice a versa.
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Your cheating theory is also “interesting”. My biggest objection personally to these people I’ve met is they cheat then brag about it to everyone. The loss of respect their friends then have for them, is one thing, but it seems to perpetuate a negative or disrespectful tone for the gender in general, i.e. the guys think they can score with all their friends girlfriends, and treat them accordingly. I could go with the varying menu concept, but not without some sort of mutual respect for the (un)knowing partner.

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There are tons of independent women in colombia, represented in all professions and perhaps the female % in graduate schools/medical/law is even higher than that of the usa. their minister of defense is a woman (donald rumsfeld equivalent) It seems in the usa, attractive girls tend to pursue law/medicine less than in colombia. sofia vergara was a dental student www.sofiavergara.com as one such example. can you honestly say medicine and law in the usa is saturated with beautiful women? my perception and that of other parts of latin america (as i have had this discussion with women of several spanish speaking countries) is that the colombian woman is "una mujer muy completa" that is to say very complete in multiple facets. inner beauty, outer beauty, intelligence, academia, family orientation, maternal devotion, and sexuality. To the "gringos" that do not know colombia, they know not what they are missing nor do they care. perhaps you think i am an aberration due to as you put it, an "uncertain place in American society". perhaps i am simply a person that has "tasted the honey" and knows the difference.

to each their own. to gringos that love gringas and vice aversa i say "god bless" whatever, whomever, individuals are free to navigate their own courses in life.
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Thanks for the information, and I’m sure I never meant that Colombianas are all dependent types. Balance is the key word, and something that anyone should strive to achieve. But its not easy. The question of whether medicine & law in the US is saturated w/ beautiful women… well, I don’t know vast amounts of professional lawyers & doctors enough to decide that, but I would guess not. And that certainly reflects back upon the role models and general society of the US (at least as the media provides). The general feeling here is if you look like Britney, you’ll never be taken seriously (blondes are smart??? what a concept, thanks Jessica, another one who uses her bubblehead act and supposed lack of sexual experience as a marketing tool)

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short of a gringo feeling alienated in his native society, why would a guy feel their place in American society is uncertain?
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Wow! Okay maybe that’s just the media I’m regurgitating, but my whole life I’ve heard how men here don’t know what their place is with women now that their roles have become more similar (i.e. women being independent, having good jobs, waiting to get married/have kids, etc.). The media, when they’re in this mode, like to portray independent women as not needing men and relegating men to minor status. I’m not saying I believe this in any way, but I do think that the evening of the playing field w/ jobs, education and earning potential has made things a bit confusing for many people these last 20 or so years. Perhaps that contributes to the thought that gringas are less feminine.

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I most certainly do not feel all/most non-gringas are more feminine, however it is my Irrevocable first hand experience that colombianas are overwhelmingly more feminine.
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In summation, I think there are many reasons you feel the way you do about gringas lack of femininity, and they’re not all off base. But I definitely don’t think it applies to a majority of gringas… well, it definitely doesn’t apply to me anyway!

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CintiaMay, are you latina? as you spell your name the latin way instead of Cynthia
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Btw, no, I’m not Latina. I spell my handle the way my colombiano spells and pronounces my name. I’m actually a typical US mutt, parts French, Norwegian, Irish, German and Native American.

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

Wow, so many new posts... and I still have to respond to gringopingo... he makes many good points to my post and I think I agree with much...
but I wanted to respond to your post about falling for a colombiano. I am having the most fun with my colombian man. i have been seeing him for almost 4 months and we enjoy each other immensely. Of course, I am lucky, lucky, lucky, because we are both here in US. So its easy to see each other, we live only 1/2 hour away, which is how we met to begin with.
I feel for all of you who are trying this all long distance. It seems so incredibly difficult to do so not to mention the patience factor. I worry myself how we would go about anything if we ever got serious. But I'm not thinking about it now.... way too soon.
Anyway, you seem to really care for your man, but his drawbacks do seem plentiful. Is this really how colombianos are in their own country? Mine here works very hard, lives on his own (a small, small place, but his all the same), and at current, is NOT a jealous or cheating type. And very communicative, he seems adamant that its the only way relations will work. Again, since we are so close to each other and early in, cheating is not a prob... but I really feel its him, cuz his friends do cheat... birds of a feather...? I hope not...
Good luck with yours ntmi... I agree, mine is also extremely sexy, but don't let that sway you into accepting some of the frustrating habits you mentioned.

cintiamay comments on Good Colombian Restaurants/Clubs in NYC?

Elizabeth & Queens Absolutely. I only recently had my first taste of Colombian food, in Elizabeth. Outstanding & inexpensive! Nothing like Mexican food or the typical "Americanized" spanish food. Most of the places I have been have been small places, restaurants, bakeries. I could ask mi amore what he thinks are the best here.

cintiamay comments on Are colombianas faithful to their mate?

my limited experience with this is.... yeah, mostly what everyone above says. The men & women cheat on each other. I am not sure about married colombians, just the 20 somethings I've met. But really I find it no different than the americans I know in the same age group. It depends on the caliber of the person really. I have been dating a sweet colombian man for months and have never been happier than I am with him. but I believe that is all about his value as a person, however, his friends and their girlfriends seem intent on cheating on each other. And his friends have very pretty girlfriends, doesn't matter. He also is not a typical latino as has been discussed here, very much a man but not into the colombiano/machismo crap. Not overtly jealous, very respectful and I treat him the same.
You just really need to know ur partner, there's gems out there waiting to be found. all you need is patience, a good eye and a good attitude.

cintiamay comments on my long lost love in Medellin Help!

Walks & Talks like a Woman very interesting... too bad you paint all gringas w/ one big ugly brush. Did you have a bad instance with a gringa while growing up? I mean you sound very hateful about them. The few Colombianitas I have met (note few) I admit are very beautiful, however, I also found them whiny, clingy and immature. Very annoying, and these girls did not grow up in the states btw. Rather than deciding that this is representative of all Colombian women, I decided it only tells me the type and character of their Colombian boyfriends, who I know cheat on them (and vice versa). They must like this type of "feminine" girl, and these girls just happen to be Colombian. I would never make a decision about an entire country's gender based on these few ladies I've met.
Considering I am a gringa, perhaps I'm biased, but I know plenty of american born gals who embody "intelligent, kind, sweet, personable, passionate, extraordinarily sexy, attitude free, unpretentious", et. al. But they are also independent people with minds of their own. If you view independence as manly, well that's a very sad point of view. Maybe the idea of foreign women being more "feminine" by gringos has to do with their own uncertain place in American society and nothing to do with the women.
Either way, the opinion is yours, so stick with it if you must.